From The Desk of a Single Mom: Hello Somebody; Where Is Your Yes?

For so many years society and the people within; have told us and taught us that it’s time to say NO.

And for most circumstances that still applies; but, what happens when God needs you to say YES?

Now, being a single mom I’ve had my share of taking great joy in exercising my right to say NO; loud and boldly. Especially when situations don’t look like it’s going to be good for me and my kids.

When some no-good dude wants to roll up and think he going to get over on me; nope! He can be smooth as silk with his no good intentions but when you’ve been played before; you cut them short; NO and go on about your business….

Or, when a potential employer calls you after reviewing your resume and tries to offer you less than you’re worth; NO. Why do they do that? They clearly see your experience and education but still offer you less than; “excuse me I don’t want to appear rude but, NO thank you!”

And they get upset like you got a problem….Well you kinda do because you know you’re worth! Why do them the favor of taking their low paying job and “you” have to find other ways to make ends meet?

What about when you’re trying to flex your entrepreneurial muscles and start getting the word out; you get all kinds of people interested in your services. But, guess what? They don’t want to pay for nothing! Who does that? Volunteer and Entrepreneur are no where the same! Their meanings are entirely different! So you know what; NO.

Just like we have the ability to say NO; so does God. I’m sure some of you know that; right? You want something or someone so bad and you pray about it and God says NO.. Hurt your feelings right? Lol I know I’ve been there; many times and each time it hurt. Like when can I get a Yes Heavenly Father? I know you want the best for me but when can I see it up close and personal?

I thought I had an absolute yes just a little while ago; things start looking up. I got a job with this company started as a temp it wasn’t perfect but I was able to deal with it. I began to make plans along with my kids to start looking for a house; we had grown tired of apartment living (it was definitely time for an upgrade).

There were talks of the company I was working for to bring me on permanent but they were dragging their feet; so I really didn’t have that as a factor while looking for a place to call home.

Some people do that; they choose a place to live depending on where their working. Many jobs aren’t that loyal anymore and I wasn’t going to make a long term decision not fully knowing if they would even bring me on permanent and keep me!

So long story short they eventually brought me on and we ended up finding a house really far from where I worked. Lol like my commute depending on traffic was 1.5-2 hours; each way! At first it didn’t bother me I enjoyed the time to get to pray and talk to God and just clear my head. But after a month or so I knew I had to figure something out and I prayed….

July 2018 God answered!

What if God answered your prayer(s) but you didn’t have the whole picture of how it was to go down? You weren’t given a play by play? All you got was your part that you had to play; would you say YES?

I said Yes! I gave my 2 weeks notice without another job anywhere in sight! I flexed my FAITH muscles; was it easy? No! But, I had to trust and believe that God would show up and show out!

And guess what God made a way! Often times God wants to know if YOU will trust and believe in HIM. When things are going good we sometimes forget WHO makes a way for us to have everything that we have.

Soon as the times get rough we get all afraid and pointing fingers. I had to pray my way through so I didn’t fall into that trap; the enemy is always close by to see how he can get you hemmed up.

November 2018: God Showed Out…

And while I was praying for a temporary job that I had interviewed for would come through; God sent a full-time permanent job my way that I believed was one of the worst and strangest interviews I have ever had!

When you give God control and give HIM your YES…..#speechless

Will you tell Him yes?

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself. 

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life! 

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated! 

2017 Has Taught Me….

With each new year that comes and goes; I believe it’s necessary to have reflection. Reflection of how to go forward, what you learned from the previous year and what you can do to be a better person.

How else do we expect to grow and change our outlook if we don’t do a self-evaluation?You see it can’t always be about someone else! What did you do? What didn’t you do?

You see for me I didn’t speak up enough; I just allowed things to play out as they may. Could I have said something? Yes, but many times I chose not too. I for one like my peace and keeping my sanity in check. What was it for you? What did you let slide; or did you speak your mind? How far did it get you?

I have never been a fan of new year’s resolutions; why? Because life always happens and by February all those resolutions are out the door! But one thing that I have incorporated over the years is looking at how my year went and what I could change going forward.

In 2017, I can honestly say I learned lots about me and people around me.

#1. I learned that I wasn’t made to fit in but I was created to stand out.

This one right here was a biggie for me! You see people will always try to control you if you let them! They want you to play by their rules, be who they want you to be; and I learned that has never and will never be me. God has uniquely made you for a special purpose; don’t allow people who don’t know how to handle that; derail you!!

