It’s Time for Action!!

It has definitely been awhile since I last wrote anything. Life has been happening but I have missed writing which has always been my first love. I have been wrestling with should I share this or not but I know I need to be obedient. We are living in a time, season, world where pretty much anything goes and if anyone speaks up; it’s a problem. 

You get labeled as a trouble maker, hater etc which I care nothing about but, it really sucks that even when you are instructed to speak up or speak out about things that need to change; folks will always find fault with it. I’ve never quite figured out why folks don’t like to change and get or make things better; especially in the “church”. Like we all can be living better lives and experience all the greatest that God has in store for us; like isn’t that a good thing? 

Being part of clergy and the Kingdom of God, I want all those that “claim to be a son or daughter” those that truly represent the Kingdom of God to have the life of abundance that the Bible speaks of. I want us all to fully represent the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords! It’s not play play for me! It’s not just something to do! For many of us this is a true representation of who we are! When you really serve and are called to this; you want to be part of making changes and being on one accord; not with just people; but with how we represent ourselves and God’s Kingdom. We need to set the proper order. When you read your Bible and don’t see things lining up; it becomes to be a problem. But everyone doesn’t roll like this and that’s a problem all in itself. But let me go ahead and share what was giving to me one early morning this week. 

Just a little back story I took a road trip recently but before that I had been having conversations (called Let’s Talk) on various subject matters on FB Live with special guests etc. I had to say this so the next part will make some sense. 

During my trip a couple weeks ago God gave me a word that I’m going to share now. The first part was for me but the latter part was to be shared. At 1st I wasn’t sure what it meant and I had to pray for clarity before I spoke it. 
The 1st part was that my series Let’s Talk was over. The 2nd part was that “we’ve done enough talking and now it’s time to take action”…

The reasons why the church is failing; (note: this isn’t all churches)
1. Many aren’t getting healed, delivered and set free.
2. Nothing is in place beyond Sunday morning or mid week Bible study- you got folks fighting over who will deliver the message / did Jesus only speak to the people? did Jesus only heal the sick? Or did He train His disciples/Apostles to do everything that He was doing? And did they not do the same thing with the ones under their leadership? 

You have senior leadership thinking they are the only ones that God has called or put in place to preach, teach, heal, deliver, set free, prophesy, the only thing they will really only allow other folks to do is evangelize! They want you to bring the people in so they can perform some more in front of new faces: you hear them every Sunday “bring someone to church with you next Sunday or on Bible Study”; my question would be why? 

You don’t have nothing in place when they get here! 
Everyone doesn’t come to see a show they need something more than that; people are hurting, their families are hurting, they are barely making ends meet and you want them to waste their gas coming to your church to do what; see you whoop and holler and jump across the pews? 

Somebody may be thinking: they can come in for prayer; my answer is this: many in these churches can’t pray a roach to leave out of your house; let alone a blessing to hit your household! 
There are some powerful intercessors and prayer warriors but they aren’t in every church! 

You would rather dim the light cause it’s not you! This isn’t a popularity contest!!! All Glory should be given to God! All Praise should be for Him and Him alone!! Who did Jesus always point to? Who did Jesus always Honor? Who did He always credit for why He was and what He was allowed to do? 

Some of your “churches” your ministries will never be able to do what they were originally designed or created to do because you refuse to allow God in and who He has sent to help!!  

If church was only built to be on the backs of senior leadership; why did Jesus raise up disciples? Why did God have Jesus train them and install them? Why didn’t God just do it himself? 

Why were they sent out into the world? Why did they travel to other churches? 

God has sent many out to help some of you! But you’ve turned them away, you’ve rejected them; you’ve rebuked them because you thought or you felt they were coming to steal your shine. No they were on assignment to bring the light to many dark places: these dark places are what many of you call “church”. 
God will always send His prophets!!! We see and have read of all the instances in the Bible. Y’all Bible scholars and theologians have read and studied all of this so why do you shake your heads or turn the other cheek when it happens? 
Senior leaders get in their feelings and say things like this is “my church” I’m the “senior leader” I am the Bishop, I am this or I am that; well act like it then!!! Allow God to Have His Way!! 

