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From The Desk of a Single Mom: Hello Somebody; Where Is Your Yes?

For so many years society and the people within; have told us and taught us that it’s time to say NO.

And for most circumstances that still applies; but, what happens when God needs you to say YES?

Now, being a single mom I’ve had my share of taking great joy in exercising my right to say NO; loud and boldly. Especially when situations don’t look like it’s going to be good for me and my kids.

When some no-good dude wants to roll up and think he going to get over on me; nope! He can be smooth as silk with his no good intentions but when you’ve been played before; you cut them short; NO and go on about your business….

Or, when a potential employer calls you after reviewing your resume and tries to offer you less than you’re worth; NO. Why do they do that? They clearly see your experience and education but still offer you less than; “excuse me I don’t want to appear rude but, NO thank you!”

And they get upset like you got a problem….Well you kinda do because you know you’re worth! Why do them the favor of taking their low paying job and “you” have to find other ways to make ends meet?

What about when you’re trying to flex your entrepreneurial muscles and start getting the word out; you get all kinds of people interested in your services. But, guess what? They don’t want to pay for nothing! Who does that? Volunteer and Entrepreneur are no where the same! Their meanings are entirely different! So you know what; NO.

Just like we have the ability to say NO; so does God. I’m sure some of you know that; right? You want something or someone so bad and you pray about it and God says NO.. Hurt your feelings right? Lol I know I’ve been there; many times and each time it hurt. Like when can I get a Yes Heavenly Father? I know you want the best for me but when can I see it up close and personal?

I thought I had an absolute yes just a little while ago; things start looking up. I got a job with this company started as a temp it wasn’t perfect but I was able to deal with it. I began to make plans along with my kids to start looking for a house; we had grown tired of apartment living (it was definitely time for an upgrade).

There were talks of the company I was working for to bring me on permanent but they were dragging their feet; so I really didn’t have that as a factor while looking for a place to call home.

Some people do that; they choose a place to live depending on where their working. Many jobs aren’t that loyal anymore and I wasn’t going to make a long term decision not fully knowing if they would even bring me on permanent and keep me!

So long story short they eventually brought me on and we ended up finding a house really far from where I worked. Lol like my commute depending on traffic was 1.5-2 hours; each way! At first it didn’t bother me I enjoyed the time to get to pray and talk to God and just clear my head. But after a month or so I knew I had to figure something out and I prayed….

July 2018 God answered!

What if God answered your prayer(s) but you didn’t have the whole picture of how it was to go down? You weren’t given a play by play? All you got was your part that you had to play; would you say YES?

I said Yes! I gave my 2 weeks notice without another job anywhere in sight! I flexed my FAITH muscles; was it easy? No! But, I had to trust and believe that God would show up and show out!

And guess what God made a way! Often times God wants to know if YOU will trust and believe in HIM. When things are going good we sometimes forget WHO makes a way for us to have everything that we have.

Soon as the times get rough we get all afraid and pointing fingers. I had to pray my way through so I didn’t fall into that trap; the enemy is always close by to see how he can get you hemmed up.

November 2018: God Showed Out…

And while I was praying for a temporary job that I had interviewed for would come through; God sent a full-time permanent job my way that I believed was one of the worst and strangest interviews I have ever had!

When you give God control and give HIM your YES…..#speechless

Will you tell Him yes?

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

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Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated! 


2017 Has Taught Me….

With each new year that comes and goes; I believe it’s necessary to have reflection. Reflection of how to go forward, what you learned from the previous year and what you can do to be a better person.

How else do we expect to grow and change our outlook if we don’t do a self-evaluation?You see it can’t always be about someone else! What did you do? What didn’t you do?

You see for me I didn’t speak up enough; I just allowed things to play out as they may. Could I have said something? Yes, but many times I chose not too. I for one like my peace and keeping my sanity in check. What was it for you? What did you let slide; or did you speak your mind? How far did it get you?

I have never been a fan of new year’s resolutions; why? Because life always happens and by February all those resolutions are out the door! But one thing that I have incorporated over the years is looking at how my year went and what I could change going forward.

In 2017, I can honestly say I learned lots about me and people around me.

#1. I learned that I wasn’t made to fit in but I was created to stand out.

This one right here was a biggie for me! You see people will always try to control you if you let them! They want you to play by their rules, be who they want you to be; and I learned that has never and will never be me. God has uniquely made you for a special purpose; don’t allow people who don’t know how to handle that; derail you!!

#2. That if you want to know who is really in your corner; break something!

Wow, this was a real challenge for me that I didn’t even sign up for! But hey, I made it through!!