#2. That if you want to know who is really in your corner; break something!

Wow, this was a real challenge for me that I didn’t even sign up for! But hey, I made it through!!

Being a single mom with a broken ankle-foot; was absolutely no fun! That is a story in itself! I have never been one to have a large number of friends; weirdly, I like it that way.  But I really found out during this challenge that the small number I thought I had was just a mirage! Sisterhood is something I have always enjoyed writing about because it is being flung around like an old high school jersey.  When will women really take a stand and unite for the greater good? Friendship seems like a thing of the past; that has been replaced for networking and somebody’s next come up! How far can you get me up the ladder? Who are you connected to; that I can connect with? Is that what we have been reduced to? It’s time to change that circle; maybe expand it out a little bit….

#3. That NO MATTER WHAT GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.…..

Look you don’t have to believe it; or in HIM. But when I tell you 2017 has been thus far one of the most challenging years for ME. My life could’ve gone so many different ways with the obstacles, challenges, trials and tribulations that came my way; BUT GOD, kept me through every last one! When people walked away; HE still had my bad! When people told me no; HE said YES!

So you see; this is just a couple of the things that 2017 has taught me and I am so very excited to still be here and I am eagerly awaiting  to see what 2018 has in store! What about you?

What has 2017 taught you?

What have you learned?

And what will you change going forward?

Dear Future Husband: #SpiritualSundays

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22 (NKJV)

Let’s start by getting the obvious out of the way; everyone isn’t cut out for marriage!! While many have the desire to get married; you need another willing candidate to complete the union!

Women; your husband should choose you! The man should find you! Christian Women; your husband should choose you and ask you to marry him. Men; you should be asking the woman to marry you; not the other way around!

There seems to be some switch in how it is traditionally done and many have adopted this “new age” option that it’s okay for a woman to ask a man; to marry them! I’m sorry but I’m old school and still believe in the man asking the woman to marry him and scripture backs that up!

I did a podcast recently on my thoughts in more detail on this subject! You can listen here: https://anchor.fm/tamara06/episodes/Marriage–Family-Part-1-e3ls0j

As a woman that has the desire to be married; to be a wife; are you preparing yourself? As a man that has the desire to be married; to be a husband; are you preparing yourself? Have you cleared out all the clutter that you’ve picked up and stored over the years? Have you detached yourself from the soul ties that are clinging on for dear life because they don’t want to let go? Don’t you think this is important before you make a lifetime commitment to someone else? Don’t you think you should be free emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically from all the other people that have come through your life; that you’ve slept with and had intimate relations with?

My personal opinion is yes! Why bring old baggage into a new relationship? Why wouldn’t you take the time to get free? So many men and women don’t take the take to detach or heal and they jump right into another relationship!

Biblically as children of God; if you’re single you shouldn’t be sleeping around; but many of us do! Some of us finally decide to part from our wicked ways and ask God for forgiveness and make the commitment to be sex-free until marriage!

Is it easy; for some; no but it can be done! It has to be a personal decision! For me it became easier because my Faith began to outweigh everything else! I know and believe that God wants me to have the desires of my heart and that He only wants to give me His best!

Temptation is a beast and if you don’t find ways to handle it; it will overtake you each and every time! The enemy knows what you like and he will stop at nothing to get you out of order! But you have to be strong and courageous and out smart him! You have to want and believe that God has greater in store for you and stop falling for the enemy’s version of what appears good at that time!

For men; women will throw themselves at you if they see and believe you are going places; especially if you are walking in or towards your God-given purpose! All of them aren’t doing it because they actually like or want you! They are on assignment from the enemy and you know what his sole purpose is.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly”. John 10:10 (NKJV)

The same applies for women! If the enemy sees you beginning to get your life on track and you’re on your God given path; then he will throw in some distractions, some road blocks and some illusions to get you off track; stay focused.

Marriage isn’t a walk in the park! It’s going to require commitment to making it work and both parties being equally yoked and on one accord! You both have to be working towards the same objective and your mindsets should be connected and in unison. This is why you can’t marry for reasons outside of what God designed marriage for!

You can’t marry for financial gain! God can take it all away in the blink of an eye! You can’t marry for their outward appearance only; because that doesn’t last! You can’t marry because their sex game is tight; they’ll get old one day and won’t be able to lay it down anymore! You can’t marry because you don’t want to be alone because they can easily walk away and never look back!

