#SpiritualSundays: Your Steps Are Ordered…..

“In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps”. Proverbs 16:9 (NIV)

You know I didn’t have anything planned to write about today; and then I read this scripture! Wow, isn’t that amazing? I know I was amazed!

Does it make you wonder how it would apply to other things as well? You are getting ready to go hang out with friends and all of a sudden; they call and cancel on you. You got this amazing interview lined up; for what you think, is the perfect job and they send you a letter the day before saying: we have decided to go with someone more qualified!

How would that make you feel? Either situation at face value may suck and put you in a funk; but, look at it differently. Read that scripture again but this time more slowly and meditate on its every word. “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps”. Proverbs 16:9

You were almost ready; on your way out the door but God had something else in mind for you! You called all your friends and family and told them about this interview, the company and all the money you would be making; but God has other plans for you!

Better is coming! The things that we hope and pray for can be our best in our minds but God can always go Higher, Bigger; and Better.

How do you feel when these type of situations take place? Do you talk about your friend to someone else? “Girl, I can’t believe she did me like that; I was all ready on my way out the door!” Dude, that man was talking about this party all week and all of a sudden; he gonna call and cancel on me? I wasn’t dressed yet but I was about to be!”

Sound familiar? After reading and meditating on that scripture; do you feel any different? Will you think differently next time? I will assure you there will be a next time! Learn the lesson now and change your reaction to it!

Have you ever heard that saying “you learn something new everyday?” Well I’m here to tell you that is a true saying!

What I learned yesterday; but didn’t catch it until this morning! Is that God is always blessing us! It may not look or feel like a blessing at that moment but as you take the time and internalize it and think on it; you will catch the revelation.

We don’t know what God was blocking when he cancels out our plans. He could be saving our lives! Saving us from some type of hurt or pain! When you look at it this way; you change your thinking, your mindset, the outcome and your reaction to the situation and just thank him!

Thank you Lord for stepping in all those situations that we think are good but you see it as bad! Thank you for that phone call or letter that may seem like a negative but you turned it into a positive!

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Special Edition: It’s My Anniversary: Single Mom of Purpose….

You know what? I’m happy! I’m Free! I’m excited about my life as a Single Woman and even more a Single Mom! My kids are such a blessing and amazing kids! They work my nerves; LOL, but they make me want to be the Best Mom possible!

This is My Story:

This month; this year marks 11 years that I decided to take a stand; and decided that my children and I mattered more than a superficial relationship; that I had been wrapped up in.

Have I looked backed? Of course; and you know what I realized? That I made the best decision possible!

I was a Single Mom then; and I continue to be one today; it’s hard but I continue to press because I know God is with us!

We’ve never wanted for anything along this journey that God didn’t provide! Always had shelter, food, water, clothes; the necessities anything else is and was a blessing!

So many women think they can’t make it without a so-called man (a grown boy) so they settle and years later regret that very decision! I didn’t want to continue down that road; that bump in the road!

You see staying with him; allowing him to mistreat me, disrespect me and my children; wasn’t going to be a lifetime option for me!

I wouldn’t, I couldn’t; stand before you now as The Single Mom of Purpose….I am because God says I am..He and only He holds the keys to my Life…My Destiny…

Being single at times isn’t fun; and it’s hard work being a Single Mom! But, when you know that Greater is Coming! Baby, you look here; I’m ready and equipped to take on whatever trial and tribulation I have too and push through to that Blessing on the other side….

This is my Truth; what’s yours? Be unafraid! It took me sometime to find my voice; but know that I have…..

©️2018 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Special Edition: Single Mom of Purpose)

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Kingdom Gals: Power, Persistence & Prayer……Tamara McCarthy

I was listening to a devotional the other day; did you get that “listening”! Don’t you just love the power of technology? You can listen instead of reading; Praise God!! When you’re busy and on the go; that is an awesome way to get some spiritual reading in.

So, like I was saying I was listening to a devotional the other day and the author was talking about three things: Power, Persistence and Prayer!  These are three words that you want to incorporate into your life starting today; if you already haven’t!

The author of the devotional didn’t go into what the words mean; maybe because they are self-explanatory. But, I like to be thorough when I explain something; so I am going to go the extra mile and provide a definition for each.

Power: “ability to act or produce an effect “and “possession of control, authority, or influence over others” (www.merriamwebster.com)

Persistence: not backing down or refusing to give up (personal definition)

Prayer:  “the act or practice of praying to God” (www.merriamwebster.com)

Now, that I provided a definition to give an understanding of what we are speaking about today; let’s dive in.