Being a single mom with a broken ankle-foot; was absolutely no fun! That is a story in itself! I have never been one to have a large number of friends; weirdly, I like it that way.  But I really found out during this challenge that the small number I thought I had was just a mirage! Sisterhood is something I have always enjoyed writing about because it is being flung around like an old high school jersey.  When will women really take a stand and unite for the greater good? Friendship seems like a thing of the past; that has been replaced for networking and somebody’s next come up! How far can you get me up the ladder? Who are you connected to; that I can connect with? Is that what we have been reduced to? It’s time to change that circle; maybe expand it out a little bit….


Look you don’t have to believe it; or in HIM. But when I tell you 2017 has been thus far one of the most challenging years for ME. My life could’ve gone so many different ways with the obstacles, challenges, trials and tribulations that came my way; BUT GOD, kept me through every last one! When people walked away; HE still had my bad! When people told me no; HE said YES!

So you see; this is just a couple of the things that 2017 has taught me and I am so very excited to still be here and I am eagerly awaiting  to see what 2018 has in store! What about you?

What has 2017 taught you?

What have you learned?

And what will you change going forward?

It’s Time for Action!!

It has definitely been awhile since I last wrote anything. Life has been happening but I have missed writing which has always been my first love. I have been wrestling with should I share this or not but I know I need to be obedient. We are living in a time, season, world where pretty much anything goes and if anyone speaks up; it’s a problem. 

You get labeled as a trouble maker, hater etc which I care nothing about but, it really sucks that even when you are instructed to speak up or speak out about things that need to change; folks will always find fault with it. I’ve never quite figured out why folks don’t like to change and get or make things better; especially in the “church”. Like we all can be living better lives and experience all the greatest that God has in store for us; like isn’t that a good thing? 

Being part of clergy and the Kingdom of God, I want all those that “claim to be a son or daughter” those that truly represent the Kingdom of God to have the life of abundance that the Bible speaks of. I want us all to fully represent the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords! It’s not play play for me! It’s not just something to do! For many of us this is a true representation of who we are! When you really serve and are called to this; you want to be part of making changes and being on one accord; not with just people; but with how we represent ourselves and God’s Kingdom. We need to set the proper order. When you read your Bible and don’t see things lining up; it becomes to be a problem. But everyone doesn’t roll like this and that’s a problem all in itself. But let me go ahead and share what was giving to me one early morning this week. 

Just a little back story I took a road trip recently but before that I had been having conversations (called Let’s Talk) on various subject matters on FB Live with special guests etc. I had to say this so the next part will make some sense. 

During my trip a couple weeks ago God gave me a word that I’m going to share now. The first part was for me but the latter part was to be shared. At 1st I wasn’t sure what it meant and I had to pray for clarity before I spoke it. 
The 1st part was that my series Let’s Talk was over. The 2nd part was that “we’ve done enough talking and now it’s time to take action”…

The reasons why the church is failing; (note: this isn’t all churches)
1. Many aren’t getting healed, delivered and set free.
2. Nothing is in place beyond Sunday morning or mid week Bible study- you got folks fighting over who will deliver the message / did Jesus only speak to the people? did Jesus only heal the sick? Or did He train His disciples/Apostles to do everything that He was doing? And did they not do the same thing with the ones under their leadership? 

You have senior leadership thinking they are the only ones that God has called or put in place to preach, teach, heal, deliver, set free, prophesy, the only thing they will really only allow other folks to do is evangelize! They want you to bring the people in so they can perform some more in front of new faces: you hear them every Sunday “bring someone to church with you next Sunday or on Bible Study”; my question would be why? 

You don’t have nothing in place when they get here! 
Everyone doesn’t come to see a show they need something more than that; people are hurting, their families are hurting, they are barely making ends meet and you want them to waste their gas coming to your church to do what; see you whoop and holler and jump across the pews? 

Somebody may be thinking: they can come in for prayer; my answer is this: many in these churches can’t pray a roach to leave out of your house; let alone a blessing to hit your household! 
There are some powerful intercessors and prayer warriors but they aren’t in every church! 

You would rather dim the light cause it’s not you! This isn’t a popularity contest!!! All Glory should be given to God! All Praise should be for Him and Him alone!! Who did Jesus always point to? Who did Jesus always Honor? Who did He always credit for why He was and what He was allowed to do? 

Some of your “churches” your ministries will never be able to do what they were originally designed or created to do because you refuse to allow God in and who He has sent to help!!  

If church was only built to be on the backs of senior leadership; why did Jesus raise up disciples? Why did God have Jesus train them and install them? Why didn’t God just do it himself? 

Why were they sent out into the world? Why did they travel to other churches? 

