With each new year that comes and goes; I believe it’s necessary to have reflection. Reflection of how to go forward, what you learned from the previous year and what you can do to be a better person.
How else do we expect to grow and change our outlook if we don’t do a self-evaluation?You see it can’t always be about someone else! What did you do? What didn’t you do?
You see for me I didn’t speak up enough; I just allowed things to play out as they may. Could I have said something? Yes, but many times I chose not too. I for one like my peace and keeping my sanity in check. What was it for you? What did you let slide; or did you speak your mind? How far did it get you?
I have never been a fan of new year’s resolutions; why? Because life always happens and by February all those resolutions are out the door! But one thing that I have incorporated over the years is looking at how my year went and what I could change going forward.
In 2017, I can honestly say I learned lots about me and people around me.
#1. I learned that I wasn’t made to fit in but I was created to stand out.
This one right here was a biggie for me! You see people will always try to control you if you let them! They want you to play by their rules, be who they want you to be; and I learned that has never and will never be me. God has uniquely made you for a special purpose; don’t allow people who don’t know how to handle that; derail you!!
#2. That if you want to know who is really in your corner; break something!
Wow, this was a real challenge for me that I didn’t even sign up for! But hey, I made it through!!
Being a single mom with a broken ankle-foot; was absolutely no fun! That is a story in itself! I have never been one to have a large number of friends; weirdly, I like it that way. But I really found out during this challenge that the small number I thought I had was just a mirage! Sisterhood is something I have always enjoyed writing about because it is being flung around like an old high school jersey. When will women really take a stand and unite for the greater good? Friendship seems like a thing of the past; that has been replaced for networking and somebody’s next come up! How far can you get me up the ladder? Who are you connected to; that I can connect with? Is that what we have been reduced to? It’s time to change that circle; maybe expand it out a little bit….
#3. That NO MATTER WHAT GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.…..
Look you don’t have to believe it; or in HIM. But when I tell you 2017 has been thus far one of the most challenging years for ME. My life could’ve gone so many different ways with the obstacles, challenges, trials and tribulations that came my way; BUT GOD, kept me through every last one! When people walked away; HE still had my bad! When people told me no; HE said YES!
So you see; this is just a couple of the things that 2017 has taught me and I am so very excited to still be here and I am eagerly awaiting to see what 2018 has in store! What about you?
November is a truly special month for me. It was the month that my first daughter was born in 1990. It was the month that my mother died in 1999 and November 2012 was the month that my Lord let my husband down the road to find out about me. November, it is a time for the leaves to change colors and fall to the ground and it is the month where we gather together as family to enjoy a Thanksgiving feast.
Let’s look at the month of December! Now, that was the month where by grandparents wed and spent nearly 50 years together as husband and wife. December allowed me to witness my daughters as they were baptized together at Hartford Memorial Baptist Church in Detroit Michigan and December is the month that Christians gather together to celebrate the birth of Christ. December is also the month that we celebrated the life of my mother, and her funeral service still lives in my heart nearly 20 years later.
Life and Death. Think about the people that entered your life this past year and consider the deaths; the new opportunities and the doors that were closed. Reflect upon the ebbs and flows in your life this year and take a moment to see how God led you and kept you through it all. You may be considering your “New Year’s Resolution” during these last two calendar months of the year, but are you considering the path that God has for you during the New Year?
Pastor Joel Osteen preached a message today (November 26, 2017) that talked about stepping out on faith to walk a path, even if you don’t have the destination or the details of the journey. Abraham told his wife that they were moving because: “The LORD had said to Abram, “Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you”. – Genesis 12:1 (NIV). If I told some of my relatives that God told us to move, their first response to me would be “WHO GONNA PAY FOR THAT?!”
Well, during 2017 I realized that I was stepping out on faith much more than I had been doing before, and I am excited about this growth. I see that God has enlarged my territory, he has given me more wisdom and my discernment is quite active now! WOW! Thank you Lord! I have truly grown in 2017 and my “resolution” for 2018 is to keep on stepping out with faith to follow the will of God!
Back in June of 2006, I was given the opportunity to grow. The Jericho Broadcast Network granted me a daily streaming radio show where I shared scripture, interviewed recording artists and became the very first radio show in the United States to feature Holy Hip Hop music. The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE earned listeners from Africa, Australia and the United Kingdom, it was syndicated over seven additional radio networks in multiple 24-hour time slots, and I was honored to earn an award from the One Accord DJ Alliance as the Best Female Radio Show host in the country. PRAISE GOD! That show is now ending and a through the union between my husband and I, there shall now be a new life!
