I’m writing this here article going into 10 years being single!! Now that’s 10 years Single of not being in a relationship but I have always been single because I was never married. Does that even make any sense? It does but many may not understand the process; so let’s start here. In the word of the Lord; the Bible it tells of the very first relationship between man and woman. Adam and Eve; y’all now the story right? Adam was all fine and working and didn’t have a help-meet to come home to; so like how God always does, he showed up and showed out and created Eve out of Adam’s rib! (Somebody should be shouting right about now) Our Heavenly Father put Adam to sleep and took a rib and created Eve (fully formed) out of that one rib! Adam awoke and saw Eve and it was on and popping; they was married y’all! Like instantly; it wasn’t no dragged out courtship, no playing of games, no messing with nobody mind and wasting nobody time! God saw Adam was ready so he stepped in and made it happen and the rest is history! (Genesis 2:8-25)
Now fast forward to recent times; what a chick gots to do to get a proposal a little ring/ring on that ring finger? Shoot nowadays you tell these Grown boys you waiting to be married; until you go sleeping with anybody; they will look at you like you crazy and will most likely curse you out! The nerve right; why can’t we have standards, why can’t we respect ourselves and love ourselves? Is there something really wrong with wanting to live without a sexually transmitted disease; and just pray that there are still some really decent guys out there; who can appreciate your wait and your morals?
Okay so let’s be honest many of us have kids right? So we weren’t always trying to live right but; when we did make that decision and choose to live better and seek better, why are we hit with so many challenges of being chosen? As a woman; we aren’t to be on the prowl; or are we? Check out Proverbs 18:22/Proverbs 31:10 and meditate on those and then answer this question!
What do we do ladies? So many of us have done our work! We have freed ourselves of all the excessive baggage from previous relationships, our childhood issues that tried to take us out, our absent daddy issues, our low self-esteem, our lack of being loved and now we have to wait for Prince Charming to get his act together! (Psalm 37:23-24/Ephesians 4:17-24)
Do you want to be tied to confusion, mistrust, dishonesty, lying, cheating, lustful, abusive, angry, lost and confused piece of a person? I know I don’t; because that doesn’t get me anywhere but back to where I started and; I refuse to backtrackand restart my healing process all over again! When you re-open that door; you not only are saying you don’t believe you deserve the best, but you are giving the enemy access to you once again! And we all know what he comes to do! (John 10:10)
When you’re in the waiting stage you want to be pursuing your dreams,hopes, goals, your purpose and your passion but you don’t want to be so busy; that you can’t appreciate where you are and how far you have come! Your prayer game needs to be tight and on lock! Are you praying for your future husband; while your waiting? Are you praying for your future wife; while your seeking, searching and scoping her out? How and what are you praying; that will make a big difference in how the process goes and what will be the outcome!
Guys, I feel I should start with you first because you are the one that has to make the choice! Who are you choosing? I know we all want the desires of our heart; I get all that, but for where some of y’all are going are you choosing the right help-meet? Do you honestly know what a help-meet is and what it looks like when she comes on the scene? (Re-read the story of Adam and Eve, check out what a Proverbs 31 woman looks and acts like) Some of y’all out here searching for arm candy! (Can I get a witness?) Chicks that can’t help you reach your next level and you wondering why you stuck? You want the favor that only Our Heavenly Father can give but I believe that you have to choose wisely! (Touch your neighbor and say “choose wisely“) Bonus scripture to read as well (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Ladies, now remember I said that we have to be chosen; right? (Did you read the previous scriptures where it states the husband finds the wife?) I’m going to try to tread lightly here but it may get a little deep for some; and I may lose some of y’all but that’s cool! Who are you trying to be found by? Are you what you are waiting for? Are you the one? Everyone wants to be the “Proverbs 31” wife but have you read the scripture to know what that means? Are you able to; do you have the ability to be submissive? (Ephesians 5: 22-24) Let’s try this out and see what happens; how should we as potential prospects be clothed? Read 1 Timothy 2:9 and let that sink in; can you be submissive to God and follow thatmandate?
I don’t know about y’all but I am waiting for the best #futurehusband that Our Heavenly Father can groom into the man “he needs him” to be and the husband “he has to be” for me! Grown Boys this isn’t your category until you “level-up” and stop playing games and get on point and do your work; and allow Our Heavenly Father to do his part in your life!
I could write about this all day but I will end with this; are you practicing abstinence or celibacy? Need more information to go on? Read 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 and 1 Corinthians 7:1-9 and meditate on those words! Let them sink in ladies and guys and then you can truly and honestly answer the question: Are You The One? (Touch your neighbor and ask them: did she teach? Did you learn anything?) Now let the church say: Amen!
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