This is where the first scripture I shared comes into play; Proverbs 18:22! When you choose the right person that God has designed specifically for you; then everything else has already been added into the equation!! God is only going to send/present you with His best!

“And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18

“Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said:

“This is now bone of my bones

And flesh of my flesh;

She shall be called Woman,

Because she was taken out of Man.” Genesis 2:21-23 (NKJV)

If you’re walking in your purpose and connect with someone that God didn’t send or create specific to you; then what happens? When the attack’s start to come in; are they equipped to handle them? Do they know where the attack’s are coming from and know how to handle them? These questions are vital! How can a woman or man not designed to be part of your life recognize spiritual warfare; know how to be prepared to block the fiery darts; how to pick up on when someone from the enemies camp has infiltrated your sacred territory?

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?” 2 Corinthians 2:14-15 (NKJV)

Dear Future Husband,

I pray you are well and working on becoming a better man; so we can meet one day. I have been working on myself because I want to be the help meet that Our Heavenly Father has designed me to be. I haven’t always been on the right track in my life but I’m getting there and doing my best to stay on track; how about you?

Ladies do you take out the time to pray for your future husband? 

Fellas are you praying that you stay on task for God and are walking upright? Are you keeping your mind, body, soul and spirit free from distractions and soul ties? Are you working on getting free from old mindsets and habits you picked up over the years? Have you willingly let go of all the things and people that no longer serve purpose in your life? Are you preparing yourself to be the husband that God has designed you to be?

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 5:25-28 (NKJV)

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06

or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4

or

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Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

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12 Years Single and Counting: From The Desk of a Single Mom

For some; 12 years may seem like a long time. Many think of it only being 12 years of not being in a committed relationship; this is 12 years and counting of no relationship, no dating and no sexual relations!

Very big difference…Anyone can be single but single and no sex; is a whole different ball game! A ball game that many would rather not attend or even be part of.

Some people will tell you that they can’t live without sex! I tell them I’ve had enough sex; to last me a lifetime! Lust isn’t something I’m looking forward to for the rest of my life; I want real unconditional and mutually given love. I’ve had the one sided relationships were you’re the only one interested in commitment and all they want is sex; no thanks I’ll pass.

None of us are perfect! We as women fall for some make believe jokers; who are counterfeit and deceptive. We fell for it; but, don’t allow that to stop you from being an effective woman and an awesome single mom! I’m speaking from experience; I was led to believe that nobody wanted me with kids! Let me tell you somebody wants me! God wants me! God created me to be a purpose-driven woman and can’t no grown boy come in and change that; not anymore!

12 Years Single and Counting:

I didn’t always believe this; I had to get to this place! I had to do my work! I had to release and get delivered from so much that sought to take me out! I had time to get to know me and finally began to love myself….

I became a better Mom! My relationship with my kids was always good; but, it amplified once I surrendered and submitted to God and gave Him my all..

I became a better Woman!

A Purpose-Driven Woman!

A Determined Woman!

A Godly Woman!

A Spiritual Woman!

A Renewed Woman!

I’ve always had the desire to be married but I wanted to be married; to the right man! I didn’t and still don’t believe in divorce. I knew the grown boys that I was playing house with were definitely not fit to fill the role of husband! And, I’m so glad I didn’t settle for the imposters that the enemy had set before me..

3 takeaways I want to leave with you:

1. Don’t allow a defeated mindset to lead you!

2. Don’t allow your right now situation to overtake you.

3. Don’t allow the past situations to immobilize you.

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

If these Eyes could Talk: #SpiritualSundays

If these Eyes could Talk…

If you’re eyes could speak; what would they say? What would be revealed to those around you? What would they see that you don’t want them to see? So many that are in this world do the most trying to keep what they’ve done and been apart of under wraps!!

But those that have come to love and know the Lord; know that all that has to come out of you if you’re to be renewed and saved in God!

You release all those things that used to be a part of you when you were of the world! You don’t hold on to that stuff just in case you need it again!

When you’ve chosen, decided to be one with Christ; why would you need the things that you possessed when you were in the camp of the enemy?

So when you’ve taken up residence in the Kingdom of God; you have no need for those type things! Those type people! Those type places!! Why is their number still in your phone? Why do you still have them in your fav five? Why are they still on speed dial? How are you still reminiscing over and over in your head of how it used to be?