God has sent many out to help some of you! But you’ve turned them away, you’ve rejected them; you’ve rebuked them because you thought or you felt they were coming to steal your shine. No they were on assignment to bring the light to many dark places: these dark places are what many of you call “church”. 
God will always send His prophets!!! We see and have read of all the instances in the Bible. Y’all Bible scholars and theologians have read and studied all of this so why do you shake your heads or turn the other cheek when it happens? 
Senior leaders get in their feelings and say things like this is “my church” I’m the “senior leader” I am the Bishop, I am this or I am that; well act like it then!!! Allow God to Have His Way!! 

Some of these folks y’all are putting in these positions are raggedy and tore up from the floor up!!! Many are some of the ones that will hear “depart from me, I never knew you”. Y’all will put someone in position because of their outer appearance; they clean up nice, they look good in a suit, a dress, they got a beard and bald head and all the women flock to them; they wear them tight little dresses and their hair be laid with the fake baby hairs and they know how to gather a crowd with deep pockets but their hearts are tainted!! You remember that scripture that says: 1 Samuel 16:7 

Stop making everyone an Apostle, Pastor, Prophet, Teacher, Evangelist, the Bible says “some” were called and chosen for these and y’all out here making everybody that isn’t even equipped to live a Holy- Holy is spelled H O L Y lifestyle in these sacred offices- the definition for sacred is this: 

Some of y’all that’s all you do is talk! You talk on Sundays you talk during mid week Bible study but when it’s time for the real work to be done; you’re nowhere to be found!!
What is the real work?
Healing the sick, going to check on the sick and shut in-the ones in the hospital, nursing homes-mental institutions, group homes the prisons!!
You don’t know how to lay hands and or cast out demons and instruct how to keep God’s temple clean!!
You won’t and or can’t teach others how to pray; let alone show them cause all you know is what sounds good but can’t move not one mountain!!

That is all of what I was given to share. My question is what “Action” do You need to Take? It all starts with us as individuals and then collectively as the “Body of Christ”, the “Church” but especially as “Leaders”…..

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Bid Me to Come: I Am A Water Walker!

Read: Matthew 14:22-33

✓ Are you a water walker? Are you a servant; a disciple of Jesus Christ?

✓ Jesus himself came to serve! Not only that He was about His Father’s Business!!

What are your goals and aspirations for 2020 and beyond? What are you going to do differently that you did in the previous years? Will you advance or will you continue to be idle and stagnant?

2020 is your year to stop hiding behind that mask; unveil your true self and take the mask off!

2020 is the year that people will begin to show their true colors.

2020 is your year to stop checking for folks that aren’t checking for you; and stop looking foolish!

2020 is the year for you to do a new thing; old stuff has no place in the new year!

2020 is the year that you decide to change!

2020 is the year that you decide to start walking in your purpose!

2020 is the year for you to get out of your own way!

2020 is the year for you to stop being co-dependent on other people and  live your life!

2020 is the year that you will be servant lead and stop being so selfish and self centered!

So we are in the last couple months of the new year and even though we have been in this pandemic; God has still been GOOD!! Stop letting this lies and negative people rule your life, your thoughts, your actions and the path that God has you on! You have to come off the start line like you know it’s going to be popping! Come out the gate like what up? I’m here and ready to take on the day; everyday! 2021 HERE WE COME!!

Lord as I take the first step toward getting out of the boat; I pray that you bid me to come! Show me the way the right way to go; don’t allow me to stray to the left or to the right! Keep my path straight in the direction leading right to you; in your son Jesus name I pray Amen!

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2020 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: and

Check out my podcast on or or

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And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my PhD in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

Standing Out in an Extroverted World

“I don’t fit in and never will. God has created me to stand out”. Tamara McCarthy

This quote came to me just this week as I was sitting at my desk at work. I love it when out of nowhere some kind of inspiration is downloaded into my mind, spirit and my soul. It made my day and put a smile on my face; has that ever happened to you?

I have always knew I was different! I have never liked crowds, I always hold up the walls at parties; and I don’t mind being alone. Some people will lose their minds when they are left alone; not me I enjoy my peace and quiet.

But when God calls you out of your comfort zone you do what you are supposed to do! Obey..

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2020 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: and

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And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

Finding Your Voice: Part 2. #spiritualsundays

Older guys: I have always liked older guys! If you listened to my interview then you heard me say this; at the time I really didn’t know why, but as time went on I finally figured it out.

1. Father figure: my dad was still in the house but he wasn’t there mentally and emotionally; he had a whole different life that he was living that didn’t include my mom, my siblings or myself. This is why I was so attracted to older men; trying to fulfill that daddy role!

2. Stability: you don’t want to be left alone! You think older guys have it all together; they have lived their life and you hope that they are ready to settle down; but you end up “chasing a dream” and one day you wake up and realize you did it all for nothing!

3. Security: you want to feel safe. In my case I was raped at a young age so safety was high on my list and older guys seemed to be able to fit the bill until they didn’t! Some older guys are just as screwed up as the younger guys you can’t continue to live in a fantasy world and expect real life to just happen one day! I had to figure out the woman that God needed and created me to be; before I could ever realize and know what my future husband can be like! 
Have you learned from your past?

