Kingdom Gals: Are You Your Sister’s Keeper?

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I was scheduled to write on a different subject today but; this subject was heavy on my heart. I am just a push over for women no matter the race or background; to be on one accord! And when it appears that we’re starting to slip back into old territoryI can’t be one of those that just sit on the sidelines and let it go down!

Does anyone really know what the meaning of sisterhood is? Does anyone really care? Some of us use it to our advantage when we have events or something going on in our lives; which isn’t right! Some of us use it to our advantage when it aids us no matter the situation! But some of us look forward to it all year round; no matter what and are genuine about it! 🙋🏽

Sisterhood defined from the Merriam Webster Dictionary:

1a : “the state of being a sister
b : sisterly relationship
2: a community or society of sisters; especially : a society of women in a religious order
3: the solidarity of women based on shared conditions, experiences, or concerns”
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What does sisterhood mean to you?

Are you one that uses it to your advantage?

Are you one that looks forward to connecting with other women and creating a bond, relationship, or friendship?

Do you love yourself? Why do I ask? In order to love others; you have to first love yourself?

Do we all know that our #1 enemy; comes to steal, kill and destroy? Do we all know that he is the author of confusion? Do we all know that he thrives when we are at odds?

He doesn’t want us on one accord! He laughs at us every time we get at odds over the stupidest stuff!

1. She looked at me wrong.

2. She told someone this about me.

3. She looked at my boyfriend/husband.

4. She rolled her eyes at me.

5. She didn’t come to my event.

6. She didn’t loan me the money.

7. She borrowed something and never gave it back.

8. She misunderstood what I said.

9. She stole my idea.

10. She is friends with people I don’t like.

The list can go on; but are these valid reasons to be at odds with another woman, sister, friend, or daughter?

Do you remember when Jesus was betrayed by one of his disciples? (Read Luke 22 and Mark 16:7) The very person who was a friend? Sold him out for a few gold coins? When Jesus was resurrected from the dead; who did He ask for?

Did Jesus hold a grudge? Why should you hold a grudge or have a problem with the next woman? You don’t have to be bosom buddies if there is clearly a problem; but at least be able to talk it out and come to an understanding. We all have different personalities and none of us are perfect! And some of our mindsets are a little off but; we have to at least make the effort!

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As Christian Women we have to set the standard; we have to set the stage. We have to represent Our Heavenly Father to the fullest! We have to look like we are His children and act like we belong to Him.

Check out this article from Huffington Post: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/sophia-a-nelson/what-is-sisterhood-really_b_4410051.html

References:

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sisterhood

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When Your Frustration Kicks In: #SpiritualSundays

When Your Frustration Kicks In: #SpiritualSundays

“I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world” John 16:33 (NLT)

 

How many of us will raise our hands and admit we sometimes get frustrated? Yes, we have faith and yes; we believe in God. But, we also get frustrated! Frustration is a part of life; none of us are perfect and we will all experience this at some point in our lives.

We get frustrated when things don’t go our way! We get frustrated when God doesn’t move when we want him to move! We get frustrated when the people in our lives just can’t and won’t do right!

Women get frustrated when they continually get passed over and must wait for a relationship to come their way. Men get frustrated when they can’t find the right woman. Employees get frustrated that they can’t get the promotion they deserve; unemployed people get frustrated when they can’t find a job; or the right job. Entrepreneurs get frustrated when they don’t make any sales or get any new clients.

Students get frustrated when they don’t have the right teachers in their schools. Teachers get frustrated when they feel neglected and underpaid. Parents get frustrated when their kids won’t listen to their wisdom, knowledge and reasoning. Kids get frustrated when parents won’t allow them to have a voice. Husbands get frustrated when their wives won’t submit; wives get frustrated when their husbands won’t listen or communicate with them.

“Extortion turns a wise person into a fool, and a bribe corrupts the heart. The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride. Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools”. Ecclesiastes 7:7-9 (NIV)

Frustration can easily turn into anger; we don’t want to get to that point. When we allow our emotions to take over; then it can easily turn into a negative situation. Anyone of these scenarios can take the wrong turn and that’s what we need to avoid.

As Christians, we want to take this and spin it into a learning curve or a give it a positive outcome. As humans that can sometimes be a hard thing for some of us to do; but, we must find ways to not let our emotions get the best of us.

Check out this article written by Pastor Rick Warren: http://pastorrick.com/devotional/english/five-steps-for-handling-frustration

What Can You Do When Your Frustration Kicks In?

  1. Take a step back and look at the situation from the outside. What do you see?
  2. Are you allowing your emotions to control you? Do you have a valid reason to be frustrated?
  3. Ask God to step in and fix your heart and your thoughts; allow him to give and show you a different perspective.
  4. Prayer! Everyone one always says this; for every situation! Why? Because it works….
  5. Write it down; why are you frustrated? Writing always helps me; who would of thought that writing can be soothing to your soul.

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

© 2018 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Spiritual Sundays Series)

Check out my books on Amazon: bit.ly/author_tamara

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And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.
I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

The Kiss of Death

Have you ever been betrayed by someone you loved or thought you could trust? How did that make you feel? Did you forgive them and continue to allow them to occupy space in your life? Or have you been the one to sell someone out for mere pennies? Was it worth it? What did you accomplish by doing this to someone who trusted you and was a friend or treated you like family? Do you later on apologize and ask their forgiveness?

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Let’s look at this story in the book of Luke; before Jesus was to be given over to the enemy, to face his death and die on the cross for us; that believe in him. “Then Satan entered Judas, called Iscariot, one of the Twelve. And Judas went to the chief priests and the officers of the temple guard and discussed with them how he might betray Jesus. They were delighted and agreed to give him money. He consented, and watched for an opportunity to hand Jesus over to them when no crowd was present”. Luke 22:3-6 (NKJV)

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Later on in the story Judas gives away Jesus with just a kiss; that was the signal to the enemy that He was the one! Does this story ring true for so many of us that are betrayed for people in our lives? Jesus knew way before it was time that Judas was to betray him; he even told him that he would be the one! But, Judas didn’t believe him because he loved Jesus so much. But we see that he loved those coins so much more! They sounded good jiggling in his pocket and oh baby; the stuff he could buy with the coins! He could get some new sandals, a new robe and a belt! How many of us have sold out Jesus and our personal relationship for a few coins? A few handbags? A car payment? A house payment? How far did we get? The following month you still needed those same bills paid; was it worth it?

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“For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows”. 1 Timothy 6:10 (KJV)

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If you had the choice to have all the money in the world; or a relationship with Jesus, which would you choose? We have a choice! That’s what I love so much about our Heavenly Father; He gives a choice; between Life and Death! We all should know that when you choose Him you get to have a life filled with abundance! Will it be perfect? No, but at least you still have your right mind, your loving heart, your compassionate soul and a trustworthy spirit! What more can you ask for?

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Bible references can be found at http://www.biblegateway.com

 

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