Free Your Mind Friday’s 


It’s finally here y’all; the day many of us can’t wait to get too!! Friday oh how I love thee; let me count the ways! 

Many of you are excited and jumping up and down because it’s pay day! Well hip hip hooray! Lol, there are some of us just super excited it’s the end of the workweek!! Hallelujah 

Sometimes all you can do on Friday and over the weekend is take a mental break! The work week can be hectic for many especially those with kids! Getting them up for school, fixing them breakfast, getting them dressed; and take them to their bus stop. Then you have to get back home get yourself ready for work, feed and walk your pets, fix you some breakfast or grab something on the way and then get to work! And then once you get to work depending on your job; that can be hectic as well! Is it just me or do I have some witnesses ready to testify?

So what is a girl or guy to do to de-stress?

1. Meditate! Do you remember Martin Lawrence in the movie called Bad Boys? The scene when he was really irritated and he remembered his therapy technique to calm himself down; he rubbed his ears and spoke this words: “Woosah” and then he karate kicked something! Lol this is way different and really simple; close your eyes and take a deep breathe, in and out and imagine yourself on a secluded island with no one and nothing to distract you or disturb your peace and quiet! “Woosah

2. Get a massage! This is a great way to get your relaxation on and popping! Many places have the dim lights and sleepy time music playing! Hey what more can you ask for? Give it a try; you won’t regret it!

3. Get acupuncture! My absolute favorite! It a great stress reliever and takes away pain; its a double portion that you may not get with any other methods!!

4. Go on a weekend getaway and relax! Wherever you are in the world; I’m sure you have some pretty cool places around that you can visit on a Friday evening until Sunday morning! It doesn’t have to be far either; it can be the next town or city over. 

5. Reserve a tech-free day! You should try this once per week preferably Saturday or Sunday it will do your mind some good. Many of us have our phones on us at all the time and it does more harm than good; just think about it. You have all the news outlets at your disposal, social media accounts, etc. All of that media overload; your mind needs a break. 

Now one that I didn’t include in the lineup; is because this can be done any day of the week. Dancing; now I know some of you may not be the best dancer; but who cares! Do this in the comfort of your own home where nobody but you or your family can see you and get a good laugh; what better stress reliever is there than laughter!

Have an amazing weekend! Get your mind in relax mode and rock out!

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Coaching on Purpose: Winning Wednesday’s

Do you know the amount of people in this world that wake up each morning feeling defeated? 

Do you know how many of those same people go to sleep at night feeling defeated? 

I’m going to let you in on a little secret! Each day that you are able to get up and open your eyes; you have won the battle! 

Defeated people look and feel like they have lost something when they have in fact; gained so much more. 

They have the ability to start over! Recreate or invent a new way of looking at their life; why continue to feel defeat when you can change it and your overall outlook in your life? 

There are so many reasons why people feel defeated; these are just a few: 

1. Can’t find the right job suited for them.

2. Can’t seem to make enough money to pay all their bills.

3. Can’t seem to find the right soulmate.

4. Don’t feel like they are being an effective parent.

The way the job market is in many cities and states; people are being let go left and right! It looks like a disaster to them but if they really thought about it; it’s really a blessing! 

A new outlook that they would never have thought about if they were still employed; starting their own company gives them the opportunity to create stability for themselves and those they would need to hire. 

The jury is still out when it comes to dating. As a woman; are you supposed to go hunting for a guy? As a guy do you go out hunting for a woman? Is the guy supposed to make the first move or can the woman? What about these dating sites that everyone is using; is that the new way of dating? 

Think about this; maybe you haven’t been found by your soulmate because you haven’t found yourself? Maybe there is individual work that needs to be done; before anyone else is added to the equation. This isn’t a bad thing and the feeling of defeat has no home here! You want to recognize that you may need to work on yourself and any underlying issues now before your soulmate appears! 

Parenting can be a challenge but defeat can slide it’s way out the door; because even the best parents have their days when they want to run and hide. Kids are going to be kids! Spend some quality time with your child(ren) listen to them; interact with them; have some fun activities planned that they like and be more visible. So many times as parents we are trying to juggle this and that and we lose sight of what is really important! Kids don’t need and many don’t want a 4 course meal they want quality time with you! They don’t care about you trying to get rich they will settle for being comfortable and being able to see you every night at bedtime! 