If so; what?

That I’m not the weak and naive person; I used to be!

That I can handle anything that comes my way; simply because I am blessed and highly favored, lol with everyone saying this so much; you get tired of hearing it, but it’s true!

Old post that never got posted! 🙂

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Spiritual Sunday’s: Are You Saved?

Are You Saved?

“If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.”

Romans 10:9-10

Do you realize how many people attend church and aren’t saved?

Is there an exact estimate?

If there was, the numbers would baffle you! Many people attend church out of tradition; their grand mama went to church and they mama; so they Have to go! Or that’s where you can find a good woman or man; so they are there trying to find love or a warm body! They go because their family member is the Pastor, Minister, Deacon or what have you!

But, how many are actually there for God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit? So, my question again is; are you Saved?

Do you have a personal relationship with your Creator, Heavenly Father; your Lord and Savior? Do you know Him?

Do you follow his commandments as best you can; because none of us are perfect! We all will stumble; but will you get back up? Will you get back up and grab others by the hand and run towards Jesus and not away to hide out with the enemy?

Will you offer encouragement to another fallen sheep to get them back on their journey? Will you offer inspiration on how God did it for you and He can most certainly do it for them? Will you be a witness? A willing vessel for the Army of the Lord?

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Kingdom Gals: Do you Love Yourself?

On the surface; this seems like an easy question! But if you allow yourself to go beneath the surface; you’ll really gain more insight into finding your answer.

Just recently I was having a conversation with a co/worker and she made a statement that made me think; “we are our own worst critics” she went on to say this “we judge ourselves sometimes more than others judge us; we tend to use more negative self talk than positive”!

While this may be true for some; is it true for all? If we are going through a good season in our lives we tend to be more positive. We have joy and happiness just busting from the seams; why would anything negative have room to pour out of us.

Now when we are going through some trying times we just may have some negativity laying around to pick up and add it to our already overwhelming situation but depending on our spiritual journey; we can bounce back rather quickly; but it’s an individual choice.

When we know who we are; we are fully able to accurately answer this question. Remove the lies and hold on to your truths! You are loved; even when you don’t feel like you are. So again I ask you; do you love yourself?

Why Are You Here?

Matthew 5:1-16

Jesus gave His disciples a PEP TALK….

Jesus never missed out on an opportunity to TEACH His disciples! He knew he wouldn’t physically be with them forever, so He wanted to equip them to be effective when He departed from them!

He never shied away from speaking life into them; encouraging, motivating and empowering them to do the same things that he was able to do. But he also let them know when they were slacking off and not being who he had called them to be!

He wanted to let them know while he was training them to be fishers of men that it wouldn’t be an easy task. The road wouldn’t be easy; they would encounter many trials and tribulations on their journey; but he wanted to instill in them that they were above all that they would encounter.; and no matter how it looked or how it felt! He would always be with them!

As children of the Most High God this still applies to us this very day! The same words that Jesus spoke to His disciples have the same effect and power today! No matter your situation or circumstance; you’re still BLESSED! No matter what you’re going through when you’re living for more of God and less of you; You’re still Blessed!! But guess what?

As Children of God; we are the Salt of the Earth and the Light of the World! We will have to be the light not only for ourselves but for those around us too. We will have to share our trials and tribulations as well as our revelations. How can we be called to be the light and salt of the world; yet won’t help our brother and sister along the way? How are we to go through life and not shine our light throughout? Our testimony can be the very thing that someone else needs to hear to get their breakthrough!

Everyone won’t understand what they are going through especially those that are called “babes in Christ”. I wish I had someone who pulled me aside when I first became saved/a born again Christian-When I got baptized my first and second time and tell me young lady this journey won’t be easy, but you keep pushing. The enemy will be hot on your trail, but you keep pushing. This journey to be a sheep-a servant-a chosen and willing vessel-for the Kingdom of God; won’t always be bright and sunny; But You Keep Pushing!

Salt by itself isn’t that appealing but when it is partnered with the right ingredients-the right words-the right motives-the right intentions-the results are God driven and not Human driven—we have endless examples of Willing Vessels shining their light and sprinkling salt when needed to get Kingdom results-just as they paved the way for us; we have to pave the way for others by shining our light.

We will have to take a stand on practices that aren’t of God—as well as people-places-things that don’t line up with the word of God. Everyone doesn’t represent the Kingdom of God; many are lovers of darkness that have crept into the House of God and they are on assignment to try and get you on their team; get you off track- and out of the will of God; but be on guard and don’t allow them to overtake you.