God is trying taking you to a new place! A higher level! A place where your eyes have not seen and your eyes haven’t heard the singing and chirping of these birds! The air is fresher and the flowers bloom over here differently! You haven’t seen this place but you’re looking back and wanting that old, raggedy life back!

You want that man that was beating you down! Telling you that you’re nothing and nobody wants you and leaving you for another woman every chance he gets! This is what you want?

God is giving you is best and you want someone’s sloppy seconds? Really? You want a man that doesn’t know who he is and who he belongs to? God wants to give you a man that will love you and you alone but you want a man that is married to another woman? You want a man that will sit at home and play video games while you’re out working to pay all the bills and provide for your children! God wants to send you a man that will allow you to stay home and raise your kids, get a degree and start your own business but you want a grown boy who don’t want you to know more than him because he knows you will eventually leave him!

Is this what Lot’s wife saw when she looked back? Or did she see those men that came to her house that night and wanted to be one with the angels that God sent to free her family? They weren’t looking to give their life back to God they wanted to impose their way of life; on those that were sent and called by God! How could she looked back on that place and want to go back there?

How could you not listen to your husband; when he told you not to look back? What was so good back there that you just had to get one more look?

I don’t know Lot’s wife name but I would ask her; was it worth it? I would also ask the Israelites that took all that time 40 years because they just couldn’t listen to the messengers of God?

What was so good while you were bound that you fought so hard to stay in that same mindset?

Instead of looking back and wishing you could go back; why not thank God from what He brought you out of?

1. He saved me from the hands of 2 abusers!

2. He saved me from drinking my life away!

3. He saved me from a promiscuous lifestyle!

4. He saved me from believing all the negative words; people spoke over my life.

5. He has kept me in my right mind!

6. He saved me from settling for potential; when His greatest is on the way!!

This is not even close to all God has did for me!

What has God did for you?

Written and published by Tamara D. McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

#SpiritualSundays: The Process is Necessary

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6 (NKJV)

Getting to the promise land; wasn’t an easy task! The Israelites had to go through the process! Getting to the Cross; wasn’t an easy task! Jesus had to go through the process!

One thing that I love to do is break down the meaning of words; so we all can be on the same page. What does the word process mean?

Definition of process:

  1. “a systematic series of actions directed to some end: to devise a process for homogenizing milk.

  2. a continuous action, operation, or series of changes taking place in a definite manner: the process of decay.”

Both of these definitions give you the meaning of the word process and a visual to aid you in getting the full meaning of the word.

This allows you the ability to know that going through a process isn’t going to be easy! You won’t have that microwave effect; pop it in and in 2 minutes your popcorn kernels are complete and full of flavor! Life and the trials and tribulations you go through won’t have that effect…

The Israelites were in the wilderness for 40 years! Jesus fasted in the desert for 40 days and 40 nights; they both had to go through their own individual process! The levels of what they had to endure were different; but the outcome were similar in nature. The Israelites were attempting to get to the “Promise Land” and Jesus was on his journey to the “Cross”. Both of these encounters were necessary because it teaches us the path that they each had to take to get to their end result! Their blessing!

But guess what? They had to go through the process! Jesus’ time in the desert wasn’t as extensive has the Israelites because “He was about His Father’s business”, He had been groomed for it..(process)…Jesus didn’t come on the scene; until He was well into His 30’s; what do you think He was doing in that time? Being groomed and processed!

The Israelites had been in captivity for many, many years; they had learned behaviors that had to be unlearned! Removed and burned away! How are you held against your will, taught to bow down to foreign practices and be able to just walk into “The Promised Land” ready to walk into your God given purpose; full of blessings and favor, with old baggage? How are you going to be effective for the Kingdom of God?

So many people; including myself want(ed) the microwave (fast) effect to coming out of captivity (trials-tribulations-wilderness-darkness-etc

We want to lay down one day and wake up the next with a changed attitude, a renewed heart, a new lease on life, favor that was endless and more abundance than we can stand!

But guess what? The process is necessary to remove and discard of everything that you picked up and allowed to attach itself to you along the way!

When Jesus was crucified it was a 3 day process before He rose!! But catch this; He had to go through the process of being tempted, being in the wilderness fasting and praying, raising up His disciples and having many of them turn their backs on Him, turning water into wine, walking on water, casting out demons; I can keep going but I think you get what I’m saying!