Beginning in January 2018 we invite you to log on and participate in a new talk show entitled “Gettin’ Over The Hump with Angie BEE & Bartee”. Join us on Wednesday evenings from 7:00 – 7:30 pm EST as we stream live on our page at www.Facebook.com/AngieBEEandBarteeProductions This show is the brainchild of my husband Bartee and I am excited to be by his side as we give life to this new outlet! Our goal is to share the goodness of the Lord and offer encouragement to others as they attend to “get over the hump!”
The New Living Translation of Proverbs 18:21 says “The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences”. Death will occur. Doors will close and opportunities will end and finalize. We miss those that have died, but we must retain what we learned from them and pass that information along to the next generation. Just keep your eyes on God, take His hand and walk the path He has placed on you. I love to talk about the goodness of the Lord and through this new talk show I’ll be ready to eat the fruit He has for me in 2018 and beyond.
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and we will catch you on “Hump Day”!
#SpiritualSundays will be back January 2018..
Evangelist Angie BEE
Author, Producer, Promoter and Servant of the Lord
Just a couple months ago I met some people that were amazed that I was an author that has written several books. They couldn’t believe it because I am an introvert and don’t talk much when in groups or big crowds. My response to them was being that I am an introvert I still have to be obedient! If God tells us to do something we are to follow his commands!
(There is a difference): Some people want to know how do you know the difference good=God, bad=the enemy (voice-commands) Me finding my voice meant I was going to be able to help others! (That is good!) Me keeping quiet meant that the people that my books are meant for would continue to be lost! (That is bad!)
How many times have we disobeyed our parents? How many times will we disobey God and his instructions for our life? As children if our parents don’t direct us to the bible; then we don’t know what it says correct? But what about when you have parents, grandparents and other adults that tell you what the bible says and we still go astray?
1.God has provided commandments for us to follow. (Bible)
2.God has laid the foundation on how we are to live. (Bible)
3.God has given us the road-map to how we are to proceed. (Bible)
4.God has sent his only begotten son to save us from our sins; does that mean we continue to sin? We aren’t perfect but we have to strive to do better and act accordingly (Bible)
5.When you don’t obey God and your parents; then who do you make happy?
The enemy, you give him power and you give him access to your life through your disobedience! The word tells you that the enemy only comes to steal, kill and destroy! So, now that you know that is his end game why keep giving him access? Why keep playing his game? How can you obey what and who is designed to hurt and harm you but you won’t obey the very one that came to give you life, abundance, favor, a sound mind, deliverance, shelter, living water, etc? God has placed your earthly parents over you; why can’t you obey them?
Many of us want the blessings and favor but don’t want to be obedient! We will jump up and down when we get cars, clothes and money but how many of you know that the devil rewards too! Could that be why so many don’t see the reason to come into the light? Because they can still get all their worldly wants and continue to live as they have?
Does the enemy give eternal life? John 3:16
Can he turn water into wine? John 2:1-11
Can he refill your jars when you know they were empty? 2 Kings 4:1-7
Can he feed thousands with just 5 loaves and 2 fish? Matt 14:17
I want to share a story with you that goes back a several years. I had been getting sick and I was constantly in and out the hospital; one day I had to be rushed to the hospital from work. Every time I went the doctors would tell me that they ran all the tests we could and we can’t find anything wrong; it’s probably just stress, go home and just rest.
My job told me to take a couple days off and when I went back to work, people were talking about how I didn’t look like myself! I didn’t feel like myself and I was tired of feeling that way! I knew something was wrong so I decided to pray and cry out to God one night. In my crying and praying it was revealed exactly what was wrong and the testing that was required hadn’t been checked because it’s not a routine test that is normally ran.
Now if the people in the hospital would’ve check my medical history they would’ve seen what the issue was and how to fix it. A few years before that my doctor took me off of medicine that she said I only needed while I was pregnant but that turned out to cause more harm than good.
So, I went back that morning after hearing from God and I allowed them to run the tests again told them what tests they had to run and the attending physician came back and said you’re fine we going to discharge you and I looked him in the face and said I’m sorry but I’m not leaving, I’m not fine, and I want to see the tests that you ran.
I was admitted into the hospital sent upstairs where another physician took over my case and ran the required tests and guess what; when he got the results back he came to my room and said “Ms. McCarthy if you would’ve went home you would’ve been dead in a matter of days!”
Do you see why we must obey God! What if I had listened to that doctor and went home? I wouldn’t be here today! Lord I just thank you!!! Let me tell you again the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy! Who will you believe? Who will you trust? Who will you follow? Who will you obey?