We all have to learn to shine brighter than our problems; our emotions and especially our haters. This is why it is so vital for us as Children of God to stay in His word; speak His word and live His word!

We are to be the light of the world; we should be front and center shining our light all over the world!

We should be taking others under our wing and showing them the proper way to do things. The proper way of living for God! The proper way to represent God! We can’t assume that they are observing us from afar.

Older women should be mentoring the younger women/girls making sure our walk with God is on point! 

Older men should be mentoring the younger men/boys and making sure their walk with God is on point.

Aren’t we all supposed to be obedient to God? From what I read I don’t see where any of us are exempt. Some think since they have reached a certain age their time is done; they paid their dues; why are you Here? Why are you still coming into God’s house if you don’t want to be used by him? He doesn’t need you to just show up because you got a new dress or a new suit; he is still looking for willing vessels; will you be one? Abraham and Sarah both thought their time was up: but God still used them!

God knows his children! He knows the ones he can give certain tasks and assignments too! God is seeking out those that will be obedient; not only look the part, he has enough of those roaming around; he wants those that will answer the call and take action. He doesn’t need any more bench warmers he wants those that are ready to carry the torch! Be the light in a dark and gloomy world and isn’t afraid of going up against the big bad wolf! 

Some of us lukewarm Christians only want surface Jesus! Just enough of him to get by. But God requires Total Surrender! That requires US giving Him OUR all! 

What are you doing in your life that is a reflection in the God you claim to serve? 

Just you coming to church every Sunday sitting in the pews and giving your Amen here and there; putting your $20 in the collection plate; that doesn’t warrant a life running after Jesus; wanting more of God!

You want God to bless and heal you, but you won’t give Him access to your life. You keep him at bay until an emergency comes up and that’s when you start crying out to Him? That’s when you start asking everyone to pray for you? Why not be proactive and talk and pray to God each and every day? Why not Give Him full access into your life? Isn’t that what Jesus did? Every chance He got He was going away by himself to have quiet time to commune and talk with God! I remember seeing these words that Jesus spoke in Luke 22:42 “Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will; but thine, be done” All Jesus wanted to do was the work of His Father; All He wanted was to complete the assignment He was sent here to do! If Jesus did it why can’t you?

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2020 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: and

Check out my podcast on or or

Check out my books on Amazon:

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

#SpiritualSundays: How Bad Do You Want Him?

How Bad Do You Want Him?

Scripture: Matthew 19:16-22

This young ruler had everything that he could imagine! Cars! Clothes! Money! Maids & Butlers! Cooks & Chefs! Someone that would drive him from point A and point B and get out and open up his door for him and announce his name before he entered into rooms; so the people would know that they were in the presence of royalty! 

But he was obviously lacking in some areas because he approached Jesus and asked him: “Teacher, what good thing must I do to get eternal life ?” This lets us know that his life wasn’t all peachy! He wasn’t completely whole and there was some areas in his life; where he knew he could do better!

I don’t know about y’all; but I know I’m nowhere near perfect and I could use a lot more Jesus in my life! Matter fact I’m always praying for God to have complete control! One of my prayers is make me over God!! Renew in me a clean heart; I know I am nothing without you at the forefront of my life!!

With everything thing that is going on in this world; it still amazes me that so many people still don’t believe and still deny the one and only true Living God!! 

Is there anyone in here today that will touch and agree with me? I need a whole lot more Jesus in my life! Let me say it a little bit louder; so the people in the back and the passerby’s can hear me: I NEED A WHOLE LOT MORE JESUS IN MY LIFE!!

So many people walk around like they don’t need Jesus or God! They are good all by themselves! They wake up on their own! They are their own personal alarm clock!! They breathe on their own! They stand up on their own! They run the race alone! They need no help from no one! But if you venture back to your bible and go to the book of Genesis we are reminded that God created Heaven and Earth and everything and everyone in it! He is the reason why we can open our eyes! Clap our hands! Stomp our feet and hear the sound of rain!! That’s all God! It isn’t science and it never will be science; I don’t care who told you that!! We got black and white to back it up all they have are made up theories..

They believe that Everything they have is because they have worked overtime to get it! But many of them are sadly mistaken and it’s time to set the record straight! Many of them are enjoying the fruits of someone else’s labor! They have inherited the blessings that they are claiming to have got on their own! They are walking around all bad and boogie and they haven’t even lifted one finger to gain anything they got and they won’t even acknowledge it wasn’t them but someone that came before them is the reason why they have been blessed!