Jesus has to do something’s! He had to be processed to be prepared to be crucified and then lifted up!! He had to go through the process to get to His finish line!! His victory dance!!

The Israelites’ process took a little longer; 40 years is a long time to be in the wilderness; but guess what? God took care of them the whole time!! He provided for them; he clothed, fed them and gave them shelter! But guess what? They complained and didn’t want to listen to His instructions! They argued with Moses and Joshua more than they listened and followed instructions!

God gave them the tools necessary to get to the “Promise Land” the keys to open up their destiny but they cried, complained and rejected the “process”..

Were they this defiant when they were in bondage? In captivity? Do you remember them saying that they were better off when they were with their oppressor?

How many of us think that our lives were better when we were living as we wanted to? When we were sinning and fornicating? Going to clubs and grinding all up on people; we didn’t even know? Stealing, cursing, doing and selling drugs, etc.. The enemy loves to hold you captive, remind you of the “good ole days” when you were “free”… How does any of those types of behaviors have you free when you’re being held captive and racking up strong holds, generational curses, and soul ties?

To rid of everything that isn’t of God! You have to go through the process of removing it and cutting it off! Will it be easy? No.. Will it be fun? No… Will you enjoy it? No.. But catch this; it’s all worth it; in the end!!!!!!

Jesus got seated at the right hand of the Father; after His process…The Israelites walked or some may have crawled into the “Promise Land”, their entourage was a little light because of their process; but they eventually got there…if they would’ve got on board sooner than later; their process could’ve been quicker!

How much longer are you going to complain? How much longer are you going to fight the process? How much longer are you going to pout and be disobedient?

Let me be the 1st one to tell you; you are holding up your process! You are holding up your blessings, your favor, your abundance; all because you want to have it your way! Guess what? You have to rid yourself of everything that you carried with you while you were in enemy territory! That baggage has to be disposed of! All those un-godly thoughts and practices you picked up while hanging out with the enemy; has to go!

How can God bless you when you’re trying to figure out ways to flip it and make it multiply? How can God bless you when you thinking of ways to sleep your way to the top? How can God bless you when you scheming to take out your competition?

Anything that is “worth” having is going to come with a process!! You want to be refined! You want to be renewed! Washed in the blood! Come out of the fire; untouched!! You have to go through the process!! The “promise land” comes with obedience, blood, sweat, tears, sacrifice and a burning off of the old man; that old woman!! Are you up for the challenge? The process? The re-awakening? This only happens when you say Yes to Our Heavenly Father..the choice is yours!! What do you choose Life or Death?

References used:

http://www.dictionary.com

http://www.biblegateway.com

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2019 Copyrighted

Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my podcast on https://anchor.fm/tamara06 or

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2&uo=4 or https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84MmM2MTM4L3BvZGNhc3QvcnNz

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

#Spiritual Sunday’s: I Need A Break….

I Need A Break

Scriptures:

Luke 22:42-46 and Matthew 26:36-46

Have you ever gotten to the place where you’ve just cried out to God and said; Lord I need a break?

People need a break from so many things!

People

Places

Things

Responsibilities

Life

Trials & Tribulations

Need I go on?

As a single mom we often need time from being the only one holding up the family and making sure everything is working as it should!

We have multiple responsibilities and it’s not a walk in the park! Many times; we get stuck and lost in the wilderness and need a hand to reach in and pull us out!

We are always sacrificing ourselves and our needs to make sure our child or children have and the household isn’t lacking! Society always wants to slide in and let us know that we cant be a dad because were not male; and I ask the question; if not us then who? I need a break!

Just like single moms needing a break and a chance to catch our breath.

Jesus often times required breaks from his disciplines to get his mind right and have His quiet time with God. Some of you may be asking what did Jesus need a break from?

Jesus not only had the weight of the world on his shoulders, but He had to deal with so much and still train and prepare his disciples to take over when he left them!

He had to endure the pain that 1 of his own would be the one to deceive him and become tempted and sell him out for a few coins! Can you imagine what that felt like?

Just imagine for a moment; that the very ones that you sought out; to go on the most empowering journey of a lifetime; stabbed you in the back! They sought out temporary desires instead of lifetime blessings! They sought out those things that can be here one minute and gone the next! And they forgot that only God can give the things that are everlasting!

 

Where would you be if God granted Jesus what He was asking? Where would you be if God took that weight of off Jesus’ shoulders?