Winning in life is easy! Get up every single day and don’t allow defeat to creep in! Take everything in stride as it comes into play; get your game plan together and execute it! You’re not defeated so whatever comes your way; you will find a way to work it out! 

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When the World Says No; But God Says Yes. Written by Bridget McCarthy: Spiritual Sunday’s 


 

We live in a world of uncertainty, but for all my spirit led men and women out there we already know we are not of this world, when the world says No, our Heavenly Father says Yes Sir/Ma’am!! I could just stop there and be done with it but I have some encouraging words for you.

It doesn’t matter how many doors get slammed in your face, literally and figuratively, or how many letters of rejection you get via email or even snail mail from all those jobs ads that you applied to that you know very well that you are more than qualified for. The scripture tell us “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9 NKJV)

Just know our Lord and savior will work it out. I know many of you, as myself would like this political election to just be over, “I swear ( I just want it) to be over, (I just want it) to be over” (Keisha Cole, 2005). Well, in a few short months it will be over and we will have a new president. 

The political candidates put in a lot of time and effort to prepare for their speeches and all those public appearances that they will be making; shaking hands, kissing those babies, just out on the campaign trail trying to sell themselves to the American people. Isn’t this much like preparing for that big job interview with that Fortune 500 Company; or the tech start-up company that just opened or the local grocer in your area? You have to have your suit pressed (steam pressed for me), shoes polished, hair and nails done.

As you’ll be making public appearance or many appearances. Ultimately, you’re selling yourself to that potential employer and in today’s job market you will find yourself making a number of pit stops and shaking a lot of hands. To be a man or women of color searching for employment in today’s society is just down right tough.

Once, you get invited into the establishment(s) and the hiring manager or managers see that you are of color they start to act very differently than they did during your initial phone interview. He/she now calls in another person to sit in on the interview with you and you’re just being told this today as your signing in at the front desk. The hiring manager is clearly nervous and goes off his/her script and begins to ask you “how are your writing skills?” And you don’t recall this being mentioned in the job posting or even a requirement of the position that you applied for. 

However, you respond by letting them know your skills are exceptional, on a scale of 1 to 10, you’re a 9.5. Then you start to think, aren’t many of the greatest authors men and women of color?

Maya Angelou, James Baldwin, Toni Morrison and Langston Hughes just to name a few. Of course, the list can go on and on. Many employers and people with a hiring authority are knowingly going against the bibles daily truths, judge not so that I may not be judged, love one another as you love yourself, treat others as you would want to be treated. In fact, these individuals are taking an excerpt from the un moral book of ethics and they are creating hurdles and challenges for people of color that are seeking work opportunities.

 It’s unfortunate and it’s a shame for anyone to be in a position to make a hiring decision to disqualify someone based on the color of their skin, male vs. female, disabled or not, young or old. But you know what, it happens and it’s happening more than ever in this season. People that have a hiring authority are making their selections based off fear. Fear is one of many sins committed. I’m not sure why when Psalm 23:4 says “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” New American Standard Bible (NASB) 

It’s clear and it’s evident that there are not enough Christian men and women left in this world that operate in a place of love, peace and kindness. Though, you may have hit a rough patch in your life or in your career just know there’s a remedy for that and his name is, Jesus.

It says in Ephesians 3:20-21 “Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen” (English Standard Version, ESV).

Many people are not operating in their faith or even being led by the spirit but that’s where we, women and men of Christ come into play. 

I am a certified Human Resources professional of 16 years, with a Masters, Bachelor’s and Associate degree along with many other certifications and I have been in every one of those situations described above. Though, my name does not reflect it; I am a woman of color and I got into the field of Human Resources and Employment Consulting because of the underrepresentation of minority women. I speak from experience both good and bad, I’m an advocate for people no matter what their race, gender, age, veteran or disabled and wanted to share some insight into what many of you may or are currently facing in today’s job market not to discourage you but to encourage you. Please feel free to contact me via my link in Bio if you need guidance as it relates to employment consulting and seeking career opportunities or just need to know your rights as a potential job seeker. Be blessed and keep our Lord and Savior 1st place above all else. 

