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It’s Just the Beginning: #Spiritual Sunday’s

Job 13:15-18 The Message (MSG)

“So hold your tongue while I have my say, then I’ll take whatever I have coming to me.

Why do I go out on a limb like this and take my life in my hands? Because even if he killed me, I’d keep on hoping. I’d defend my innocence to the very end.

Just wait, this is going to work out for the best—my salvation! If I were guilt-stricken do you think I’d be doing this—laying myself on the line before God?

You’d better pay attention to what I’m telling you, listen carefully with both ears. Now that I’ve laid out my defense, I’m sure that I’ll be acquitted.” (MSG)

When you read through the chapters of the book of Job you find out that Job was taken through the fire!! He lost a lot! He friends believed he did something wrong and even his wife doubted him!! But through it all Job kept his Faith in God and his blessings were multiplied!! He got double for his trouble…Why would your situation or mine be any different? Shouldn’t we have to go through the fire as well?

Could it be the very struggles your dealing with is because the enemy thinks you’re too laid back and wants to ruffle your feathers?

Sometimes you have to be crushed; in order to rebuild…..to refocus…to re-adjust!! If everything is going well in your life.. then what do you need God for? What do you need Faith for? Some of us need to be reminded of who and what got us to the heights we have reached! The tables we have sat at! The places we have been!

Crushing shouldn’t always be viewed as the end of something; but the beginning of something that is going to change the outlook and the pinnacle of your life.

Pinnacle:

1. a lofty peak.

2. the highest or culminating point, as of success, power, fame, etc.: the pinnacle of one’s career.

3. any pointed, towering part or formation, as of rock. Dictionary.com

You want your life to be transformed!! That requires Crushing to take place!!

Everything that no longer serves you: needs to be crushed….the season that you’re walking into and the greatness that God is about to allow to unfold in your life; can’t happen unless there is Crushing of old habits, old mindsets, old reactions, old relationships, they all need to be Crushed!!

Let’s look at it like this; what’s one of the hardest moments in your life? Most of us will have multiple moments buts let’s focus on just one for now. What happened? At what point in your life did it happen? Who came to your rescue? Did you survive?

Every crushing moment isn’t meant to kill you-it may feel like something has died or been removed from your life; but are you still opening your eyes every morning? Are you still getting up and standing on your own two feet? Are you able to walk to the mirror and your reflection is staring back at you? If you answered yes to all these questions then you Sir, You Maam have been granted a new lease on life! What are you going to do with it?

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

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Are You Fit For The Kingdom? #spiritualsundays

Mark 8:34

“Then he called the crowd to him along with his disciples and said: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.” NIV

Have you denied yourself today? Have you taken up your cross and followed Him; on the daily? This has to be done on a daily basis!! We can’t pick it up one day and put it down the next! We can’t deny ourselves today and not do it tomorrow! Okay, yes we are human but we as a follower of Christ; have to learn how to do better! One day do this and the next day; do more so it gets a little better until it becomes a habit! Pray today for 5 minutes and do that continually for a week and then the following week; move up to 10 minutes.

If something in your life is requiring some attention and you’re just praying about it; and you’re not getting the required results! Then prayer and fasting should be the next step; but guess what you will have to deny yourself! You can’t say that food is more important than your prayers being answered! Is fried food going to disappear tomorrow? Is ice cream going to be extinct; next week? You don’t have to do a 21 day fast to get results; you can do 7 days and still get your answers, clarity, direction, knowledge and understanding!

But are you equipped to handle it? You have to get in the habit of denying yourself! You can’t just jump out one day and do it cold turkey and expect it to work! Build yourself up to it! The disciples had to be trained and conditioned and we have to be that as well!

Being a follower of Christ doesn’t happen overnight! Yes you can make the decision to be His follower; but you have to learn how to continually walk with him; while everything else is being thrown at you. People talking about you; how did Jesus respond! People lying on you; how did Jesus respond? People attempting to sabotage you and try to get you off track; how did Jesus respond?