Some of these folks y’all are putting in these positions are raggedy and tore up from the floor up!!! Many are some of the ones that will hear “depart from me, I never knew you”. Y’all will put someone in position because of their outer appearance; they clean up nice, they look good in a suit, a dress, they got a beard and bald head and all the women flock to them; they wear them tight little dresses and their hair be laid with the fake baby hairs and they know how to gather a crowd with deep pockets but their hearts are tainted!! You remember that scripture that says: 1 Samuel 16:7 

Stop making everyone an Apostle, Pastor, Prophet, Teacher, Evangelist, the Bible says “some” were called and chosen for these and y’all out here making everybody that isn’t even equipped to live a Holy- Holy is spelled H O L Y lifestyle in these sacred offices- the definition for sacred is this: 

Some of y’all that’s all you do is talk! You talk on Sundays you talk during mid week Bible study but when it’s time for the real work to be done; you’re nowhere to be found!!
What is the real work?
Healing the sick, going to check on the sick and shut in-the ones in the hospital, nursing homes-mental institutions, group homes the prisons!!
You don’t know how to lay hands and or cast out demons and instruct how to keep God’s temple clean!!
You won’t and or can’t teach others how to pray; let alone show them cause all you know is what sounds good but can’t move not one mountain!!

That is all of what I was given to share. My question is what “Action” do You need to Take? It all starts with us as individuals and then collectively as the “Body of Christ”, the “Church” but especially as “Leaders”…..

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#SpiritualSundays: How Bad Do You Want Him?

How Bad Do You Want Him?

Scripture: Matthew 19:16-22

This young ruler had everything that he could imagine! Cars! Clothes! Money! Maids & Butlers! Cooks & Chefs! Someone that would drive him from point A and point B and get out and open up his door for him and announce his name before he entered into rooms; so the people would know that they were in the presence of royalty! 

But he was obviously lacking in some areas because he approached Jesus and asked him: “Teacher, what good thing must I do to get eternal life ?” This lets us know that his life wasn’t all peachy! He wasn’t completely whole and there was some areas in his life; where he knew he could do better!

I don’t know about y’all; but I know I’m nowhere near perfect and I could use a lot more Jesus in my life! Matter fact I’m always praying for God to have complete control! One of my prayers is make me over God!! Renew in me a clean heart; I know I am nothing without you at the forefront of my life!!

With everything thing that is going on in this world; it still amazes me that so many people still don’t believe and still deny the one and only true Living God!! 

Is there anyone in here today that will touch and agree with me? I need a whole lot more Jesus in my life! Let me say it a little bit louder; so the people in the back and the passerby’s can hear me: I NEED A WHOLE LOT MORE JESUS IN MY LIFE!!

So many people walk around like they don’t need Jesus or God! They are good all by themselves! They wake up on their own! They are their own personal alarm clock!! They breathe on their own! They stand up on their own! They run the race alone! They need no help from no one! But if you venture back to your bible and go to the book of Genesis we are reminded that God created Heaven and Earth and everything and everyone in it! He is the reason why we can open our eyes! Clap our hands! Stomp our feet and hear the sound of rain!! That’s all God! It isn’t science and it never will be science; I don’t care who told you that!! We got black and white to back it up all they have are made up theories..

They believe that Everything they have is because they have worked overtime to get it! But many of them are sadly mistaken and it’s time to set the record straight! Many of them are enjoying the fruits of someone else’s labor! They have inherited the blessings that they are claiming to have got on their own! They are walking around all bad and boogie and they haven’t even lifted one finger to gain anything they got and they won’t even acknowledge it wasn’t them but someone that came before them is the reason why they have been blessed!

“Comedian and actor Robin Williams was one of the most well-known and successful comedians of his time. His life followed the textbook path to stardom for an up-and-coming comedian – from local bars to a major TV role (Mork and Mindy) to HBO specials, and finally to becoming a major movie star. He had suffered from depression in the later years of his life, and there were reports he was suffering from a mental disorder in addition to depression that led to him hanging himself at his California home in Paradise Gay in 2014. The tragedy is that a man who spent most of his life making people laugh was filled with a sadness we could not see or understand.” At his time of death sources state that he was worth an estimated $50 million. Now I also want to share that during his career he had been married 3 x someone say 3 x all I want to be married is once!! 1x is all I need cause when I do get married my husband is stuck ain’t no getting no divorce!! Whatever come up! We working that thing out!! But Robin Williams was divorced 2x somebody say 2x and both times he had to pay each of his ex wives $30 million dollars…somebody say dang!!! Both times 30 million dollars this is why you have to make sure you’re marrying the right person. Consult with God; shoot even the Holy Spirit can offer some insight into making life changing decisions!! Everybody repeat after me: God Am I making the right decision? Holy Spirit Am I doing the right thing? I told God years ago that he was going to have to send me my husband! I was giving up looking for one. I was tired of being a pawn in the dating game and when my husband was ready he would know how to find me. 