Have you ever heard someone say that “your words have power“? How about “what you speak determines what will happen in your life“? If you speak negatively that can bring an negative outcome; what about speaking positive? Why would people speak negative into their life or the lives of others? It’s simple, many people don’t believe that there is “power in their words”. How can God bless your situation if you are constantly speaking negatively?

Are you persistent when you pray? Do you keep praying for the same things? Or do you give up after you don’t see any movement? That was the question the author posed; “are you being persistent; when you prayer? Do you keep on asking, seeking and knocking?

Matthew 7:7 (KJV) says this “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you“.

In the book of  Luke 18:1-8 (KJV) we find out about the persistent widow but I want to highlight verse 4-5For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think,yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!” (www.biblegateway.com)

Are we going to get everything we pray for? Maybe not, but should we just give up completely and not continue to pray?

God will tell you No sometimes; that just how it’s going to be. He has the master plan for our lives; maybe we are shooting too low and He wants us to go higher. God isn’t a materialistic God! He just doesn’t operate out of cars, clothes and money! He isn’t like that. He tells us in his word that we shouldn’t concentrate on the things of this world. (Romans 12:2)

Make a list of the things that you have been praying for; which ones do you think are important to God and the plans He has for your life? Do you need those new shoes? Maybe not; especially if you have 50 other pair in your closet; you can scratch that off your list. Are you praying to go on a missions trip and cant afford to go? This is where you want to speak those powerful words, be persistent and prayer! This can stay on your list and just await the outcome.

Who are you praying for? God isn’t a selfish God; he gives freely and expects us to do the same. Are you taking the time out to pray for others and their well-being? Who is on your prayer list? Do you have a prayer list? If not; start one today!

Who in your life; can use some intercessory prayer? Intercede for those that can’t pray for themselves and use those powerful words, be persistent on their behalf. Everyone doesn’t believe in the power of prayer; so you will have to be their advocate.

You may be asking yourself; what should I pray for them? You can be simple or you can be detailed; allow the spirit to move/direct you. Example: Father God, I come to you today on behalf of my co-worker; who may be in need of your help. She doesn’t want to ask you; so I will intercede for her. Help her in all her difficult times and trying situations that may look helpless to her. Show her that you are real; and love all your children; even though they may be going down the wrong path. Guide her steps, oh Lord. In the mighty name of your son Jesus, I pray. Amen.

This kind of prayer can be applied to anyone and their situation; just change up the names and circumstances. Can you imagine how better our lives would be as a whole; if we prayed more for those around us?

Have you ever drove past a car accident and just prayed for all those involved? What about driving or walking past a homeless person; did you pray for them and their situation? And the countless children that are given up for adoption and placed in foster homes; did you pray for them?

There are so many different circumstances that require us to pray. Prayer isn’t selfish; it’s just not for us and our needs; but prayer will require us to pray for others as well.

When something happens beyond our control; people are quick to ask: “Where was God; how could He allow this to happen?”. Did you petition Him? Did you cry out and ask Him that very question? Do you have a relationship with Him? Relationship requires prayer…will you pray?

©️2018 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Kingdom Gals Series)

Kingdom Gals: Can You Deny Yourself? Tamara McCarthy

It’s official; we made it through the 1st 2 weeks of the New Year! I don’t know about you; but, 2018 is already feeling like a AWESOME YEAR! Big things are going to happen this year; do you believe it?

Come on now; you have to feel all this goodness floating around in the atmosphere. Just reach out and grab hold of it……

Let me let you in on a little secret; in order to grasp all the goodness; you have to deny access to the bad stuff! Yep, you heard me right; get rid of all that old smelly stuff you been holding on to. Do I really have to spell it out for you? One-sided relationships, negative thinking, sinful behavior; ungodly speech, destructive motives, etc.

How do you expect to find favor and gain access to a better life when you aren’t willing to give up some stuff? You want to lose weight; but you won’t stop eating the foods that are putting on the pounds; and causing strife in your body? You want to gain better employment but you won’t apply your education; your knowledge? You want people to respect you; but you don’t respect yourself?

This is the month; the time of the year were so many are starting and implementing their new years resolutions. It’s time to get in where you can fit it in! Detox your mind, your body, your thoughts, your habits, your spirit and your soul. It’s time to DENY YOURSELF…..”Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.” Matthew 16:24 (NKJV)

So again I say and I ask you the question: Can You Deny Yourself? Can you let go of what no longer serves you?