Get in your Bible!! Get your mind focused on what His word says; you will be equipped and ready for battle! “You’re never going to amount to anything; nobody wants you”. I’m blessed and highly favored! “You’re not going to be able to afford that; you just need to stay where you’re at.” “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:19)

“Since you been going to that church you been acting like you better than somebody”; “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Do you want to be a disciple? Are you ready and willing to follow Him? Do you have the ability to pick up your cross; lay down your fleshly desires and walk with Him?

The disciples left their homes, their families, their livelihood, their hopes and dreams, their selfishness and walked with Jesus!! But guess what they got so much more than anything they could’ve thought of or imagined! What God has for us; is always going to be bigger than what YOU see; what YOU can touch…But you’ll have to give it all up to walk with Him. What you get in return will change YOUR LIFE…

Are You Fit for the KINGDOM OF GOD?

All scripture referenced can be found at

http://www.biblegateway.com

Written/ published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

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#KingdomGals: Speak Your Truth

Who are you? Who are you becoming? Many of us women may be walking around still finding ourselves; not all of us have it completely together. 

Now is that a bad thing? Not entirely! Are you working on your issues? See; none of us are perfect! But we want to be working on becoming better! Right? Why do we want to stay stuck? Or boxed in? As women that are seeking a close relationship with God; we want to be transformed into the woman that can walk upright and become whole.

 

Becoming whole is knowing who we are in Christ and beginning to walk into it and stay focused on staying in close proximity. In doing this; we will have to look within and begin to sort out past issues and work through each one. In working through our past issues; we are clearing our path into future happiness! Who wants to be happy and free from past trials and tribulations? Our future shouldn’t have to sustain our past; it’s time to clear the way for God to work! Give Him room to bless you! 

 

The Bible is a great tool for us to begin/continue to read; so, we can not only get encouragement, motivation, inspiration, empowerment, knowledge and understanding; but we will also gain insight into the foundation that has been laid out for us to follow! 

There are endless stories for us as women to read such as Adam & Eve, Naomi, Ruth & Boaz, Lot’s wife, Sarah & Abraham, Hagar, Tamar, Mary & Joseph, Mary & Martha; etc. 

 

Let me tell you Who I Am: I am a Single Woman that LOVES God and believes in HIS WORD! 

Have you believed in something so much until it hurt? That is my dilemma right now; this very moment! I believe what the word of God says! I believe that God wants His children to prosper! I believe that God wants His children to live in abundance! I believe that God wants His children to live a life filled with love!

 

So, you may be asking; okay if you believe all of that; then what is your dilemma? None of this comes easy! The enemy isn’t going to allow any of us to just walk into God’s best for our lives! He started out with his foolishness in the Book of Genesis with Adam & Eve; the very first couple; why would we be any different? He went after Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ; why would we be exempt? When you choose to walk with God; it’s not going to be an easy journey especially if you are in it for the long haul! It’s a fact that some fall away from walking with God; the crushing, the trials, the tribulations are for some; too much to bear so they retreat back into enemy territory. And then there are some of us that still dip back and forth and haven’t really made up our mind that we are really going to serve God; so, we get the best of both worlds; or so we think! But then there are those of us that don’t mind going through the flames because we know when we walk out ain’t no way that God allowed those flames to touch us, but we have to go through the experience to know HE got US!!  

 

Can I be honest with y’all? I haven’t always been all in for God! I haven’t always believed in His word! I haven’t always read His word! I would’ve never thought I would be this woman that is now speaking to you today! I had allowed the wrong people speak into my life and I believed what they said to be true and let me tell you it wasn’t anything good either! The enemy came at me early in life and he sent people my way to tear me down and break me down; each and every time that he got an opportunity! And you know what? I allowed it because I didn’t know who I was; and whose I was! I had allowed so much destruction and distractions in my life that pulled me so far away from any good that God tried to bring my way; I was so used to negativity I wouldn’t even recognize anything/anyone good if it slapped me upside my head! But God; when He wants to get your attention; He will stop at nothing! And I am so glad that He never stopped trying to reach me; it’s only because of Him and His love for me; that I am still here. 