Anthony Bourdain:

“Died June 8, 2018, age 61, by hanging himself.

He Was a celebrity chef, travel show host, and New York Times bestselling author. Won 8 Emmy Awards!

He battled drug addiction in the past, and had openly discussed his struggles with depression

His mother said, “He is absolutely the last person in the world I would have ever dreamed would do something like this. He had everything.” His net worth is said to be somewhere around $16 million.

What won’t you give up to follow Jesus? He gave His life so that we can live and you aren’t willing to sacrifice anything? You won’t give up eating one day a week to fast and pray to get a breakthrough in your life? 

You won’t stop spending on shoes and bags that you can’t even put in your closet; because it’s already stuffed? You don’t even want to be a blessing to someone else with that money you’re using to fund these world systems! 

The homeless person that you pass on the street holding up the sign asking for food; you won’t give to them because you think they’re going to do something else with the money? 

But what are these corporations doing with the money that you give them faithfully when you’re spending your whole paycheck with them? They are aiding terrorists and the KKK but you’re not complaining about that; but soon as the church ask you for a donation you ready to flip out and curse somebody out? It doesn’t make sense! 

Many of us want surface Jesus!! I’ve said this before: we want just enough of Him to get by. We don’t want to give our lives completely over to him because we know we would have to change and give up some stuff! How can stuff be more important than God, than your inheritance, than your salvation, than the life of those connected to you! This isn’t just about you! It’s about the generations after you! Your child! Their children and you’re more focused on stuff! Stuff that you can’t take with you when you leave this earth!! I’m not that person I want to go deep sea diving take me to greater depths God so your name can be magnified!! Remove anything and anyone that isn’t of you and doesn’t have your soul and your spirit connected to them! Let those that don’t believe see the greatness you’ve done in my life so that they will want more of you and less of them!!

If you got to dress it up and make it all pretty I don’t want it!! God never said it was going to be easy! He said he would never leave us nor forsake us! We are going to go through those dark valleys; those murky waters; etc but if we allow Him to guide us then why are we afraid? Why? You trust everyone else but not Him? The creator of Heaven and Earth!! He is the King of Kings and Lord of Lords and you need a sign to know if He is real or not? Let me be the first to say: God I want all of You!! Take me as I am and Change Me! Make me over! Whatever is in me that’s not of you; take it away!!

What has the enemy promised you if you hold out a little while longer? You know God has prepared everything that you’ve been praying for; all He needs you to do is follow His lead! But you got your cousin still in your ear causing you delay and distracting you with everything and everyone that God hasn’t designed or created for you; none of it is what you’ve prayed for but it’s shiny and the enemy keeps dangling it in front of you! What has he whispered in your ear? 

This young ruler walked away from Jesus! He walked away from God! He walked away from his future inheritance!! He thought he had all he needed and he was good; but guess what? He walked away from eternal life; that isn’t promised without God! You don’t get that when you decide to turn your back on God! God isn’t obligated to save you a spot just because! Oh he is doing everything else besides giving up his riches for me; let me save him a spot! No that’s not how it works!! God requires total submission! All worldly things must cease when God steps on the scene!!

This young ruler loved his possessions more than he loved God! While he was keeping the commandments he still hadn’t given his life over to God. You can’t come to God straddling the fence! You can’t have one foot in heaven and the other in hell. You can’t claim to be a lover of God and love money at the same time. One is going to eventually become more important than the other. Most people go for the money. 1 Timothy 6:10 says this: “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.” (KJV) 

Jesus knew when he came to earth that everyone wasn’t going to love him and accept Him. He chose certain people to walk with him; were they perfect? No. Did they have it all together? No. But They dropped everything to follow him. They gave up their family, they gave up their livelihood. Jesus was offering eternal life, the opportunity to change the world and to become fishers of men. In John 21:15 Jesus asks the question of the hour: “Do you love me more than these”? This question was posed to Simon Peter as he and Jesus and some of the disciples sat down for breakfast. What I love about the question that was posed to Simon Peter is how did the question come about. Jesus had been crucified and had risen from the dead but before he was crucified he spent time with his disciples teaching them and training them to be fishers of men; to go out into the world and proclaim the good news to all who would listen and receive and heal the sick; but on this particular day; Jesus found some of his disciples on the boat fishing! 

