From The Desk of a Single Mom: God Wants You to Have More….

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly”. John 10:10 (NKJV)

For some; this is music to your ears! Jesus came so that we can have a better life; but, it doesn’t exempt us from the hand of the enemy!

Life can be sweet for some and hard for others. You can live by the rules and still go through some rough patches. When you make a decision in life to begin to live according to the word of God; (bible) no one really tells you that you will still go through hard times. But, if you read your Bible you will find out for yourself; that even Jesus went through some rough times! He was betrayed by many who said they believed in him and even walked with him! The devil came for him just as he comes for us with his twisted schemes! But we have to stay strong and not allow the bad times to overtake us!

We can’t feel sorry for ourselves and let the disappointments and hardships sink in and swallow us whole! Even though we go through the fire; God will see us through! Even though those jobs you keep applying for turn you down; God will see you through! Even though that promotion that comes with more money and flexibility; didn’t come through; God is still for you! Even though the very people you went out of your way for; turned their backs on you; God is still with you!

When bad things begin to happen; people always blame God! Why did God allow this to happen? Why didn’t God do something? Many of us fail to realize that the enemy wants you to think and speak this way! He wants you to turn away from God; don’t give him that satisfaction! Realize who it is; that is against you, and remember who it is; that is for you! You see that scripture above? John 10:10 tells you exactly who you’re dealing with! It tells you what his role is; remember that.

We have to be on guard and keep ourselves covered! What does that mean? Pray, discern, keep the faith, don’t get distracted, don’t be tempted, and remember the promise! What’s the promise? Abundance…may it overflow into your life……

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

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I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator and Single Mom!!!

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Spiritual Sunday’s: Have You Seen My Crown? Written by Guest Blogger Evangelist Angie Bee

Have You Seen My Crown?

September is Alopecia Awareness month, and all month long, I have been wearing my crown. I have alopecia and I have covered my hair loss, in one form or another, for over twenty years.

According to the National Alopecia Areata website at www.NaaF.org, “Alopecia areata is a common autoimmune skin disease, causing hair loss on the scalp, face and sometimes on other areas of the body. In fact, it affects as many as 6.8 million people in the U.S. with a lifetime risk of 2.1%. People of all ages, both sexes and all ethnic groups can develop alopecia areata. It often first appears during childhood and can be different for everyone who has it”.

When my hair first started to come out, my hairdresser noticed it first. She immediately recommended a weave. First, she would sew it in to my hair. As the bald patches widened, she would glued it directly to my scalp. I was miserable, not being able to scratch my scalp, that became increasingly itchy from the glue. Today, I see women walking around “patting” themselves on the head to avoid scratching. I do not miss that feeling!!

My hairdresser and I tried electric-shock treatments on my scalp. The metallic taste that settled in my mouth was quite alarming. She told me that the sensation was a common after-effect, but that didn’t make it any better. Stubbles of hair grew eventually, but continued to irritate my scalp and fall out, over time. Irritation came in the form of red, swollen, oozing bumps that looked like razor bumps on my scalp; even though I was not using a razor. My hair follicles were rejecting the growing hair, and forcing it to fall out. Once the hair was gone, the scalp quieted and smoothed out again.

During a visit to see my family back in 1999, a dear friend blessed me with a wig. She was actually wearing it the day I saw her, and I commented on how cute her hair was. I told her about my hair loss and my medical diagnosis. She was so moved by my circumstance that she snatched the braided wig off her head, and blessed me with it! I wore that wig for YEARS. My visit with her was during a time of mourning for me, as my mother had then recently transitioned to heaven. I shared with my friend that my mother had alopecia, and my mom joked about it with me. “Why can’t the hairs on my chin fall out, like the hairs on my head fall out?”, she would exclaim. I placed my mother’s favorite church hat on her head, for her viewing and funeral; and bought my first church hat to wear, for the occasion.

The bible teaches us in

1 Corinthians 11:15 (NIV) – “but that if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For long hair is given to her as a covering”.  

I had no hair to cover me. Why not? was my cry.

Luke 12:7 (NLT) – “And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows”.

God, I too can count the hairs on my head. All two of them!

Matthew 10:30 (NIV) – “And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered”.

Yes Lord. Luke and Matthew said the same thing!

Proverbs 16:31 (NIV) – “Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained in the way of righteousness”.

I will never see a crown of splendor on my head, for my hair will never turn gray. Does this mean that I am not righteous?