Don’t be so consumed with the integrity of your work, that you miss an opportunity to minister. Have you ever seen those TV commercials where the child is questioning her parent’s love, because they are cleaning the home on a Saturday instead of spending time with her? Are we busy doing “things” instead of building relationships? Are you missing out on opportunities to share your thoughts, wisdom and love?
Don’t be so effected by your damaged feelings that you forget to pray for your enemies.
In the July 9, 2017 issue of #SpiritualSundays, Ms. McCarthy wrote about “Church Hurt” and how the pain can change your perception of religion, people and even yourself. The article continues to talk about how the devil’s job is to steal from you, kill you and those around you and destroy your perception of life and God’s love for you. This is SO TRUE! We can not let the nudge from an enemy change the pathway that God has placed you upon. When the rock is thrown through your window, you do move out of the house? No! you repair the window! When the house catches on fire, you rebuild! Don’t let the actions or the words from another cause you to feel so much pain that you withdraw from your own path and fail to pray for others. Your prayers may initiate the change in their life that they need!
Don’t be so focused on the Spirit of Excellence that you procrastinate on accomplishing the anointing that was placed on your life, in that moment.
I have spoken to several people over the years that had “visions of grandeur” in terms of a new business or a desired lifestyle. “My business will have state of the art equipment where can provide exceptional service to my clients” or they will say “My home will look like this or my car will be that and people will come to Christ because they want to live like me!”
Over the years, these SAME people have not achieved the status that they aspired to achieve. Why do I believe this is so? These people got SO caught up in the image of doing things with a Spirit of Excellence that they never, even START on the process! Can you imagine if Jesus never began his walk in ministry if his goal was to look excellent or BE excellent or appear excellent? Our sins would never be forgiven! Take that first step! Improve as you go along! LEARN as you make those steps! Strive towards excellence and always give glory to Our Lord through the journey!
In 2 Timothy 2:15 we are instructed to “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth”
and the book of Titus 2:7 instructs us to “Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity”.
Model of Good Works – Do the best that you can while you are improving, and stop waiting for the EXCELLENCE to be achieved in order to begin.
Google defines “Integrity” as – the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.
Dignity is defined as “the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect” and also “a sense of pride in oneself; self-respect”.
We are all at the beginning of something new, each and every day that we awaken. Let us not be SO focused on tomorrow that we don’t allow God to lead us today.
Evangelist Angie BEE
Author, Producer, Promoter and Servant of the Lord
“Then the Lord answered me and said: Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry”. Habakkuk 2:2-3 (NKJV)
How many of us give up before we allow our prays to be answered?
You’ve been praying for years to get married! You post sticky notes all over the house, reminding yourself of what he will look like and act like and then 1 year goes by and you give up!
You have settled for a guy that doesn’t line up with anything you’ve been praying for and guess what he doesn’t even want to marry you!
He just wants to kick it, hang out; Netflix and chill!!! Why? All because you can’t wait….
How many of you can relate to that scenario? How many of you will do the same thing and not allow your prayers to manifest?
Vision has many different meanings and depending on how you look at it; you will get a different outcome. Agreed?
You can look at something or someone with your natural eye and you can also look with your spiritual eye! Are you following along? Your natural eye will show you everything you need to see instantly, right? But, your spiritual eye is going to show you and spark a completely different visual of the same object or individual but in a whole different light! Does that make sense?
Let me explain it this way. You are looking to advance your career and you have sent out lots of resumes and are starting to get interviews lined up with some pretty good companies! Some are okay but others are great and you could really do well if chosen by the right company!
You begin to see yourself in each of these positions, the day to day begins to play out in your head and how your interactions will be. Some of the jobs may present a promotion and some may not! You can see this by researching the companies and reviewing their history. You are visualizing what you perceive your future will be and what company could be the right fit for you!
Many of us take it a step further and will look for and find many ways to visualize what we want our life to look like!
We will put together a personal vision statement! We may even come up with a personal mission statement!
Whatever we have to do that will keep us on track to bringing our thoughts and vision to life!
What better way to visualize your vision; than a vision board? Have you completed a vision board before? Why are vision boards important?
It’s simple! A vision board is a constant visible and visual reminder of the goals, hopes and dreams that You want for your life!
Many of us need a constant reminder of what we are working towards because of all the distractions in the world and our lives.
Many of us are moms, wives, business owners and with so much going on; stuff can get placed on the back burner of our minds!
But not only is a vision board good but so is the party! Now who doesn’t like to party? Who doesn’t like arts and crafts?
Who doesn’t like fellowship and meeting up with like-minded individuals? Women especially this is good to further advance friendship and sisterhood!
You don’t have to know each person in the room but before the end of the night you should!