 

Is not easy to serve God! I’m going to say this again so that the people in the back can here me! It’s Not Easy to Serve God! If it was easy; everyone would be doing it! Do you know how many people have walked away from God because of people? Church hurt? Because they haven’t studied the word for themselves and someone told them it was going to be easy!

He is going to bless you with cars, clothes and money! But, what many don’t know is that you have to lay down that old life! Walk into a new one with Jesus and the Holy Spirit on each side and God front and center leading the way!

 

Acknowledging and serving God is two very different things! Anyone can say that they believe in God! But are you living right?

Are you following his commandments? Leviticus 22:31 “Therefore you shall keep My commandments and perform them: I am the Lord.” This isn’t about being perfect either; it’s about being determined and believing that God wants the best for you; that you will have to make some sacrifices to press through. Philippians 3:14 says this: “I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” When the enemy seeks to take you out and sift you like wheat! You are going to have to know how to stand tall!

You will have to be strong and courageous! Joshua 1:7 “Only be strong and very courageous, that you may observe to do according to all the law which Moses My servant commanded you; do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may prosper wherever you go.” (NKJV)

 

When the journey looks rough and you feel a break on the way; pray…

Father God I want my life back! I’m tired of living a defeated life! I’m tired of feeling like I’m alone and not loved! I want the enemy to release his hold on my Mind, my Body, my Soul and my Spirit! Right now I want my past to be the past! I want all my thoughts and my emotions from years before to be released in the atmosphere and set free! I no longer want to live in bondage! I want to be free. In Jesus Mighty Name; Amen!!

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

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Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

#SpiritualSundays: Guest Blogger Evangelist Angie Bee

Let Us Resolve to Go, Speak, Do and be Used in 2019

I was trying to go back to bed this morning, after waking up at 5:00 am. While I was awake, I checked my email (on my phone) and responded to some notifications (on Facebook, on my phone) and I watched the 7:00 am broadcast of a TV show that I shot, edited and produced. My agency was honored to create four programs for a dynamic Prophetess, and they debuted in December on WACX in Orlando Florida. Working on that show was a blessing because it reminded me of the gifts and talents God bestowed upon me, many years ago. Thank you Jesus! I started a load of laundry and put a ham bone in the crock pot, to prepare for soup (Proverbs 31:10 woman) and I sat an read a few pages of the Essence magazine… the one with Former First Lady Michelle Obama on the cover.

By 9:00 am, I had crept back in the bedroom, trying not to disturb my hubby’s blissful snoring. I slid in the bed, tucked the covers over us both and snuggled up to hold him, and go back to sleep. As I was drifting off, I heard a voice in my head say “What about me?” “Yes, Lord! Was my response. I am honored to spend time with you”.

My priorities this morning may have been a bit off, but my resolve to do better is strong and focused. As a result of my willingness to pray and serve Him, I now have this inspirational message to share with each of you.

First: It is time to go. Have you been waiting for the perfect time to move in to a new home, to leave a relationship or go back to school? It is time to go! Not just because it is New Years and folks are making New Years Resolutions, but it is time to go! You have been praying for a breakthrough and waiting for a change, so now be inspired to get up and GO!

Second: Let somebody use you. No, I don’t mean to let someone take advantage of you or abuse you. What I mean is to do something for someone else. Cut the widow’s lawn or take her a plate of food. Shovel the single mother’s snow or meet them at the park for a play-date. Volunteer at your church or the community center and let that toddler paint your fingernails. Let them enjoy your time, for a change.

Third: Speak to someone else. That relative got on your nerves over the holidays. He came to your home with a date, and took home a giant “To-Go” plate. Your aunt gossiped about everyone and complained about the food and your son announced that he was moving back home, with his girlfriend (and they are expecting!). Lord help! You grinned and bore it all, and now it is time to speak to them. Take a deep breath and write a letter. Not an email, use a pen and paper. Write out what you see their problem is, offer a solution based upon your experience and/or training and give them an ultimatum. Let the letter sit for a day or two, re-read it, edit it, re-write it and mail it to them.

Fourth: It is time to do something that scares you. Ask her to marry you. Say “Yes” to him and say “No” to them. Stop avoiding the doctor visit and schedule that surgery. Tell your spouse how you feel and what you want to see change and step out on faith to launch that ministry, that book, that business or even that friendship. There is no reason for your fear and the pressure has been building. My husband always says “Pressure can burst a pipe” and I don’t want you to burst! I was watching an episode of #TalkStoop, and the guest on the show said “Pressure creates Diamonds”. Use that pressure to create something new in your life and don’t delay another moment.