Bridget McCarthy, HRM, MBA, PHR  

 Bridget McCarthy currently resides in New Jersey. Bridget has 16 years of Human Resources experience including big box retailers, hospital systems and non-profit agencies. She holds a Master’s degree in Human Resources Management as well as a Bachelor and Associates degree. Bridget is PHR certified (Professional Human Resources) and a local, national member and affiliate of SHRM (Society of Human Resources Management) based in Virginia and IFEBPS (International Foundation on Employee Benefit Plans) a division of the Wharton School in Pennsylvania. 

Email her for your HR related questions at CertifiedHRprofessionals@gmail.com

References

https://www.biblegateway.com/verse/en/Joshua%201%3A9

https://www.theboombox.com/keyshia-cole-the-way-it-is-album/

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+23%3A4&version=NASB

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians+3%3A20-21&version=ESV

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What Size Is Your Tank? Written by Tarsha Campbell: Spiritual Sunday’s 

 

I heard an interesting fact about a certain fish called the Oscar fish. This particular fish when placed in the right environment has the ability to reach its potential size of 16 inches. However, if placed in a limited environment, such as a small fish tank, this fish will never grow to reach its full potential. After hearing this interesting fact it made me wonder: How many people have lived, died, and never reached their full potential because their tank was too small?

Metaphorically speaking, your tank size can be a multitude of limiting factors that can keep you from reaching your full potential. These limiting factors can include:

Certain associations (the people you hang with, your connections)

• Mindsets (how you think)

• Education (skill set, your understanding)

• Your level of revelation

• Your level of influence

• Your comfort zones

Upon reading the list above I want to present two questions to you. What size is your tank? Will your current environments allow you to reach your full potential? It’s imperative that you face and answer these questions if you want to continue to grow and be all God has purposed you to be. It’s not always easy to leave behind the familiar, but I guarantee it will be worth it in the end.

 

Your Next Step Coaching For Success Minute:

Identify the tanks that are too small in your life.

• Why you have chosen to stay in these limiting environments? (fear, hate change, etc.)

• For each area of your life devise a strategy to move to a larger tank size.

• Make a conscious decision to grow and celebrate your growth.

 

© Tarsha L. Campbell, All Rights Reserved, Used with permission.


  

 

Tarsha L. Campbell is a dynamic, God-appointed Woman of Destiny! With this mandate she humbly serves as a licensed minister, entrepreneur, empowerment speaker, certified life coach, and business consultant. Tarsha is the author of five popular books: Help! I’ve Been Called By God: Easy Steps to Preparing and Delivering a Message, 5 Qualities of a Woman of Destiny, Woman in the Mirror: A Case of Mistaken Identity, Woman in the Mirror: Ungodly Soul Ties – Break Free to Break Through, 1001 Awesome Conference, Meeting & Event Themes. Tarsha is passionate about helping others find and fulfill their life purpose, and launch their dreams. Visit her website at: http://www.TarshaCampbellEmpowers.com

 

 

 

 

There is Life after Domestic Violence: The Single Woman Chronicles..

Self-love is something that took me many years to learn about and accept. I had been mistreated for so long; I began to accept the negativity that I had allowed myself to fall victim too. So many women across this world fall into this same trap; but I’m here to tell you there can be happiness after domestic violence!

Grown men don’t put their hands on you and call that love; its abuse and you aren’t anyone’s punching bag! Women have to endure so much in this world and being brutalized and degraded shouldn’t be on the list. Grown boys (a term that Tony Gaskins uses frequently when talking of males that haven’t fully matured even though they are over the age of 18) will fall into this category and we as women need to stay clear of them.

In my latest book The Single Woman Chronicles: God, Men and You. I wrote about the grown boys that I dated and also had children with. You see when you don’t love yourself and realize your worth; you will be mislead into believing that all men are good and if they do hit you, it’s simply out of love! 

What kind of love takes your head and bashes it into walls? What kind of love puts a knife to your throat while you are holding their son? What kind of love wraps their hands around your neck and begins to choke you; with hate in their eyes? What kind of love chases you down and attempts to set you on fire? 

