New Series: From the Desk of a Single Mom…

This is the first in this series that has been swarming around in my head for sometime now; I didn’t really know what my approach was going to be.

Being a single mom isn’t something you can just turn on or off. You can’t pray it away; you can’t lock it up and go back for it years later! This is constant, consistent and never ending.

Some people seem to think that it’s a simple task; but, it’s not! You always hear people saying “put it on your to-do list” “command your day”; blah! Blah! Blah! Single moms? Does any of that stuff work? Consistently?

Kids will stick a wrench and smack the hammer down on your little to-do list and your command your day mindset; lol they will crumble it to pieces!

One of my boys is the BOSS at getting mommy off-track! I try my best to start the morning off right; got my daily schedule. Get up to get all my stuff in order and when it is time for him to get ready it should be smooth sailing!

Well no; he has a new attitude every day! He doesn’t want to wear that, those socks don’t match with the pants, his shoes are touching his pants; omg it just amazes me the stuff he comes up with!

And all the while the clock is ticking away and he is bound to miss his bus; and guess what? I have to drive him to school if he misses that bus! Did I add that to my list? No, because it’s not my normal routine! I didn’t add that in my command your day priorities!

But, you know what I had to get my mind all the way right! I had to find a way to deal with this and not let it ruin the rest of my day! We as people tend to get off track when our normal routine gets messed up; our whole attitude changes! We take it out on our kids and others around us; when it’s a simple fix! Shift your mindset and your thinking! I know he is going to do this every single morning; lol and I’m ready for him! If he misses his bus; I happily drive him to school, because I prepared for it!

Many times, our kids just want our attention! They want that one on one time; and we have to carve out that time and give it to them.

This video was from this week. I couldn’t let the morning get the best of me; I had to shift my thinking! Yes it got off track. I wasn’t able to fix my lunch for the day, I forgot to make my smoothie, I woke up with a migraine/sinus headache and my son had missed his bus! But I got my mind right! I put a smile on my face! I grabbed some veggies out the fridge, took my son to school, stopped to get a smoothie and made my way to work; all with a smile on my face!

It’s all in our thinking and how our mindset is! If you think defeat; you will be defeated! If you think failure; you will fail! I don’t know about you; but I’m looking to win! Every single morning that I am blessed to wake up and be able to be the best mom that I can be to my kids; is a win in my book!

Look out there is more to come in this series…..

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Kingdom Gals: Becoming a Kingdom Woman

BECOMING A KINGDOM WOMAN: Part One, Your Value. Written by Raquel L. McClenehan

Take a hundred dollar bill.  Walk on it. Crumple it. Sneeze on it. Spit on it. Tear it in two…it never loses its value and neither do you!

Let’s revisit the origin of our Divine Design (Genesis 2: 21-25) and we rediscover just how wonderful it is to be a woman.

Throughout the ages women have been described in many ways.  Some of the more positive terms are: Adam’s Rib, The Better Half, The Weaker Sex.

But here’s one rarely mentioned in the context of power and strength, ezer kenegdo!

You may recall it as help meet in Genesis 2:18. But perhaps have never appreciated it in its full symbolic meaning. It’s a rare word used only when God wants to display unusual power. No wonder that in some bible camps it is controversial to relate it women.

I wonder why?

For years bible preachers and teachers have assigned Eve’s role as essentially negative or at best a sort of assistant or subordinate worker to Adam.

Yes, the Sistah messed up but the truth is that she was co-regent in Eden, important, valued, and of equal importance and essence!

She was Adam’s Completer, one who enabled him to be the leader God ordained to rule His kingdom!

Sin entered the world when they BOTH failed to realize their value!

Praise God for His amazing grace!  Humankind and his authority has been restored through Jesus Christ (Romans 5:17).

His kingdom is not the Garden of Eden now but the entire world! Like mannequins in a store window our assignment is to live a life so attractive that we draw others into God’s kingdom of righteousness and grace.

Sounds intimidating doesn’t it?  Like walking all day in four inch heels, Chrystal says.  But with the right designer and the right material it is not only doable but comfortable!

