“He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22
As a woman, we are to be found. Is that a true or false statement? Are you to go out and seek a husband? That can be our heart’s desire to be a wife; but according to this scripture; we are to be found/chosen.
Many of us will/may grow weary of waiting and take matters into our own hands; yes, even Christians! There aren’t anyone of us that are perfect; while we read the Bible and claim to live by its words; there are many that will stray from what is clearly outlined in the Bible. They will take matters into their own hands go seeking a relationship/marriage and get connected to the wrong person and want to get upset; you should’ve wanted on God. Ephesians 5:22
The Bible; for Christians is the blueprint that we are to read, let it sink in (Selah) and do our best to live by it. It’s not a book that was written simply for your reading pleasure. It’s there for us to get more understanding, knowledge, and direction of what is expected of us.
When we get outside from what is expected of us and decide (because we do have a choice) we take God out of the equation. For women we have many stories and input on how to carry ourselves as women (Proverbs 31-Book of Ruth-Esther-Mary, etc) and we also find out how not to carry ourselves ( Samaritan Woman); why do you believe these stories and examples were shared?
God wants us to be covered properly; any man just won’t do! He has to be on one accord with God, he has to know his role and how it should be played! Ephesians 5:25-28
Godly men that are one with God, that have a personal relationship with God; will treat you like the queen that you are! He will handle you with love and respect. He will know that you were created as his helpmeet and will value you as such! Men that aren’t lined up properly with God don’t know this and don’t operate as such. This is why if you are a woman of God; His daughter then you should wait to be found by your husband! If that is God’s will for your life! This is another thing that the Bible shows us; every woman, every man; will not be married. Some may not like to hear or talk about it; but it’s a fact many of us need to face.
Now that we got the foundation laid let’s look at this; dating leads to marriage! Right? Respect and understanding should still apply! While you’re dating you should begin to be an effective communicator and that should lead its way into when you get married as well! Letting the one you are dating/married to know their place in your life; speaks volumes! If their doing good; if their lacking in any area; let them know. So you will both be on the same page and they can either correct it or decide on making their exit.
You can treat someone a particular way and they aren’t aware of what you’re feeling or what they may have done for your change of heart or attitude. God let’s us know when we are out of order, when we may not be on the right path; why shouldn’t the same apply in our lives and with whom we deal!
It’s so many reasons why some Christian men and women decide or make the choice to remain single! It’s so many reasons why some decide not to get married! They have been treated unfairly in previous relationships! They didn’t get the understanding and respect; that they themselves would give freely; yet lacked on being the recipient!
While many willingly remain single for various reasons; God is keeping some of us single for His own purpose!! Have you done your part in getting yourself back on track? If you want a godly marriage you can’t go in with baggage from years upon years! You can’t go in with a mindset that doesn’t honor and submit to God; how can you submit to your spouse? Are you walking down the path that God has set before you?
We have to remember that yes God will grant the desires of our heart! But are you His child? Are you in right standing with Him? Are you following His blueprint (the Bible)? Before we can find (men) be found (women) we have to be connected to God!
He is the source from where ALL BLESSINGS FLOW.
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