“Today is a new day! Yesterday we may have made mistakes or didn’t quite get it right; but today we have the opportunity to change that”. Single Mom of Purpose 

That is a quote that I shared in my book; do you believe that you can walk away from an abusive situation? You may think because he only verbalizes his dislike towards you; that it’s not so bad. If you have children do you want them growing up seeing and hearing how you are being treated? Do you want them to accept that for their life? We as parents are to train up and teach our children how to act and treat others! Is that the behavior you want to teach them?

I am here to tell you that I left! I walked away with my life and it’s all because God had a bigger plan for my life! He saw and created something in me worth saving! He created you the same way! He designed you for a specific purpose! Don’t allow any man to take that away from you! Don’t allow any man to tell you that you don’t matter; that no one else wants you! Don’t allow any man to kick you in the ground while your children are their watching and crying! 

You deserve more! You deserve better! You were created to be loved! You were created to be respected! You were created to shine! You were created to be a Queen! 

Don’t let that situation dim your light! Don’t allow it to overtake you! Walk away and allow love to take over; there is happiness after domestic violence; but you have to want it!

1 Corinthians 13:4-13 

New International Version (NIV)

4 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love”.


I hope you choose love; there is nothing better than real love…
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Are you a Praying Woman? The Single Woman Chronicles


Ladies are you praying on a regular basis? Do you go to God with your problems, thoughts and frustrations? Praying isn’t as hard and difficult as it seems; it can be simple and direct. Heavenly Father, help me. Heavenly Father, heal me. Heavenly Father, please forgive me. Those are simple and direct prayers that you can do that will bring results. 

So many times we not knowing how to pray; and see someone do it get discouraged, because that person may be well versed and has had more practice. You have to start were you are! If you are a new Christian; then do simple and direct and do your research on praying, and when you are more comfortable, then you can move to bigger and better well versed praying; but don’t be discouraged or get weary!

Now single ladies we should also be praying for the relationship that we desire as well! You don’t want to continue to attract these grown boys that are just gonna waste your time and break your heart! 

Father God I come to you on this day that you have made; and let me start by giving you praise for who you are, the Alpha and the Omega! The beginning and the end;
thank you for giving us life and protection and guidance; Father God.

Heavenly Father we want to pray for the men in this world; most importantly the ones that will cross our path, the ones that are looking to be a husband to us or women like us. While we are here doing our work Father God don’t let them be too far behind! While we have be broken, beaten and misused; we know they have most likely suffered the same outcome.

So we pray Father God that they are able to recognize what they have experienced and bring it to you Father for your guidance, reflection, understanding and the direction that they need to change it! Remove it! And move past it! In your son Jesus name; we pray! Amen…

Do you believe that prayer can change somethings? Your outlook? Your future? Your present? Give it a try…

Set the example; so others will follow…The Single Woman Chronicles…


What example are you setting? Do you have eyes on you? The Single Woman Chronicles God: Men & You is my personal journey of relationships with grown boys who attempted to play the role of grown men. I wasn’t complete! I didn’t love myself and I didn’t know my worth! Can you relate to that?

The Proverbs 31 scripture sets the tone; it gives an example in true form to the woman we should strive to be. When you arise do your children observe you? Do they wonder where you go; do they ask what you do? So many of us as moms go to the extreme to please a man but what are you doing for your kids? How do you go out of your way for them? 

Can you honestly say you would give up dating the wrong type of guys to work on yourself and be there for your children 100%? I can honestly tell you yes I can and I have! I don’t date because there are so many grown boys appearing to be men but then the mask comes off; I no longer have the time or mind frame to deal with them. My kids and building upon my purpose means so much more! What about you?

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Command Your Day…..

Did you know you have power?
We have a choice each morning we are blessed to open our eyes! We can control our attitudes and our responses to what comes our way.

I used to have a problem with road rage! I would get so upset when someone cut me off! But when I stopped and thought about it; who was I hurting? Nobody but myself! I was raising my own blood pressure and possibly causing harm to my heart; due to the stress. Wasn’t worth it; I want to live a long and healthy life. 

Now when I’m on the road; I give those people who want to get a rise out of me their space! I stay far away from them and my drive is so stress-free. I control how I’m going to react and I love it and so does my blood pressure and my heart! Lol.

This can apply in so many different situations; I’m sure you can think of a few. 

Try it out and see how it works for you!

Until next time…
Tamara