 

It was at times a tug of war; God pulling me into the light and the enemy pulling me back into the darkness; but if you’re a follower and believer of God and HIS word then you should know; that  LOVE conquers all and God wasn’t giving up without a fight and guess what! The enemy had already been defeated; so, the battle was already won; I just had to grab hold of it and hold on for dear life and guess what I am never letting go and neither should you! No matter how it looks. No matter how it feels. Trust and Believe that GOD; is working it all out for your good!!

“Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, if you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” John 8:31-32

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

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Father’s Day Inspired: #SpiritualSundays

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God”. Romans 12:2 (NKJV)

Why do we continue to push things under the rug? Where are the perfect father’s? Does every boy/man that impregnates a woman stick around and take care of their full responsibility? Children don’t care about their parent being perfect; they just want your presence in their life!

Social media has allowed people to become more vocal about many things they know nothing about and don’t care to hear the other side of! Everyone has their say so and they don’t want to hear your opinion on it or care about your feelings! When did we become such an heartless society?

Every child in this world doesn’t have both parents that are physically/mentally/emotionally/financially in their lives! That’s a proven fact! When holidays roll around like Mother’s and Father’s Day people just assume that it’s all good and just want you to go with the flow; not going to happen.

It’s always fine to bash women and not the men; I never got this and probably never will. We are given a choice clearly; but, does anyone really make the right choice?

It’s no secret that men will sleep with anyone and when they do that; babies can/will be produced; is it the women’s fault? Should she be left to raise, protect, guide, discipline, comfort, nurture; etc all on her own? Is that biblical? Even Hagar got some assistance in the raising up of her child!

While there are many great father’s out there in this world! There are even more sperm donors who have skipped out on their responsibility of being a man/father and following what the Bible says in Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord”. (NIV)

Where in that scripture does it speak on women/mothers? Father’s are necessary and a requirement in their children’s’ lives!! But when there is a lack; women have no choice but to step in/step up and handle what they weren’t built for; but are willing and able to do!

Society has taking a stand on not allowing single mothers their due diligence even though they are a stand in to the absence of a male figure in their child(ren) lives! They are quick to tell individuals that give honor to single moms on a day designed for fathers; that it’s not for them to celebrate! But then fail to offer any ample solutions to aid them in what’s lacking in their son’s or daughter’s lives! How can you outwardly disregard something you obviously know nothing about; but show up to speak on?

No matter what the world says; children need both of their parents!! Women all over the world step into a role they clearly know nothing about; but have been placed in the position to figure it out as they go along. Yes, today was designed for the men who have followed the instructions from the book of Ephesians but can we not turn a blind eye to all the countless children growing up not ever knowing the love from their earthly father! Can you think on that for just a moment? Do you remember what the book of Corinthians says about love? 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 to be exact! They will never get this! Can you imagine not feeling the love of someone who aided in your being alive? Just think about that? What if God turned His back on you; how would you feel?

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

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#KingdomGals: Speak Your Truth!

Who are you? Who are you becoming? Many of us women may be walking around still finding ourselves; not all of us have it completely together.

Now is that a bad thing? Not entirely! Are you working on your issues? See; none of us are perfect! But, we want to be working on becoming better! Right? Why do we want to stay stuck? Or boxed in? As women that are seeking a close relationship with God; we want to be transformed into the woman that can walk upright and become whole.

Becoming whole is knowing who we are in Christ and beginning to walk into it and stay focused on staying in close proximity.

In doing this; we will have to look within and begin to sort out past issues and work through each one. In working through our past issues; we are clearing our path into future happiness! Who wants to be happy and free from past trials and tribulations? Our future shouldn’t have to sustain our past; it’s time to clear the way for God to work! Give Him room to bless you!

The Bible is a great tool for us to begin/continue to read; so we can not only get encouragement, motivation, inspiration, empowerment, knowledge and understanding; but we will also gain insight into the foundation that has been laid out for us to follow!

There are endless stories for us as women to read such as Adam & Eve, Ruth, Naomi & Boaz, Lot’s wife, Sarah & Abraham, Hagar, Tamar, Mary & Joseph, Mary & Martha; etc.