The same question is being posed to you today: Do you love God more than these? What are the “these” in your life? Kids? Parents? Siblings? Your Boy Toy; that you know don’t want you? That chick that you call in the late night hour? That liquor bottle that you keep hidden under your kitchen sink? Those smokes that you keep hidden in your car? That blunt you hit before you came to church this morning? That needle that you keep using to ease the pain? That department store that you run to each and every payday? Those friends that keep pulling you in the wrong directions? Those pills that you keep popping because they take you to cloud 9? Those evil spirits that you allow to reside in your soul; because you think they make you better? What are your These? There should Be Nothing and Nobody that should take you away from having a personal relationship with God; or your personal journey to become a better child of God. 

My boys get on me every single week because they know that most weekends they aren’t going to see me; there are some Saturdays I leave home at 6am and I dont get back home until 8-9 pm that night; why? Cause I am out there bettering myself for the Kingdom of God; it benefits not only me but them too. When God blesses me those blessings are going to follow them. When those Generational Curses get broken that blesses them and their children!! 

I wanted God so bad that I gave up 12 years of my life to concentrate on Him and how I needed him in every area of my life! I stopped dating! I stopped sleeping around!! People on the outside looking in thought I was the perfect mom but they didn’t know in my early days I would leave my kids at home to go to the local bar to get drunk and get picked up by someone to soothe away my pain.

People on the outside looking in thought and would tell me all the time that you’re pretty or you’re beautiful and have beautiful eyes but they never knew when I looked in the mirror I hated the person looking back at me and couldn’t stand to look at myself because I had been destroyed from the inside out so many times that I began to believe all the negative that I heard.

Let me close by saying this: 

If I had time I would tell you that many of us; are like the young ruler and have already walked away from God!! They won’t fully trust Him with their life! They won’t give up those people, places & things that are pleasing to God!

If I had time I would tell you that you can’t straddle the fence between lightness and darkness and claim to be a disciple of Jesus! 

If I had time I would tell you that you need to pick up your Bible each and every single day and find a scripture that resonates with your soul and let it marinate throughout the day! 

If I had time I would tell you that it’s highly important that you thank God in your wins and in your losses! Praise Him every chance you get!

If I had time I would tell you that you should pray without ceasing every single day! Pray in the morning, afternoon and at night! But most importantly pray in the spirit!!

If I had time I would tell you that certain stuff only goes away with praying and fasting! Those soul ties those strongholds; those generational curses; aren’t leaving just because you don’t talk about them! You’re going to have to pray & fast!

If I had time I would tell you to love your neighbor as well as your enemy because God is watching and whatever we put out it will always come right back around!

If I had time I would tell you that God is better than anything this world can ever offer you! Money! Car! & Clothes!! Nothing can compare to Him; the Alpha & the Omega!!

If I had time I would ask you do you love money more than you love God? Money can’t hold you close at night when someone has literally stomped your heart in the ground; but God can..

If I had time I would ask you why are you really here? Do you want to be healed & delivered? Or are you still afraid to take up your mat and walk?

If I had time I would ask you what would it take for you to completely be all in for God? 

If I had time I would tell you to never let go of God’s unchanging hand; no matter how it looks; no matter how it feels!! 

The same question posed to Simon Peter by Jesus is the same question I have been sent to ask you all today: Do you love God more than these? What are your these? 

Sermon message preached 1-19-2020

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

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If these Eyes could Talk: #SpiritualSundays

If these Eyes could Talk…

If you’re eyes could speak; what would they say? What would be revealed to those around you? What would they see that you don’t want them to see? So many that are in this world do the most trying to keep what they’ve done and been apart of under wraps!!

But those that have come to love and know the Lord; know that all that has to come out of you if you’re to be renewed and saved in God!