Join me as I step out of the boat and walk out into the deep raging waters; but remember to always keep your eyes on HIM….

Things to Remember:

  1. The Battle can’t be WON without proper execution and strategy!
  2. Allow others to hold you ACCOUNTABLE..
  3. Pray it out; HE is always Listening…

 

©2018 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Kingdom Gals Series)

2017 Has Taught Me….

With each new year that comes and goes; I believe it’s necessary to have reflection. Reflection of how to go forward, what you learned from the previous year and what you can do to be a better person.

How else do we expect to grow and change our outlook if we don’t do a self-evaluation?You see it can’t always be about someone else! What did you do? What didn’t you do?

You see for me I didn’t speak up enough; I just allowed things to play out as they may. Could I have said something? Yes, but many times I chose not too. I for one like my peace and keeping my sanity in check. What was it for you? What did you let slide; or did you speak your mind? How far did it get you?

I have never been a fan of new year’s resolutions; why? Because life always happens and by February all those resolutions are out the door! But one thing that I have incorporated over the years is looking at how my year went and what I could change going forward.

In 2017, I can honestly say I learned lots about me and people around me.

#1. I learned that I wasn’t made to fit in but I was created to stand out.

This one right here was a biggie for me! You see people will always try to control you if you let them! They want you to play by their rules, be who they want you to be; and I learned that has never and will never be me. God has uniquely made you for a special purpose; don’t allow people who don’t know how to handle that; derail you!!

#2. That if you want to know who is really in your corner; break something!

Wow, this was a real challenge for me that I didn’t even sign up for! But hey, I made it through!!

Being a single mom with a broken ankle-foot; was absolutely no fun! That is a story in itself! I have never been one to have a large number of friends; weirdly, I like it that way.  But I really found out during this challenge that the small number I thought I had was just a mirage! Sisterhood is something I have always enjoyed writing about because it is being flung around like an old high school jersey.  When will women really take a stand and unite for the greater good? Friendship seems like a thing of the past; that has been replaced for networking and somebody’s next come up! How far can you get me up the ladder? Who are you connected to; that I can connect with? Is that what we have been reduced to? It’s time to change that circle; maybe expand it out a little bit….

#3. That NO MATTER WHAT GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.…..

Look you don’t have to believe it; or in HIM. But when I tell you 2017 has been thus far one of the most challenging years for ME. My life could’ve gone so many different ways with the obstacles, challenges, trials and tribulations that came my way; BUT GOD, kept me through every last one! When people walked away; HE still had my bad! When people told me no; HE said YES!

So you see; this is just a couple of the things that 2017 has taught me and I am so very excited to still be here and I am eagerly awaiting  to see what 2018 has in store! What about you?

What has 2017 taught you?

What have you learned?

And what will you change going forward?

Kingdom Gals: I Was Robbed…

Have you ever been robbed? Did they take something of value? How did you cope? Where the items replaceable? The value of what was taken was priceless; this wasn’t something you can put a price tag on!

What if what they stole; you couldn’t get back? How would you deal? How did you deal?

I was robbed over 30 years ago and it took me a little over 20 years to be healed from it!

One day walking home from school my best friend asked me to walk her home. Earlier that morning my mother had told me to come straight home. Now I don’t remember any other day where my mother told me to come straight home ( this is why as children; we are told in our lives and also in the Bible to obey our parents). But being the helpful and caring person I was born to be and always putting others before myself I thought nothing of it; and in an instant disobeyed my mother’s instruction! (The enemy knows our very weakness; even if it’s looked upon as a strength he uses it to his advantage!)

That very disobedience changed my life and snatched my childhood from my young hands!

My friend was afraid of her neighbor and his friends; we all went to the same school; so there was nothing that went off that screamed danger. Once getting to her house I knew I still had a ways to go to get home; and I asked her if I could use her phone to call my mom. She declined; her dad was home and he was very strict and she didn’t want to get in trouble.

No mind you I had just disobeyed my mother’s instructions to help her; but she couldn’t help me! Again, children this is why you should obey your parents! Friends come and go, they will use and discard of you once they get what they want! Your parents even though they may be strict and mean sometimes are doing that because they want to protect you!