For some odd reason women find it hard to interact with other women! They find it hard to compliment and appreciate another woman!
Some women are always looking for reasons why they don’t like another woman. You may be reading this and asking yourself “How did she go from talking about vision, vision boards, vision board parties and get to women not liking each other”?
Well let me tell you! My vision, my purpose and my passion; is to help create and foster better relationships with women for themselves as well as with other women!
We weren’t created or called to hate or look down on each other! That is a learned behavior! A learned behavior that has to be dismantled piece by piece!
So in creating a vision board you want to create a complete visual! Not only materialistic things!
But your personal aspirations as well! If you look again at the picture of my vision board created yesterday at a Vision Board Party that I attended.
You will see the various colorful outfits that Oprah is pictured in. I loved this image first because of all the colors and also what jumped out at me was Oprah was consistent!
She is smiling, happy and full of life in each pose! The only thing that changed was the color of the dress!
We as women lack consistency! We lack standards! We lack respect! We lack love! We lack discipline! We lack so much and are so stuck that it keeps us from advancing! We need to become whole! We need to create unity and have better relationships with one another!
Stop looking at other woman as trying to steal what you have or what you are trying to get! Your attitude, the way you operate and carry yourself throws it away!
I will not apologize for being passionate about something that is dear to me! The very thing I am writing about; I have had to experience! The hate from other women who don’t even know me! Don’t want to get to know me! But want to judge me!
We have to do better! You represent you! How do you want people to see you? What do you stand for? Who do you represent? You have to be consistent! You come out the door dressed from head to toe! Rocking the best money can buy; but how you carry yourself and how you interact and respond to others; doesn’t add up!
Vision is important! How do you want to be visualized?
What does this holiday season mean to you? Why do I ask? Because it means something different to the people that you talk too! Everyone will give you a different spin on it and many of you when you hear their analogy; will maybe raise an eyebrow, or two! For some; you can tell what it means without asking them; because they will show you. You see them all over the news and social media standing in these long lines; waiting to purchase material items! They will fight and curse out their neighbor because they took the last television and they really needed that television! Come on now; when did these stores only sell televisions on special occasions? Couldn’t they get that television at other time? So, you are going to make yourself look stupid and cause bodily harm to another human being for something that could possibly break the next day after you purchase it?
When did we get so focused on gifts? I know you have heard the saying “It is better to give than receive”; does that apply to the holiday season; or has it just been attached to this time of year? When did material things become sort of like the soul focus on this time of year? The stores start putting out holiday decorations way before it’s time; to get people to start buying them early; hence making their financial statements look mighty impressive! They beef up customer service and hire more people in retail doing this time of year; to ensure they have enough hands-on deck to handle the abundance of shoppers! They sit around in their board meetings and team meetings to see how and what they can do to get the most people in their stores; so, they can spend the most money! Only to lay off countless numbers of people after the hype has dwindled down because the holiday season is over; now you have people out of work that were only hired to fill a need of getting them in more money!
What if there were no stores to shop at and spend all your money on gifts? What if the only thing that was available was a piece of paper and a pen/pencil and you had to actually write a note to each person in your life; maybe just the ones that matter! The same folks that you went out of your way to buy all these gifts for! What words would you use? How would you start off your first sentence? Would you talk about the past, present and future? Would your words hurt them or make them feel loved? Would you tell them how much they mean to you? How do you think they would respond; if they were giving this note during the holiday season; instead of an actual gift? Take your time and think about that one….
Something to Meditate On
After reading this; does it change your mind? Does it make you rethink anything that you have grown accustomed to doing? Will you do anything differently going forward? Will you incorporate anything that you haven’t been doing to what you are already doing? The point here is just to give some insight, make you think; and possibly start a conversation that will expand your thought process and the thought process of those around you. Whatever this holiday season means to you; let it be filled with love, peace and kindness; that isn’t just self-centered but worldwide.
When I was, a kid attending Frederick J. Schulze Elementary School in Detroit Michigan, my classmates would use “Bad Words: while whispering to each other. The “cool” kids would say these “bad words” during conversation, but even the cool kids would avoid allowing their hushed voices to be heard by the teacher. I wonder if the grown-ups at the school ever knew that some of the kids spoke these words?
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Once I hit Beaubien Jr. High school, the “Bad words” evolved into cussin’ and the hushed voices grew louder and became more direct toward certain classmates. I frequently found myself being the target of some of that language as the class bullies seemed to resent everything I wore, everything I smiled about and every “A” that I earned. I knew that I wasn’t a B-I-T-C-H, but just having that word slung in my direction stung a bit more, each time I heard it.