You release all those things that used to be a part of you when you were of the world! You don’t hold on to that stuff just in case you need it again!

When you’ve chosen, decided to be one with Christ; why would you need the things that you possessed when you were in the camp of the enemy?

So when you’ve taken up residence in the Kingdom of God; you have no need for those type things! Those type people! Those type places!! Why is their number still in your phone? Why do you still have them in your fav five? Why are they still on speed dial? How are you still reminiscing over and over in your head of how it used to be?

God is trying taking you to a new place! A higher level! A place where your eyes have not seen and your eyes haven’t heard the singing and chirping of these birds! The air is fresher and the flowers bloom over here differently! You haven’t seen this place but you’re looking back and wanting that old, raggedy life back!

You want that man that was beating you down! Telling you that you’re nothing and nobody wants you and leaving you for another woman every chance he gets! This is what you want?

God is giving you is best and you want someone’s sloppy seconds? Really? You want a man that doesn’t know who he is and who he belongs to? God wants to give you a man that will love you and you alone but you want a man that is married to another woman? You want a man that will sit at home and play video games while you’re out working to pay all the bills and provide for your children! God wants to send you a man that will allow you to stay home and raise your kids, get a degree and start your own business but you want a grown boy who don’t want you to know more than him because he knows you will eventually leave him!

Is this what Lot’s wife saw when she looked back? Or did she see those men that came to her house that night and wanted to be one with the angels that God sent to free her family? They weren’t looking to give their life back to God they wanted to impose their way of life; on those that were sent and called by God! How could she looked back on that place and want to go back there?

How could you not listen to your husband; when he told you not to look back? What was so good back there that you just had to get one more look?

I don’t know Lot’s wife name but I would ask her; was it worth it? I would also ask the Israelites that took all that time 40 years because they just couldn’t listen to the messengers of God?

What was so good while you were bound that you fought so hard to stay in that same mindset?

Instead of looking back and wishing you could go back; why not thank God from what He brought you out of?

1. He saved me from the hands of 2 abusers!

2. He saved me from drinking my life away!

3. He saved me from a promiscuous lifestyle!

4. He saved me from believing all the negative words; people spoke over my life.

5. He has kept me in my right mind!

6. He saved me from settling for potential; when His greatest is on the way!!

This is not even close to all God has did for me!

What has God did for you?

Written and published by Tamara D. McCarthy

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#SpiritualSundays: We All Are Created In His Image…

Not too many will take out the time and read this; for those that will thank you. Thank you for not just scrolling by; because the title may not move you.

How many know that titles don’t really give you the full picture? Titles set you up for what’s to come. It’s going to give you something to think about and have you curious to what’s next.

In this world of social media many are only seeking for amusement, entertainment, cheap temporary pleasure, new dance challenges; etc.

What happened to seeking out those things that will change your life or the lives of those around you? What happened to being a change agent? Finding out truth to share with others; making a difference in someone else’s life? This world and many of those in it; have become selfish and only seeking personal gain; personal satisfaction!

While the title says: We are all created in His image; many have strayed away. They don’t embody what it means to be friendly, neighborly, loving, caring, compassionate, understanding, etc.

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Genesis 1:27

“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10

While they possess human form their speech, thoughts, actions and reactions mimic those of pure evil.

“But if your heart turns away so that you do not hear, and are drawn away, and worship other gods and serve them, I announce to you today that you shall surely perish; you shall not prolong your days in the land which you cross over the Jordan to go in and possess.” Deuteronomy 30:17-18

Many don’t worry about what takes place in the world today because it hasn’t affected them. It hasn’t come knocking at their door. Why should they care what happens to others; they are just out here living their best life.

Speaking up about what is plaguing this world and the lives of many; takes heart, courage and unselfishness!

Jesus came to the world for everyone; not just a certain group of people. He came so that everyone can have a better; more fulfilling life. He didn’t come so that some can bamboozle their way through life and make it harder for others to have access to resources to live their lives.

Today in church my Pastor said something that I will repeat: “We have to look in the mirror”, when was the last time you looked in the mirror? Do you like the person you see? Are you a change agent? Do you advocate for others? Are you an unselfish person? Do you believe we all should be able to live a life of abundance? Do you believe we are all created in His image?