1 Corinthians 11:6 (NIV) – “For if a woman does not cover her head, she might as well have her hair cut off; but if it is a disgrace for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, then she should cover her head”.

My grandmother says that she won’t enter the church building without covering her head with a hat. Does this mean that I am a disgrace, because of my shaved head?

Five different scriptures concerning a woman and her hair may be found, during a random Google search. FIVE SCRIPTURES! I know that the custom and geographic location of the biblical authors may have helped motivated the questions that led to these lessons. It was HOT in the desert, and maybe people asked their leaders about hair styles and such. It is certainly worth doing the research to find answers to those questions. However, for my personal purposes, the revelation was forced upon me.

I wore wigs while my children grew up, because I didn’t want to embarrass them. Kids can be mean-spirited and tease their peers about all sorts of things, so I didn’t want my children to be teased because of me. I also didn’t want to be teased! I didn’t want people looking at my bald head and wonder if something was wrong with me, or wonder if I was “contagious”. Even in the midst of summer heat, in Florida, I continued to wear wigs. I had even embraced 1 Corinthians 11:15 and started purchasing LONG wigs! I figured, if I was going to have to BUY my glory, I might as well buy a long one!

Recently, symptoms of menopause kicked in, with a vengeance. The unmerciful hot flashes, mixed with the humid temperatures in Florida made my wigs feel like a “fiery-furnace”. I looked ridiculous with sweat pouring from my head, while my “hair” was dry-as-a-bone. Were the heavens trying to tell me something? It was time for a revelation. I needed to embrace a different kind of “crowning glory” in order to continue on the path that God placed me on.

What do the following scriptures all have in common?

1 Peter 3:3

1 Timothy 2:9

These scriptures instruct women to “not adorne themselves with elaborate hairstyles”. Verse 10 of 1 Timothy Chapter 2 continues to instruct by saying, “but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God”.

THAT IS MY CROWN! My good deeds and worship of God is MY crown! There it was, in black and white. My crowning glory are my deeds and my obedience to God. PRAISE THE LORD FOR REVELATION!

Now, I strut around town with my bald head glistening in the sun! I serve the Lord with gladness as HIS bald Queen. Our Father allowed me to thrive with alopecia, in order to be a conversation-starter with others. When I am asked, “Why are you bald? Are you sick? Do you have cancer?” I can now respond with “I serve the Lord with gladness and He wanted me to tell you that He loves you! Do you know about Jesus? May I introduce you to him?” I realized that, the elaborate wigs I wore may have made others admire me, but my bald head invites others to TALK to me. An open conversation is an open invitation for evangelism. 

Am I worried about being teased? Naw! The bible has a story about that, too! In 2 Kings 2:23-24 we read the following story:

“From there Elisha went up to Bethel. As he was walking along the road, some boys came out of the town and jeered at him. “Get out of here, baldy!” they said. “Get out of here, baldy!” He turned around, looked at them and called down a curse on them in the name of the LORD. Then two bears came out of the woods and mauled forty-two of the boys.

As a servant of the Lord, I won’t be cursing no one, any time soon, but the story does encourage me to lift my head a little higher. (lol).

On Saturday, October 6, 2018, my husband and I will present the 2nd Annual Bold Beautiful & Bald Beauty Bazaar and Weekend Retreat. Our inaugural event last year was delayed a couple of weeks, due to the hurricane hitting Florida. I walked out to MC the event wearing my new “crown” … wearing a kiss from God on my head. My glistening bald head was an encouraging factor to so many women, based upon the comments we received, and the tears that I saw shed as I shared my testimony. Women asked us to do it again, and in response, it is now an annual event. This year, we will have eight bald women, modeling in our fashion show! We have fifteen scheduled vendors and a few of them have stated that they too have alopecia. In fact, right here in our city we have one prominent woman that “came to herself” since the first beauty bazaar. She is now bald, and sporting HER crown. I interviewed her on camera and the beauty bazaar attendees will witness the debut of this interview. You can learn more about the event on our website at http://daqueenbee.com/bbb.html and GOOGLE the hashtags #Bold #Beautiful #Bald #Beauty #Bazaar to lead you to our Facebook page, our event pages and videos from our vendors and sponsors.

When we were infants, our mother’s swaddled us and covered us with blankets. In my mind, my long wigs were a covering; a blanket over my self-confidence. Now that God has enlarged my mind, my territory and my ability; I am uncovered for a reason. My bald head give GOD the glory, while it serves as my personal crowning glory. Have you seen my bald head? Have you seen my crown?