I grew up attending and being blessed by memberships in two Detroit churches. I was baptized and raised at Beth Eden Missionary Baptist Church, and at the age of twelve my spiritual growth enlarged through my membership at Hartford Memorial Baptist Church. Now, I don’t know about other churches or other religions but I do know that EVERY BAPTIST CHURCH I have ever attended always leads you in a song that goes a little something like this:
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer – Amen, Amen, Amen.
Once I “grew up” and lived on the college campus, I cussed “like a sailor” because I was “GROWN!” My mama wasn’t around to smack me in the mouth and everybody else on the campus of Wilberforce University was cussing’ too! That’s when one of the professors mentioned a study that has stuck with me all these years later. Now, don’t quote me on it but the study said something about the use of vulgar language reflecting the ignorance and poor vocabulary skills of the word cussin’. Well, I was a communications major and I planned to have a career in radio, so I wasn’t about to reflect ignorance coming out of my mouth! After that lesson, cuss words only flew out of my mouth during stress or frustration… and even then, I was ashamed afterwards.
These days I will see posts on social media with letters such as “WTF” or “LMFAO”. These letters are sometimes even posted in a sentence meant to bring humor or accolades, but once I see that letter “F” or letter “A” in there, I get a little sad. As an adult, we now refer to this language as “Profanity” and although it is no longer directed at me, I still shudder when I hear it spoken; just hearing swear words can make me sad.
You see, our words reflect what is growing on the inside of us. Kinda like if you ate something last night that doesn’t agree with your tummy, you will find yourself on the toilet by the next morning. That mess was on the inside of you, so it came out. Cussin’ reflects something rotten inside of you, so it falls out of your mouth just as easily as that diarrhea plopped outta your butt!
My mama was a holy thing when she lived on Earth. Even though our mama cussed, I didn’t cuss around my mama (I didn’t want to get a spanking, so that motivated me to keep my mouth clean!). My husband is a holy thing as he represents the way God loves me in this season of my life. I don’t cuss around my husband. Just looking at him reminds me that I am loved and respected and appreciated, so I don’t have a reason to cuss him out! (lol). I am a temple of the Lord and I invite the Lord to live inside me. I don’t cuss around my temple…I don’t cuss around myself. I love myself and respect myself, so I don’t cuss in my conversations or in my writings.
Wikipedia reflects that “profanity has come to mean any socially offensive language beyond that strictly religious sense, but tends to exclude any other nonverbal communication. Thus profanity in English may be synonymous with bad language, strong language, coarse language, foul language, bad words, vulgar language, lewd language, choice words or expletives“. – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Profanity
On the Sunday, November 20, 2016 ministry broadcast from Pastor Ron Carpenter, he taught that there was a lesson in the bible where a group of people had been led by Moses to a place where they were to drink water. When the people tasted the water, they found that it tasted bitter and later, scientists tested the water and determined that the bitter taste was the result of a laxative component that would help flush your system. Ron Carpenter offered that God led those people to the water to get that bad taste of their past slavery out of their systems. http://www.roncarpenter.com/on-demand/detox/
What do you need to get out of your system?
If you don’t get it out spiritually, it will fly out of your mouth offensively.
(Thank you, Jesus!)
On the Sunday, November 20, 2016 broadcast from Pastor Jesse Duplantis, he taught on first fruits and on giving God your best. He visually taught that God gave us HIS first fruit in that he gave us His first son. Why don’t we give God our best language of respect, praise and gratitude and cleanse our minds and our tongues from foul language? Why don’t we give OURSELVES our first fruit of a sweet language on our lips and not the bitter words that fly out and offend?
God gave us his best when he gives us his grace and mercy and when God spoke, he created wonders and lifestyles and an home for us! When we speak to the waitress, she brings out the best meal that can be prepared for us. When you hear those words “I Love You”… do you want to hear a cuss word thrown in that statement?!?
Today, let us all strive to “clean up our act” and mentally “wash our mouths out with soap”. Listen to the lyrics of the music you are feeding into your ears. Is it laced with profanity and sexual references? How does that make you feel? Do you find yourself quoting those lyrics? Would you want someone referring to you in the way those lyrics refer to another in that song?
Today, let us all strive to replace one curse word at a time with a new vocabulary word in our speech and in our writings. “WTF” can now be “WITW” (What In The World?” comes from my anointed daughter Jasmine…thanks Princess!) I prefer ROTFLOL to LMFAO (why do I have to refer to myself as FAT, anyway! Hmmph). Today, let us be a “Shining Light of Language” (SLOL) for someone else while we are talking to them; when they realize that each word coming from your mouth is positive and encouraging… they may catch on and repeat your example!