Now, let’s pull all this inspiration into spiritual terms. As an ordained, prophetic evangelist, my foundation scripture is found in Isaiah 6:8 which says “Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?” And I said, “Here am I. Send me!” I ask the Lord to “send me”. To “speak through me” and to “Use Me”, and, at times, I am scared. I never know where His path will take me or even how I will get there… but my willingness to serve HIM makes my ability stronger than my fears. I serve the Lord with gladness and I use the gifts and talents that He has anointed me with to go where He leads me, to speak to whom He directs me to speak to and to do what He instructs me to do. I go, I speak, I do and I am used, by God.

How can you apply this to your life if you are NOT in ministry, like I am.

Forward this message to someone that needs to learn this message. Use it in your letter that you are writing, or place it on your Vision Board, to inspire your transition. Study 1 Corinthians 12:5-6 which teaches us “5 There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. 6 There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work”. I am not telling you to attend seminary school and become a missionary, but I am telling you that Our Father has His hand upon every step you take and every move you make. He is the one that is responsible for your waking moments, your peaceful rest and that food upon your plate. If He can take care of the animals in your yard, won’t He take care of you? (“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? – Matthew 6).

Ask Him to lead you and guide you, and don’t move until you hear HIS voice. Strive to study His word and strive to make HIM proud of you. Live for God on the job, in your home, at school and in your community. Take care of your body (His temple) and don’t put ANYTHING or ANYONE ELSE in front of caring for yourself. Be still, and know that HE is your God and keep the faith in knowing that if He brought you out of 2018, then He can do something miraculous for you in 2019. (Isaiah 30:21 English Standard Version (ESV)

21 And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left).

It is time to resolve!

Amen.

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Send me, Lord

Use me

Speak through me

Guide me

Amen

Used with permission ©️ 2019 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

The Power of God…

These scriptures lay down the foundation as it applies to the Power of God….

You have to be equipped if your going to be on guard! Reading the word is one of the steps in the process..

1 Corinthians 1:18

2 Corinthians 12:9

Romans 1:16

Romans 15:13

Ephesians 3:16

2 Timothy 1:8

2 Peter 1:3

Ephesians 1:19

Acts 10:38

1 Corinthians 2:5

Isaiah 40:29-31

Many of us are still not fully grasping the power that we receive from God!

We are still walking around like we don’t know who we are and whose we are!

Many of us release our power and hand it over to the enemy because we don’t believe that we are worthy of it!

We are still giving the enemy full access into our lives and believing the lies that he whispers in our ears; and therefore relinquishing our rights to the power of God!

You must’ve forgotten that the enemy; your enemy and mine only comes to steal, kill and destroy!!

Our Heavenly Father has given you the Authority (Luke 10-19) to crush serpents (snakes) and scorpions (predators) and you’re out here given away that authority to partner with the enemy; because he somehow promised you the world!

We found out in Matthew 4:1-11 that the enemy tried his hardest to tempt Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ but he got shot down!! (Jesus had been fasting for 40 days and 40 nights and he appeared weak and the enemy decided to make his move; but guess what Jesus was still ready and equipped to take him on!)

Do you remember how Jesus shot him down? With the word of God…that’s your number #1 weapon against the enemy!! Your Bible; each and every time he comes to you with his lies you tell him what the Bible says!! What God says! What Jesus says!!

How many of us fall victim when were at our lowest points in life? I’ve come to remind you to Be on guard because the enemy is near and waiting to see who he can devour!

Men and women of God be on guard be aware of your surroundings and of those that are creeping their way into your inner circles! Your friend zone! They come too you smiling and calling you friend, their woman, their man and all the while silently plotting to take you out!! They seek to get you far away from God and the purpose He has placed in you! The Power to be the woman or man He has called you to be!!

God has placed something in you that only you can deliver! Only you can bring to life and that’s the very thing that the enemy wants to get access to so he can use it for himself or bury it where you won’t be able to recover it! Take back your Power and shut the enemy down once and for all…

How many of you are ready to take your Power back?

This message is also available on podcast; https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/single-mom-of-purpose/id1446968952?mt=2

Or by clicking here: https://anchor.fm/tamara06

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!