So come on Kingdom woman-in-the-making embrace your inner royalty.  Command the respect God has accorded you by accepting who you are and loving it in all its uniqueness.

Do not allow anyone to demean you or make you feel inferior.  You are chosen, regal and a priestess of the Most High! (I Peter 2:9)

You are still needed and have a role and place to fulfill but can’t do it with heads bowed down in shame….if we must bow our heads let’s do so in prayer but then raise them up again in the spirit of an Ezer kenegdo woman.

A woman with value and strength on display!

2017 Copyrighted Material Raquel L McClenehan Used With Permission for Kingdom Gals Series (Tamara McCarthy Enterprises)

Raquel L. McClenehan was born on April 2, 1983, in the Bronx, New York. She truly and authentically has a heart and passion for empowering, encouraging and inspiring young ladies and women to fulfill their God given purpose.

Be Strong & Courageous! #SpiritualSundays

Happy Sunday….

“Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong”.. 1 Corinthians 16:13

This scripture when read depending on who you are can be interpreted various ways! But it will give the same results!

No Matter What you’re doing or who you are; stand strong! Don’t you grow weary! Don’t you give up! Keep moving forward!

I know this is easier said than done; I completely understand. Being a single mom let me tell you I have my days! I have to encourage myself on a daily basis! I have to motivate myself on a daily basis! I read the word to get inspired; to get my Empowerment!

This scripture made my day; heck my whole week! Our Heavenly Father knows what we will face before we will! He wants us to make it! He wants us to be joyful at all times!

The battle isn’t ours; it’s His! Whatever your struggle is Be Strong, Be Courageous, Armor Up and don’t be defeated! We Got this…

Have an amazing week!!

2017 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

A House Divided: written by Tarsha L. Campbell #SpiritualSundays


One of the greatest strategies of the enemy is to divide and conquer. Satan uses this tactic on many home fronts. He uses it in families, in businesses, in churches, in ministries, etc. The enemy knows if he can cause any entity to walk in division, he can infiltrate and overthrow it.

This stands true when it comes to you as an individual. You are the temple and house of God. You are a tri-part being, comprise of spirit, soul, and body. The enemy knows if he can get you in conflict within yourself, and in conflict with God’s will for your life, he can misalign you from your purpose and destiny. Satan is searching for opportunities to spoil your inner peace and disrupt the unity between you and God. He wants to divide and conquer by causing you to walk in confusion, fear, intimidation, and waver in constant unbelief when it comes to the promises of God concerning your life.

This month’s Next Step Coaching For Success comes to admonish you not to be ignorant of Satan’s devices lest he gains the advantage over you (II Corinthians 2:11). Be conscious of the schemes and plots of the enemy. Don’t let the evil one cause division among your members and misalign you from God’s purpose. Be determined to stay single-minded and focused on the plan of God for your life. Especially if you are in leadership, because others are following your lead.


Your Next Step Coaching For Success Minute:


  • Identify the parts of you that are in constant conflict
  • What are the root causes of the conflict?
  • Seek God for grace to overcome and to remain undivided in your members


© Tarsha L. Campbell, All Rights Reserved, Use only with permission



Set the example; so others will follow…The Single Woman Chronicles…

What example are you setting? Do you have eyes on you? The Single Woman Chronicles God: Men & You is my personal journey of relationships with grown boys who attempted to play the role of grown men. I wasn’t complete! I didn’t love myself and I didn’t know my worth! Can you relate to that?

The Proverbs 31 scripture sets the tone; it gives an example in true form to the woman we should strive to be. When you arise do your children observe you? Do they wonder where you go; do they ask what you do? So many of us as moms go to the extreme to please a man but what are you doing for your kids? How do you go out of your way for them? 

Can you honestly say you would give up dating the wrong type of guys to work on yourself and be there for your children 100%? I can honestly tell you yes I can and I have! I don’t date because there are so many grown boys appearing to be men but then the mask comes off; I no longer have the time or mind frame to deal with them. My kids and building upon my purpose means so much more! What about you?

The Single Woman Chronicles is still available for pre-order!!!