In the Bible we are taught that “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)
I didn’t come to find this out until many years later. I didn’t know love was supposed to hurt; especially if both people felt the same way. He always said he loved me but he would beat me down like a dog! He would treat me as his punching bag! Each and every time it seemed like the punches got harder and harder!
But, every time it was over he said he was sorry and that he loved me. Did that make it okay? I wouldn’t call the police if I thought he loved me? Was he telling me that because he knew I would believe him?
Why do young ladies and women fall for abusive guys? These types of guys are good at hiding their true identity; and good at appearing to being a good guy or a gentlemen until that “honeymoon phase” is over. That time frame depends on the people and the situation! They are charming, they say all the right things and they know just what to say.
Many young ladies and women go through an identity crisis and fall victim to these guys; I was one of them! I didn’t know my true self, I didn’t know the power that I had, I didn’t know I was beautiful and wonderfully made, I didn’t know that Our Heavenly Father loved me and I was his, and I didn’t know that there was an enemy out there roaming the land seeking whom he could devour; who he could come to steal from, kill or destroy!
Domestic violence is real and countless young ladies and women go through this by someone that claims to love them! Many of them don’t make it out alive. So many times could’ve been my last! Real love doesn’t hurt and it doesn’t seek you out to kill you!
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