Do you know how many times I played that day over and over in my head? If I would’ve just went straight home! If I would’ve just listened to my mom! If I would’ve put myself first and not my friend (or so I thought)!

As I left her house I didn’t get too far because I had my first run in with the enemy! Do you know that the enemy will choose whomever he wants to do his dirty work? There are many willing participants he has to choose from even children! When we don’t step up as parents that opens up the doorways for the enemy to have access to your children! When women are busy chasing after grown boys and they have children at home who need them; the enemy has endless access to them! Television, video games, text messages, phone calls, computers, neighbors, others kids, and the World Wide Web!

The same boys that she was afraid of approached me and took my book bag. Words were exchanged back and forth; I told them that my mom had just given me that bag and I needed it back! I’m not sure how long this went on for but in order for me to get it back; I had to now go into the neighbors house to get it. Still no red flags were raised, I was very naive and thought we were all friends since we went to the same school.

Once I stepped into that house I then saw that it was a very bad idea! Why didn’t I go home and get my mom; so her and my dad could go back for my book bag? Why did I think I was strong enough to do this on my own? I knew nothing of enemy territory; I didn’t know it wasn’t a place for a child to think she could be in control!

That day I not only was robbed of my childhood but my virginity! Of neither I can never get back and that ordeal began the downward spiral that was my life for years to come.

I wanted my life back! I wanted to reclaim my time! I wanted to live again! For so many years I was lost and broken! I didn’t know who I was; I was dealing with an identity crisis! But that was then! I lived through one of the worst times in my life and I want to tell you; that you can too!

My name is Tamara McCarthy! I am the Single Mom of Purpose on Instagram, I am a self-published author, I am a writer and blogger! I am a Single Mom and I am a child of the Most High God!! And I am loved. I no longer let or allow other people’s words of negativity have power over my life! I take back every single thing the enemy stole from me!! I am Free.

©️2017 Copyrighted Material Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Kingdom Gals Series)

Kingdom Gals: Becoming a Kingdom Woman

BECOMING A KINGDOM WOMAN: Part One, Your Value. Written by Raquel L. McClenehan

Take a hundred dollar bill.  Walk on it. Crumple it. Sneeze on it. Spit on it. Tear it in two…it never loses its value and neither do you!

Let’s revisit the origin of our Divine Design (Genesis 2: 21-25) and we rediscover just how wonderful it is to be a woman.

Throughout the ages women have been described in many ways.  Some of the more positive terms are: Adam’s Rib, The Better Half, The Weaker Sex.

But here’s one rarely mentioned in the context of power and strength, ezer kenegdo!

You may recall it as help meet in Genesis 2:18. But perhaps have never appreciated it in its full symbolic meaning. It’s a rare word used only when God wants to display unusual power. No wonder that in some bible camps it is controversial to relate it women.

I wonder why?

For years bible preachers and teachers have assigned Eve’s role as essentially negative or at best a sort of assistant or subordinate worker to Adam.

Yes, the Sistah messed up but the truth is that she was co-regent in Eden, important, valued, and of equal importance and essence!

She was Adam’s Completer, one who enabled him to be the leader God ordained to rule His kingdom!

Sin entered the world when they BOTH failed to realize their value!

Praise God for His amazing grace!  Humankind and his authority has been restored through Jesus Christ (Romans 5:17).

His kingdom is not the Garden of Eden now but the entire world! Like mannequins in a store window our assignment is to live a life so attractive that we draw others into God’s kingdom of righteousness and grace.

Sounds intimidating doesn’t it?  Like walking all day in four inch heels, Chrystal says.  But with the right designer and the right material it is not only doable but comfortable!

So come on Kingdom woman-in-the-making embrace your inner royalty.  Command the respect God has accorded you by accepting who you are and loving it in all its uniqueness.

Do not allow anyone to demean you or make you feel inferior.  You are chosen, regal and a priestess of the Most High! (I Peter 2:9)

You are still needed and have a role and place to fulfill but can’t do it with heads bowed down in shame….if we must bow our heads let’s do so in prayer but then raise them up again in the spirit of an Ezer kenegdo woman.

A woman with value and strength on display!

2017 Copyrighted Material Raquel L McClenehan Used With Permission for Kingdom Gals Series (Tamara McCarthy Enterprises)

Raquel L. McClenehan was born on April 2, 1983, in the Bronx, New York. She truly and authentically has a heart and passion for empowering, encouraging and inspiring young ladies and women to fulfill their God given purpose.