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From the Desk of a Single Mom: Where is the Unity? Sisterhood Chronicles

Many times in life; you will have to be the one that has to speak the unpopular! Social media paints a picture that all is well; and it doesn’t always show the true picture.

And then, we also have to remember that our situation isn’t the same for others in the world. While we may have some good relationships with other women; it doesn’t mean the person standing next to you; can relate! The world and the people in it; aren’t perfect.

I wanted to share something that I sent to my email list subscribers yesterday:

How are you doing?

Can we chat for just a moment? When did we as women get to the place of not loving our fellow sisters? As I was scrolling through social media the other day. I came across a story of two teen girls whose life was shattered; in a matter of minutes! One was dead and the other was in jail. Why? Because they were fighting over a boy!

So, I ask again; when did we get here? When was it okay for us as young ladies and grown women to act and respond this way? It just doesn’t start there; when did we get so comfortable putting another women down or talk about her; instead of lifting her up? Offering our assistance; when she needs it!

So many of us are afraid that by helping others; we will somehow be in lack! That is not of God! God doesn’t promote hate, jealously or strife! But, I know who does! When did we begin to hate or stop talking to each other; simply because another women has a problem with someone? What happened to being a mediator and getting down to the root cause of the problem? Because, it is something more going on; that women don’t want to talk about! 

I’m very passionate about sisterhood and women forming lasting friendships… Why? I have throughout my lifetime been on the receiving end of what I speak about! As a young girl; I’ve had classmates attempt to jump me, I’ve had them spread false rumors about me, I’ve been called all kinds of names by them; and even in my adult life much of the same has occurred. 

In 2015, when God told me it was time for me to find my voice; I really didn’t want to start speaking up; but I am starting to see now that it’s necessary and needed. Too many of us stay silent and only speak about those things that serve us….

If you’re reading this; I thank you for taking out the time. We can change the outcome; one person at a time!

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose and http://instagram.com/author_tamaramccarthy

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And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

From The Desk of a Single Mom: Fatherless Generation

“You shall not wrong a sojourner or oppress him, for you were sojourners in the land of Egypt. You shall not mistreat any widow or fatherless child. If you do mistreat them, and they cry out to me, I will surely hear their cry, and my wrath will burn, and I will kill you with the sword, and your wives shall become widows and your children fatherless.” Exodus 22:21-24 (ESV)

———Woke up this morning with the urge to pray for single moms! Not just all single moms but the ones who don’t get not one penny of child support!! The ones that have to do Everything On Their Own!! They have to pay rent/mortgage! Car payment/car insurance! Water and Light Bill! Buy Groceries—washing detergent—-dish detergent—-hand soap——body wash—-toilet tissue—-paper towels—-bath towels and wash clothes—-school supplies—-clothes for kids—-sneakers and shoes——plates, bowls and utensils—-sheets and pillowcases—-beds and pillows——the list can go on but I hope you catch what I mean!! People on the outside put down single moms every chance they get….she should’ve down better…who told her to have kids….she need to work two jobs…etc… not once do they put any responsibility on the Grown Boy!! Men take care of their children—-They continually give Them (grown boys) a pass to continue the cycle and then wonder why there are so many 1 parent households!! Single Mom You Aren’t Alone!!! I share in your struggle—-I’ve walked in your shoes!! I’ve cried the same tears—-I’m praying for us this morning and every morning that I’m led to do so! Stay strong my sister—-our season of lack is soon over—-our kids won’t know this struggle; break the cycle——break the curse……Raise them up in the way they shall go!! You know the rest?

———-If you’re reading this and you are a Single Mom; I’m standing in the gap for you! I know you’re struggle…if you know a single mom then join me in praying for her! For her children! Her finances! Her mindset! We never know what the next person is going through! We have seen countless times what feeling alone, depression and reaching your limit and the effects of that can do!

———–We as women need to do more to help our fellow sisters! It can’t always be about “securing the bag” “making sure our hair is in tip top shape” “controlling our edges” “getting the latest micheal kors bag” etc.. known of that matters if their spirit isn’t intact, if their mindset is wayward, if their heart is broken and their soul has been taken captive!!

Will you pray for her?

——–if you’re not a woman, single mom or a mother—-will you pray for her? Will you encourage—-empower—-inspire—-and motivate—–these Grown Boys to do and be better?

“What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, Go in peace, be warmed and filled, without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” James 2:14-17 (ESV)

Bible references can be found at: https://www.openbible.info/topics/widows_and_orphans

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

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I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

From The Desk of a Single Mom: I Know My Value….