“Comedian and actor Robin Williams was one of the most well-known and successful comedians of his time. His life followed the textbook path to stardom for an up-and-coming comedian – from local bars to a major TV role (Mork and Mindy) to HBO specials, and finally to becoming a major movie star. He had suffered from depression in the later years of his life, and there were reports he was suffering from a mental disorder in addition to depression that led to him hanging himself at his California home in Paradise Gay in 2014. The tragedy is that a man who spent most of his life making people laugh was filled with a sadness we could not see or understand.” At his time of death sources state that he was worth an estimated $50 million. Now I also want to share that during his career he had been married 3 x someone say 3 x all I want to be married is once!! 1x is all I need cause when I do get married my husband is stuck ain’t no getting no divorce!! Whatever come up! We working that thing out!! But Robin Williams was divorced 2x somebody say 2x and both times he had to pay each of his ex wives $30 million dollars…somebody say dang!!! Both times 30 million dollars this is why you have to make sure you’re marrying the right person. Consult with God; shoot even the Holy Spirit can offer some insight into making life changing decisions!! Everybody repeat after me: God Am I making the right decision? Holy Spirit Am I doing the right thing? I told God years ago that he was going to have to send me my husband! I was giving up looking for one. I was tired of being a pawn in the dating game and when my husband was ready he would know how to find me. 

Anthony Bourdain:

“Died June 8, 2018, age 61, by hanging himself.

He Was a celebrity chef, travel show host, and New York Times bestselling author. Won 8 Emmy Awards!

He battled drug addiction in the past, and had openly discussed his struggles with depression

His mother said, “He is absolutely the last person in the world I would have ever dreamed would do something like this. He had everything.” His net worth is said to be somewhere around $16 million.

What won’t you give up to follow Jesus? He gave His life so that we can live and you aren’t willing to sacrifice anything? You won’t give up eating one day a week to fast and pray to get a breakthrough in your life? 

You won’t stop spending on shoes and bags that you can’t even put in your closet; because it’s already stuffed? You don’t even want to be a blessing to someone else with that money you’re using to fund these world systems! 

The homeless person that you pass on the street holding up the sign asking for food; you won’t give to them because you think they’re going to do something else with the money? 

But what are these corporations doing with the money that you give them faithfully when you’re spending your whole paycheck with them? They are aiding terrorists and the KKK but you’re not complaining about that; but soon as the church ask you for a donation you ready to flip out and curse somebody out? It doesn’t make sense! 

Many of us want surface Jesus!! I’ve said this before: we want just enough of Him to get by. We don’t want to give our lives completely over to him because we know we would have to change and give up some stuff! How can stuff be more important than God, than your inheritance, than your salvation, than the life of those connected to you! This isn’t just about you! It’s about the generations after you! Your child! Their children and you’re more focused on stuff! Stuff that you can’t take with you when you leave this earth!! I’m not that person I want to go deep sea diving take me to greater depths God so your name can be magnified!! Remove anything and anyone that isn’t of you and doesn’t have your soul and your spirit connected to them! Let those that don’t believe see the greatness you’ve done in my life so that they will want more of you and less of them!!

If you got to dress it up and make it all pretty I don’t want it!! God never said it was going to be easy! He said he would never leave us nor forsake us! We are going to go through those dark valleys; those murky waters; etc but if we allow Him to guide us then why are we afraid? Why? You trust everyone else but not Him? The creator of Heaven and Earth!! He is the King of Kings and Lord of Lords and you need a sign to know if He is real or not? Let me be the first to say: God I want all of You!! Take me as I am and Change Me! Make me over! Whatever is in me that’s not of you; take it away!!

What has the enemy promised you if you hold out a little while longer? You know God has prepared everything that you’ve been praying for; all He needs you to do is follow His lead! But you got your cousin still in your ear causing you delay and distracting you with everything and everyone that God hasn’t designed or created for you; none of it is what you’ve prayed for but it’s shiny and the enemy keeps dangling it in front of you! What has he whispered in your ear? 

This young ruler walked away from Jesus! He walked away from God! He walked away from his future inheritance!! He thought he had all he needed and he was good; but guess what? He walked away from eternal life; that isn’t promised without God! You don’t get that when you decide to turn your back on God! God isn’t obligated to save you a spot just because! Oh he is doing everything else besides giving up his riches for me; let me save him a spot! No that’s not how it works!! God requires total submission! All worldly things must cease when God steps on the scene!!

This young ruler loved his possessions more than he loved God! While he was keeping the commandments he still hadn’t given his life over to God. You can’t come to God straddling the fence! You can’t have one foot in heaven and the other in hell. You can’t claim to be a lover of God and love money at the same time. One is going to eventually become more important than the other. Most people go for the money. 1 Timothy 6:10 says this: “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.” (KJV) 

Jesus knew when he came to earth that everyone wasn’t going to love him and accept Him. He chose certain people to walk with him; were they perfect? No. Did they have it all together? No. But They dropped everything to follow him. They gave up their family, they gave up their livelihood. Jesus was offering eternal life, the opportunity to change the world and to become fishers of men. In John 21:15 Jesus asks the question of the hour: “Do you love me more than these”? This question was posed to Simon Peter as he and Jesus and some of the disciples sat down for breakfast. What I love about the question that was posed to Simon Peter is how did the question come about. Jesus had been crucified and had risen from the dead but before he was crucified he spent time with his disciples teaching them and training them to be fishers of men; to go out into the world and proclaim the good news to all who would listen and receive and heal the sick; but on this particular day; Jesus found some of his disciples on the boat fishing! 