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Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

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I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life! 

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated! 

From The Desk of a Single Mom: Not Everything that God Gives; Is for You…..

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Do I need to continue; do you understand the point I’m trying to make?

People often times will take the good things and run with them. Pass by a homeless person or someone else in need; knowing full well that they can help that person! They aren’t asking for much; just a couple dollars! 

But, you angrily pass them by shooting off foul language directly at them or in your head; cursing them for even coming your way. Did you ever stop to think; who gave you or allowed you the pleasure; of having all that access and excess wealth!  Science didn’t give it to you…and for some neither did hard work! I’m just saying; it’s a real concept that happens in today’s time….

The reason why I want to explain all of that is because some of us don’t get or realize the opportunity that were given to be better and more fulfilled; when you come together with others! God may have dropped some awesomeness in your soul-spirit and you thought it was all for you or for you to fulfill the call on your own..

For those of you that don’t know this; I am a single mom and have been one for over 28 years! I didn’t always except that as my truth; but it’s kinda growing on me. Several years ago I began to have the desire to somehow help other single moms. Inspire, motivate, encourage and empower them. I told someone dear to me at the time and God began to give me all these amazing downloads and that person encouraged me to go forth.

Nothing really came out of it; life as a single mom and trying to keep up with all that comes with it took over, but the downloads never ceased! 

Fast forward several years; I moved to Central Florida met another single mom and while talking one day she begins to tell me all the ideas; that she has for a non-profit for Single Moms!! 

Look y’all every gem that God dropped in my spirit; came out her mouth! When I tell you the tears began to fall!! Here I am; years before this encounter, wondering and asking God, how do I get all this out of me and put it into action….It wasn’t for me to do alone!!! Those downloads and her words; was the connection that God ordained for His Vision to Come Together!! Y’all the rest is History……I hope someone catches this and grabs hold of it……

If you’re in the Central Florida area and you’re a Single Parent or know a Single Parent…come join us every 1st Saturday of the month….

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

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I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life! 

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

From the Desk of a Single Mom: Will You Break the Cycle?

I shared something on my social media pages the other day and I am going to share it here as well. Now, since I am a #singlemomofpurpose I only addressed it to single moms but it can apply to all mothers!


“Single moms, do you talk to your kids about domestic violence? Have you experienced domestic violence? Many people say that kids shouldn’t know about adult issues! #1: it shouldn’t even be an adult ISSUE at all and #2: they shouldn’t grow up believing this type of stuff is okay! If they hear and see; then why not sit down and have the conversation. I did…I chose to break the cycle. Difficult conversation to have especially when it’s their father (and even when it’s not); but it needed to be said….Our kids mimic what they see and hear (even into adulthood)“… Now, what are your thoughts?


I didn’t get too many likes or comments; which is understandable. I get it!  I didn’t want to talk about being treated in this way with nobody; not even my kids; when I was going through it! I was trying to wrap my head around why I was being treated this way. I thought I was doing everything right; but guess what? The book of John in chapter 10 verse 10 instructs us that the “enemy only comes to steal, kill and destroy.” I didn’t know that back then; I thought I was doing something wrong! Nobody deserves to be treated like a piece of garbage; I don’t care who they are. What really blew my mind; both relationships that I was in; I spoke to their moms about how I was being treated and how they were beating me and you know what both of these “grown boys” mother asked me? What did YOU do to Him? What did YOU say to Him?



I couldn’t and won’t be like those mothers! Both of these mothers experienced #domesticviolence as well; so, how can you promote it? Many of us don’t get the help or counseling we need after going through traumatic experiences like this. So many of us just want to sweep it under the rug; like it never happened and forget about it! We are afraid of people judging us; because they do! People on the outside looking in; always have an opinion! People that haven’t been in this type of situation don’t understand the emotional, mental, physical or spiritual aspects that you have to try and make sense of; let alone why you stayed!


Sometimes all we need to do is listen! Don’t judge! Don’t give our two cents and don’t take sides!! Especially if you don’t know what to say or how to say it! I had someone come to me years later and apologize for their blatant disrespect. At the time, she didn’t know what to say because she had never been in that situation; but it took her that long to process; that she was wrong.