“The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” Psalms 27:1 (NIV)

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As a woman; do you know your value? Do you allow others to mistreat you? Are you a single mom? Do you demand respect? Many of us may still be on the fence and not fully able to answer the questions but let me say this! I had no choice but to answer these questions and I had to take a hard look at how I’ve allowed certain situations to play out!

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People on the outside looking in will sometimes give you advice that requires you to bend! What happens when you are so used to bending and allowing people to mistreat you? Everyone that you bend for; won’t appreciate it! If you bend that one time; they are expecting you to bend again! What happens when you are always the only one that is bending?

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Don’t get in this habit; figure out what really matters and begin to voice that to those in your life and inner circle. Some may just walk away and that’s cool; why would you want to keep people in your life that don’t appreciate and respect you? This goes for professional relationships as well. That is what actually prompted me to write about this subject. So many of us single moms are so used to bending to and for a job; just to pay the bills. We allow supervisors, managers, co-workers and customers to mistreat and disrespect us! We allow them to underpay us because we think or are told we won’t be able to do any better elsewhere!

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Encouragement to help you along the way: 

  1. Stop believing the words and tactics of the enemy!
  2. Find some positive people in your life to push you to do better!
  3. Begin to believe that there is better for you and reach for it!
  4. Set some boundaries and don’t allow people to cross those lines!

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!

From The Desk of a Single Mom: Salute to Single Moms

“There is no greater warrior than a mother protecting her child.” N.K. Jemisin

While being a parent; many of us women don’t have the luxury of having a partner to go through the motions with! Many of us are doing it alone and many of us are rocking it!

And we don’t get our kudos or the pat on the back; because there are those that will say; it’s our responsibility to raise our kids! But, is it for us to do it alone?

We live in a society where men are allowed to get a pass for just about anything! They cheat on their wives; pass….They abandon their children and their responsibility! Pass….makes no sense to me; but oh well….

But in the same breathe those same people are quick to say that women can’t teach a young boy/man; how to be a man! Well I beg to differ! Why? It’s simple; we have no choice!

People are quick to have an opinion but never a solution! Will you mentor a young boy/man? Will you give of your time to reach/teach a young boy/man the right path to take in life? Will you take them to a baseball or basketball game?Many won’t and that’s why there is a shortage of mentors for young boys…ask me how I know?

And while there is a shortage; single moms are the ones that have to step into a role that was never designed for us..but we do it and many times; do it well….

1. It doesn’t take a man to tell a young boy/man to pull his pants up!

2. It doesn’t take a man to tell a young boy/man to respect himself and others!

3. It doesn’t take a man to tell a young boy/man to open the doors for young girls/ladies!

4. It doesn’t take a man to show a young boy/man how to cook, clean and wash his own clothes!

5. It doesn’t take a man to show a young boy/man to learn how to drive!

6. It doesn’t take a man to show a young boy/man to protect himself and those that he loves!

7. It doesn’t take a man to show a young boy/man to go buy groceries!

And, as I learned from a dear friend; who also happens to be a single mom:

8. It doesn’t take a man to show a young boy/man how to change a tire!

This is just a small list of things that single moms have to step up and teach their boys!

We as a society need to do a better job at thinking before we speak. So many people are quick to judge without putting themselves in other’s shoes. We are quick to look at another’s trials and tribulations and point fingers and assume! But, what if it was you?

There is so much that the people on the outside don’t know because they don’t allow themselves to care. They don’t know that you have to take a stand for yourself and your kids. They don’t know that when terror comes to your door you have to be the one to chase it away; men were designed to be the protector!

So, if you’re a single mom and you’re reading this; You Aren’t Alone! If you’re not a single mom but know someone that is; then let her know that she is doing a great job! Offer her some help from time to time.

Excerpt from my book……Single Mom You Aren’t Alone: Becoming a Single Woman of Purpose

“You are a giver by nature; because you have to give your all; it’s in your DNA…

You are worthy of your children’s love; they love you no matter what.

No Matter What, Never Give In to Negative Talk. Being positive in any situation is Key.

Step Out on Faith and watch the possibilities pour into your life.

All the things you think you can’t do as a single mom; are already done!

In Jesus Name, Amen.” Tamara McCarthy

Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

©2018 Copyrighted Tamara McCarthy Enterprises

Check me out on Instagram: http://instagram.com/singlemomofpurpose

Check out my books on Amazon: https://bit.ly/author_tamara

And, if this is your first time on my blog let me introduce myself.

I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read this post; it is greatly appreciated!