The same question is being posed to you today: Do you love God more than these? What are the “these” in your life? Kids? Parents? Siblings? Your Boy Toy; that you know don’t want you? That chick that you call in the late night hour? That liquor bottle that you keep hidden under your kitchen sink? Those smokes that you keep hidden in your car? That blunt you hit before you came to church this morning? That needle that you keep using to ease the pain? That department store that you run to each and every payday? Those friends that keep pulling you in the wrong directions? Those pills that you keep popping because they take you to cloud 9? Those evil spirits that you allow to reside in your soul; because you think they make you better? What are your These? There should Be Nothing and Nobody that should take you away from having a personal relationship with God; or your personal journey to become a better child of God. 

My boys get on me every single week because they know that most weekends they aren’t going to see me; there are some Saturdays I leave home at 6am and I dont get back home until 8-9 pm that night; why? Cause I am out there bettering myself for the Kingdom of God; it benefits not only me but them too. When God blesses me those blessings are going to follow them. When those Generational Curses get broken that blesses them and their children!! 

I wanted God so bad that I gave up 12 years of my life to concentrate on Him and how I needed him in every area of my life! I stopped dating! I stopped sleeping around!! People on the outside looking in thought I was the perfect mom but they didn’t know in my early days I would leave my kids at home to go to the local bar to get drunk and get picked up by someone to soothe away my pain.

People on the outside looking in thought and would tell me all the time that you’re pretty or you’re beautiful and have beautiful eyes but they never knew when I looked in the mirror I hated the person looking back at me and couldn’t stand to look at myself because I had been destroyed from the inside out so many times that I began to believe all the negative that I heard.

Let me close by saying this: 

If I had time I would tell you that many of us; are like the young ruler and have already walked away from God!! They won’t fully trust Him with their life! They won’t give up those people, places & things that are pleasing to God!

If I had time I would tell you that you can’t straddle the fence between lightness and darkness and claim to be a disciple of Jesus! 

If I had time I would tell you that you need to pick up your Bible each and every single day and find a scripture that resonates with your soul and let it marinate throughout the day! 

If I had time I would tell you that it’s highly important that you thank God in your wins and in your losses! Praise Him every chance you get!

If I had time I would tell you that you should pray without ceasing every single day! Pray in the morning, afternoon and at night! But most importantly pray in the spirit!!

If I had time I would tell you that certain stuff only goes away with praying and fasting! Those soul ties those strongholds; those generational curses; aren’t leaving just because you don’t talk about them! You’re going to have to pray & fast!

If I had time I would tell you to love your neighbor as well as your enemy because God is watching and whatever we put out it will always come right back around!

If I had time I would tell you that God is better than anything this world can ever offer you! Money! Car! & Clothes!! Nothing can compare to Him; the Alpha & the Omega!!

If I had time I would ask you do you love money more than you love God? Money can’t hold you close at night when someone has literally stomped your heart in the ground; but God can..

If I had time I would ask you why are you really here? Do you want to be healed & delivered? Or are you still afraid to take up your mat and walk?

If I had time I would ask you what would it take for you to completely be all in for God? 

If I had time I would tell you to never let go of God’s unchanging hand; no matter how it looks; no matter how it feels!! 

The same question posed to Simon Peter by Jesus is the same question I have been sent to ask you all today: Do you love God more than these? What are your these? 

Sermon message preached 1-19-2020

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

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#SpiritualSundays: How Do You Treat Others?

Are we Christians for real or are we playing a game? Tag your it!!

Are we living for God, reading His word and walking the walk? Or are we still hiding behind a mask? Are we still allowing the enemy to use us? We go to church every Sunday but yet we still living the same way; speaking the same way; doing the same old things.

When you truly come to Christ; your heart must change and your wicked ways should be no more.

Matthew 25:31-46

How Do You Treat Others?

With the current state this world is in; this scripture really speaks to me! How Do You Treat Others? Do you love everyone; or just some? Do you pray for everyone; or just some? Do you care for everyone or just some?

In this passage of scripture; Jesus is speaking and teaching us right from wrong; He gives us vivid examples of how we are to carry ourselves when it comes to interacting with others! Not those that only look like us but those that are hungry! Where is the skin color? Anybody can be hungry; will you feed them?