But, do use see why we need to break the curse? Break the cycle! People actually think this is okay! They always want to blame the victim and they don’t fully understand the after effects! I was messed up for years; I can’t even begin to tell you what I had to go through; but I knew that I didn’t want my kids repeating the cycle!


When you decide to become a parent; you are bringing new life into the world! You have to mold, shape and guide them; it’s not always going to easy and fun. It’s going to be difficult and trying at times; but who would you rather raise them up?


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Babies in my House: #Spiritual Sunday’s Guest Blogger Evangelist Angie Bee

Babies In My House!

There comes a time in the lives of some married couple when a new person invades their honeymoon. Some couples discuss having children while others receive that miracle as an unexpected blessing. I talked to MY husband about children while we were dating and he agreed that if the Lord blesses us to raise a child, he would be okay with that. Well, we prayed over it, I got my house in order and now our home has been invaded. My 6-year old niece from Michigan is spending the summer with us in Florida! #Woo #Hoo!

Having my sister’s only child with us is certainly bringing up a new dynamic in our home! Watching my husband interact with Sandra is a blessing. Just the way she jumps when he speaks, or the way her brow wrinkles when he teases her… it just cracks me up! I have watched her interact with her mom and with my dad (her granddad), but there is just something special about watching her interact with her Uncle. My husband Bartee and I have never raised children together, so having her with us shows me an entirely new aspect of my hubby!

The Bible teaches us in 1 Timothy 5:18 – Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

This summer we are caring for our relatives. My sister is taking a much needed rest from the daily grind of single parenthood and my niece is learning about rules and boundaries with other relatives. They may not live “in our own household”, but I believe that the word household should be extended to include relatives living in other states. Blood doesn’t just run within my four walls; blood is blood. I don’t want to look back year’s later and wonder if there was anything more than I could have done to help raise a niece, cousin, Godchild or nephew.

Each of us have our hands full with our own responsibilities, and I recognize that. Each of us have our own homes to manage, yet Galatians 6:10 tells us Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.

This scripture leads ME to believe that, no matter how full our hand’s are, we should still reach out to do all that we can to help one another. We all know a single parent that hasn’t seen an “adult” movie in the theaters in a while. Grab that child for a couple of hours and let that parent go see a movie! Some of you know a “wayward” teenage son that could benefit from some time away from home. Pick them up, take them under your wing and share YOUR testimony with them. You may be able to make a difference in the life of a future leader in your family or your neighborhood.

Lord, thank you for my family. Thank you for our community and thank you for my life. Use me Lord. Speak through me and let your light shine so that others may see your glory. Allow me to be the difference in the life of a child and anoint others to do the same. Thank you for my patient husband Bartee. Please enlarge his territory and lead him on the path that you want US to follow. Thank you Lord. I love you.

In the name of Jesus


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Christian Author Spotlight: Denise Walker

Denise M. Walker is an author, educator, podcaster, writing coach, editor, and promoter of Christian and children’s literature. She is the founder, instructor, and curriculum writer for Project H.O.P.E. Youth Institute. Her new book is titled: Hannah’s Hope. This is her first youth novel that will be used as a mentoring tool. She is also the author of a youth journal, “Re-Presenting God: Taking a Healthy Look at the Holy One of Israel. This journal is on the deity of Christ. It helps youth to understand that their Identity is found in Him.

I wrote Hannah’s Hope to bring awareness to the area of child abuse in students at the middle school level. Also, to get young girls to feel free to talk using the character, Hannah and to report their abuse. In addition, I create journals/workbooks to help build literacy and the true identity of Christ in middle grades teens.

My target market is teen girls and/or any parents, teachers, mentors, Christian youth counselors, or youth ministry leaders.

Hannah’s Hope addresses the topic of child abuse. Hannah, like many other children, attends school daily and puts the best on the outside while screaming “Help me” on the inside. Hannah often wonders, “Why do I have to endure such a horrible secret? Why can’t I just live a normal life? Besides, I’m only twelve years old. Are my other classmates going through the same thing?”


©️2018 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises Used with Permission Denise Walker: Hannah’s Hope (Christian Author Spotlight)

Spiritual Sundays: Frameworks for Success…Guest Blogger Tarsha Campbell

We have officially made it through the 1st week of the new year!! Who is ready for a successful year? Who can use some tips in being successful? I know I can! Tarsha Campbell shares some very insightful tips.

