Rest and Reflection


I am back after a much needed break! It started out just me needing a break and maybe even some rest; but then I got word that a friend had passed and then it turned into something else. How do you deal with the loss of a loved one or someone you call a friend? I have never been good at dealing with death; I’m either a crying maniac or quiet and secluded.

I really let all my social media go I wasn’t posting like I’m used to doing and it showed because I lost a lot of followers which actually made me laugh. Why do you ask? Because if it’s that easy for someone to stop following you then they weren’t going to be a loyal follower anyway! My content didn’t change? My messages are always positive and uplifting? I needed some personal time and I took it; people that value you and appreciate you would understand that!

My friend that passed understood me, she appreciated me and most importantly she accepted me for who I was! Doing our time as friend’s, life happened many times and we lost track of each other but God always brought us back together; he always allowed us to reconnect and it was always as if we never parted. That’s friendship and that’s loyalty…

That time away allowed me to think about so much and going forward I won’t worry about numbers on social media; but I will tell you this if the numbers continue to decline I will laugh each and every time! Many times the people that you need to reach aren’t on social media; they are more up close and personal. They are your family, friends and the real life individuals that you interact with on a daily basis; at the grocery store, the bank, the drive thru and even at work. Social media can be fun and entertaining but don’t allow it to take place of more important things like your purpose!

In business, we sometimes if not all the time utilize different methods to reach our audience and social media is that for many companies; but you have to know when something isn’t working and move on. So going forward it will be full steam ahead but in a different direction and I am looking forward to what lies ahead.

What is it in your life that you need to evaluate? Have you lost something or someone and need to take some time to reflect? Are you on the absolute best track in your life? When was the last time you took a break?

Are you a part of the Sisterhood?

Why you?
This question can be posed many ways; lots of options come to mind.

1. Why are you single?

2. Why are you a single mom?

3. Why should you be his wife?

4. Why should you get this new job?

5. Why should you be promoted?

6. Why did you get fired?

7. Why did you become self-employed?

8. Why did he break your heart?

9. Why did he cheat on you?

10. Why did you move to a new city or town?

There are so many different scenarios that can play out; but will they all generate the same answers or response?

As a woman I’m sure we can relate to a few of the different questions posed and may very well have a detailed story for each of them. 

While we all may lead very different lives we all still have one thing in common; we are all women and we can all experience the same kinds of trials and tribulations. 

Being that we are all women shouldn’t we have each other’s back? Have a mutual respect for each other? Even though we may not personally know each other? 

I don’t know where it started or how it even got started or who sent out the memo that we were even suppose to be at odds; but we all can go so much higher and reach all time highs, if we just did our best to respect and admire one another! 

When you are walking down the street or hallway at work; would it be so awful to speak to the other woman walking towards you? Never mind she may look mean or like she doesn’t want to be bothered! You have no idea what she is facing, what she is going through or what she has been through! Your words can very well be what she needs to hear a simple “good morning” can brighten anyone’s day, especially if they are dealing with all kinds of craziness at home or on the job! 

You speaking to them with just a hint of positivity can trigger that goodness in their mind that may have been covered up and just needed to be released! 

As a woman I have experienced so much dislike from my fellow sisters and I know many of you can relate! Much of the dislike has no warrant at all on our part; so of us simple walk in the room and the looks of death start raining down! Why? I can’t fully answer that question but I will say that I never allow it to stop me from being who I am; kind, considerate, compassionate, emphatic, loving, caring and supporter to many; even those that dislike me! 

Ladies never allow anyone not even the next woman to steal your shine! We all can rise to the top! We don’t have to dislike the next woman for her climb up the ladder; support her, cheer her on, be her biggest supporter; so when it’s your turn you can expect the same. 

What else can we as women do to be better in our sisterhood?