These stories are going to give us insight into how we should/shouldn’t handle ourselves as wives, sisters, friends, mothers; etc. For instance, when we read about Eve, we find out that in order to be blessed and stay in right standing with God; we have to submit to our husbands! Don’t you think if Eve listened to the instructions of her husband/and obeyed God; she would’ve lived a much better life? Don’t you think they would’ve still been in the Garden of Eden?

We also want to surround ourselves with other like-minded women that are on similar paths! She needs to be working towards reaching the goal on becoming whole! Yes we can inspire others along the way but if you have those that are constantly pulling you down to their level; it’s time to part ways.

We all won’t be on the same level but you want to be able to still advance without distractions from those that should be cheering you on and pulling you up as they pull themselves up!

Can I be honest with you? I haven’t always had it all together! Everything that God has blessed me to be able to do; at first I didn’t want to do any of this! Tell my stories; share of my losses, admit I did things wrong, look within and tell of me being a fool for so long; etc. I can go on for days!

But guess what? I wanted more for my life! I wanted to be made whole and that required work from me! I had to look at all my past issues and failures and deal with each one! I had to allow God to begin a new work in me and allow Him to fix whatever was broken and then I had to be obedient to the call and assignments; He placed before me. Was it easy? Heck No! But guess what? It has all been worth it!

I am not the same person! I don’t ever want to be her again! I love the new me! The one that God created me to be; I just had to get in right standing with me and allow Him to pour into me.

This is my truth! What is yours?

“Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” John 8:31-32

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

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#SpiritualSundays: Don’t Be Like This World..

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2 (NIV)

We aren’t to act like the world! How they act isn’t how we (Christians) should act!! When we give our lives back to God; we are to become a new creation! You shouldn’t be acting or doing things your “old self” was doing. We aren’t perfect! Never will be; but you want to follow the example that has been clearly laid out in the Bible for all of us.

You want to carry yourself differently; if you are used to fighting and having constant strife with folks. That has to change! The Bible tells us to turn the other cheek! It tells us to forgive and be forgiven!! You can’t expect to receive from God if you aren’t following His lead! We are instructed time after time; to be obedient. How can you lead if you don’t know how to follow?

We have to show others the way! How can we accomplish that; if we are walking down the same path that they are? Doing the same things that they are? Speaking the same way they are? Living our lives the same way; that they are?

We can’t fold to the ways of this world!! Jesus came so that we can have life! And have it more abundantly! We should be walking like we know and receive that!! He came to take the place of us for our sins! We should be turning away from all we’ve been doing and living a more free life! Free from the snares of the enemy!! The attacks won’t cease; but the hold he has over you will be released! You can’t walk away from something/someone that you are still in partnership with!! Break Free and renew your mind! Your soul! Your spirit! Your body! Receive God’s will for your life and go forth and show others the way…

Scripture reference can be viewed on http://www.biblegateway.com

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

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Finding Your Identity…..Who Are You? #SpiritualSundays

How many of us go through life not fully knowing who we are?

Some of you will think to yourself: I know who I am; but, do you really?

When you know who you are; you don’t allow others to mistreat you! You don’t allow others to abuse you! You don’t allow others to use you!

Many of us think we need others to confirm who we are. Then we will start to believe it for ourselves. Why can’t we simple just believe in ourselves? Why do we need another person’s validation? What happens when that person comes along and does more harm than good?

Many of us weren’t taught at an early age; who we were and what we should stand for. So many of us grew up lost and it continued into adulthood. When we had kids we still didn’t fully know who we were and we continued the cycle!

I’m constantly reminding myself of this scripture:

“Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV)

As a parent, we should be continually speaking life into our kids! Praising them when they do good! Giving them high fives and fist bumps! If we don’t; who else will?

We even need to let them know when they are out of line! Just because they are doing something right; it doesn’t mean they won’t be wrong sometimes! Pull them aside and let them know; but in love! Don’t tear them down and don’t belittle them!

Did our parents miss these important steps in our growing up? Is this why so many adults are so out of focus? Is this why so many are walking around acting and sounding dysfunctional? And just don’t know who they are? Really know who they are? Society will suck you into their dysfunction and have you playing a role far from who God called you to be!

Who has God called you to be?

Have you figured it out yet?

Are you walking in your purpose or running away from it?

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

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