In order for a house to stand it must have a solid framing system in place before the walls and the other parts of the house are installed. Psalms 127:1 says, “Expect the Lord build the house they labour in vain that build it.” God, through his written word and progressive word (prophesy, dreams, visions, words of wisdom, etc.), has given us different frameworks to help us build a successful life. One such framework is found in Joshua 1:8:

This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein; for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous and then thou shalt have good success.

Here’s the framework for success found in this scripture:

1. Don’t let the word depart out of your mouth (speak, eat, digest it)

2. Meditate on it day and night (be constantly mindful of it)

3. Observe to do all that is written (Seek to do all it says, live it)

Here’s another example of a framework in action. This is the framework given to me by way of a proceeding word from the Holy Spirit. It’s regarding my health and maintaining a healthy body weight.

4. Exercise regularly (cardio and resistance training)

5. Limit your intake of fatty foods and sugars (eat healthy)

6. Stop eating when you are full

7. Avoid emotional eating

8. Maintain a healthy a digestive system (regular colon cleanings)

9. Take your vitamins

10. Drink plenty of water

As I’m diligent to live within the parameters of this framework I’ve been able to reach my goal of maintaining a healthy body and weight for over 40 years. This goes to show you frameworks work when you work them! What are some frameworks you can employ in your life to reach specific goals you are desiring to achieve?

Your Next Step Coaching Minute:

To construct winning frameworks in your life I encourage you to spend time in God’s presence and write out different frameworks for success revealed to you for the specified areas listed below:

• Your health

• Your finances

• Your relationships

• Your business and/or ministry

Once that’s completed, practice what’s been revealed to you until it becomes a habit and you gain the mastery. Much success!

© 2018 Tarsha L. Campbell, All rights reserved. This is copy-written material, use only with permission from the author.

Christian Author Spotlight: Ashley Porter

As a Self-Published Christian Author we have to find ways to put our work out there; I want to help those in the same boat as me!

Today starts something that I would love to continue throughout 2018 and beyond! Put a spotlight on my fellow authors and showcase their work.

First up is Ms. Ashley Porter; you may be asking yourself; who is she?

There’s no escaping the calling over your life. No one knows that better than Ashley Porter who not only embraces her divine purpose, but helps others do the same.

Through blogging, motivational speaking/ teaching, empowerment coaching/mentoring; Ashley is committed to breaking generational curses and reclaiming family unity.

This dedication affirmed her decision to start Virtuous Visionaries, where she mentors and coaches women who are ready to thrive in their purpose. Ashley founded Goal Getters Empowerment Association in 2013 which is focused on youth.

Ashley enjoys traveling, loving and laughing with her son, Daniel. She’s a multi-talented soul with many skills.

Her book is called Basic Training: How to Prepare for your Spiritual Quest.

What does Ashley say about her book and why she wrote it?

This book is a literal answer to a prayer. In 2014, a friend of mine mentioned she believed in a “higher power” but was unsure about the Bible because people wrote it. She was they type of person with an answer for everything so instead of arguing, I said to myself “I got something for her!” I went home that night and I prayed and I asked God to show me how He used people to write the Bible so I can tell her the truth- within the next 6 days I wrote the entire book.

I also asked Ashley; who did she plan to reach with writing her book?

The target market for this book is pretty broad, this book is for any and everyone. Regardless of age, gender, background this book is a tool to equip and reposition the reader to be in alignment with their God given purpose.

If you’re reading this then Ashley has a special message for you:

If you have a pulse, you have purpose. However, identifying and preparing for your divine calling is not a simple task.

You will need faith, the currency of the kingdom, because when our faith grows, we gain access to kingdom knowledge; but not before we go through a series of tests.

Based on the word of God, Basic Training serves as a light to your path, helping you realign with God’s desires by first moving you out of your own way.

Each chapter trains you to further develop the necessary tenacity, discipline, courage and patience to survive periods of discomfort and doubt.

When people enlist in any branch of the military, they have to go through basic training. This also holds true for your Christian walk of faith.

You will be tested and required to step up and out of your comfort zone to become the best possible you.

What is God trying to tell you through your current season in life?

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And purchase her book as well!

Thank you Ms Ashley Porter for allowing us to showcase your book.

©️2018 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises used with permission (Ashley Porter)

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