Those that are thirsty; can you quench their thirst? Better yet will you? There are so many that are naturally thirsty; will you give them water to replenish their body? There are so many that are spiritually thirsty; crying out for a drink of knowledge; drink of wisdom but can’t afford the cover price; will you provide for them? Will you mentor them? Will you encourage them? Will you motivate them? Will you coach them? Will you teach them? Where is the skin color? Jesus charged no cover charge to His disciples; when did everything become about money?

Those that are naked; will you choose to cloth them or turn away? Does their skin color matter to you? Many government laws don’t get passed because they feel it will only help one race and they choose not to pass the law; because it will help advance blacks, browns, poor, neglected folks, widows, single moms; etc many in these offices of power don’t care about the least of these! They would rather push laws that will continue to make the rich richer instead of helping the greater good; that’s not God!!

Do you know each and every person you encounter on a daily basis? Many of who you encounter are strangers; if they passed out in front of you and they are gasping for breathe; would you help them? If you encountered a homeless person and they asked for your help; would you provide shelter; or does their skin color matter to you?

How we treat others; matters to God! How we interact with others; matters to God! Why do you think Jesus had to teach this? Many in this world think slavery is okay; why? I believe because it was about Black people! Do you really believe if other races were slaves they would be okay with trying to take us back to that? What’s even more disgusting is that folks that claim to follow the same Jesus that is speaking in Matthew 25:31-46; think this is okay! Can you honestly read this scripture and tell me that Jesus is the basis for these folks thinking and reasoning? We all know that God can use anybody; but would you agree the same goes for the enemy? The enemy will use any willing candidate he chooses! Evil doesn’t care who it uses; to do its dirty work!

Racism! Hate! Isn’t of God; so if you support or take part in this; stop lying and claiming to be a Christian! Stop claiming to walk with God! Stop stepping foot in the pulpit lying to folks because you obviously don’t believe in the Bible you’re attempting to teach or preach from! Stop misleading folks! Read Matthew 25:41-46 again and allow it to seep into your spirit and your soul! The Bible does not lie; nor will God’s wrong return to Him void!! He gives us all a chance; an option. To choose Him or the enemy; to choose light or choose darkness! What will or have you chosen?

If you are truly walking with God; let it show in your everyday life! Live His word! Speak His word! Be His word! Preach His word! Teach His word!

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

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Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

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It’s Just the Beginning: #Spiritual Sunday’s

Job 13:15-18 The Message (MSG)


“So hold your tongue while I have my say, then I’ll take whatever I have coming to me.

Why do I go out on a limb like this and take my life in my hands? Because even if he killed me, I’d keep on hoping. I’d defend my innocence to the very end.

Just wait, this is going to work out for the best—my salvation! If I were guilt-stricken do you think I’d be doing this—laying myself on the line before God?

You’d better pay attention to what I’m telling you, listen carefully with both ears. Now that I’ve laid out my defense, I’m sure that I’ll be acquitted.” (MSG)

When you read through the chapters of the book of Job you find out that Job was taken through the fire!! He lost a lot! He friends believed he did something wrong and even his wife doubted him!! But through it all Job kept his Faith in God and his blessings were multiplied!! He got double for his trouble…Why would your situation or mine be any different? Shouldn’t we have to go through the fire as well?

Could it be the very struggles your dealing with is because the enemy thinks you’re too laid back and wants to ruffle your feathers?

Sometimes you have to be crushed; in order to rebuild… refocus…to re-adjust!! If everything is going well in your life.. then what do you need God for? What do you need Faith for? Some of us need to be reminded of who and what got us to the heights we have reached! The tables we have sat at! The places we have been!

Crushing shouldn’t always be viewed as the end of something; but the beginning of something that is going to change the outlook and the pinnacle of your life.


1. a lofty peak.

2. the highest or culminating point, as of success, power, fame, etc.: the pinnacle of one’s career.

3. any pointed, towering part or formation, as of rock.

You want your life to be transformed!! That requires Crushing to take place!!

Everything that no longer serves you: needs to be crushed….the season that you’re walking into and the greatness that God is about to allow to unfold in your life; can’t happen unless there is Crushing of old habits, old mindsets, old reactions, old relationships, they all need to be Crushed!!

Let’s look at it like this; what’s one of the hardest moments in your life? Most of us will have multiple moments buts let’s focus on just one for now. What happened? At what point in your life did it happen? Who came to your rescue? Did you survive?

Every crushing moment isn’t meant to kill you-it may feel like something has died or been removed from your life; but are you still opening your eyes every morning? Are you still getting up and standing on your own two feet? Are you able to walk to the mirror and your reflection is staring back at you? If you answered yes to all these questions then you Sir, You Maam have been granted a new lease on life! What are you going to do with it?

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: and

Check out my podcast on or or

Check out my books on Amazon:

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!