#SpiritualSundays: Judgement and Assumptions

When People Don’t Know Your Story; they Judge Without Reason.

Matthew 7: 1-5 says this: “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”. (NKJV)

When people don’t know your situation they are quick to assume; and rush to judge! As a single mom I was/am always judged or people make assumptions without knowing the whole scenario or story.

What many fail to realize is that none of us are perfect; not one! Many people love the fact that they are on the outside of the glass house looking in; laughing and pointing fingers.

But, when the show is over for them they have to go back to their own lives that they want you to think is spotless; but again no one is without blemish.

In the case of being a single mom, the mother is always looked upon as the problem while the dad or lack thereof gets to ride off into the sunset and begin a whole new life and not one person will reprimand him.

The next woman they choose to play house with; doesn’t even encourage him to take care of his responsibility; she goes about the situation as if they don’t even exist!

Lets look at the story of Hagar; she wasn’t thinking about Abram or trying to have his baby, but; because Sarai couldn’t wait on God she basically forced her maidservant to sleep with her husband. Once the child is conceived she wants her out of the house! God sent Hagar back! Why do you think that is? It wasn’t Hagar’s fault she was in that situation! Why should she be forced to raise and provide for this child on her own? She not only got put out of her home but also lost her job because Sarai was dysfunctional and decided to not wait on the promise!

Who willing gives there husband to another woman? That’s another conversation for another time! Single moms aren’t the only party in the scenario and shouldn’t be looked down on as the sole problem.

Judgment and assumptions are so easy to throw around and many times cause more harm than good. When people don’t get to know you they generally feel they can make jabs at you and it be okay.

Dealing with broken bones is not a fun task and being a single mom on top of that is a whole new headache. Someone that I recently met said something, again; without knowing me or getting to know me.

“You look like you don’t want to be here” and went on to compare me to other people! First of all; sir you know nothing about me! Do you have any broken bones you’re dealing with right now? Are you raising kids on your own? Are you their sole provider? Did you just lose 1.5 weeks of wages? Are you in pain as we speak? I mean there are so many other questions that can be posed! But, let me say this after I was done explaining why you can’t make assumptions or judge based on facial expressions, he couldn’t look me in my eyes; that day and not any days after that! How was I supposed to look? Was I supposed to be floating around on my crutches singing; Oh Happy Day?

People seem to believe that being saved, sanctified and filled with the Holy Ghost is a walk in the park. Every day isn’t going to be happy and joyful! You will be under attack and you won’t look your best! Being a Christian is hard work and if anyone says it’s not then they are living in a fantasy world! Jesus went through hard times! Jesus was tried and tested! Jesus was tempted by Satan! None of us are exempt from the trials and tribulations but we are encouraged to be on guard! Watch out for the fiery darts, the finger pointing, the snide remarks, the smirks and assumptions, the tearing down of your character; etc.

We are told to turn the other cheek and if that one isn’t enough give the other! How we respond can teach or add fumes to the flames. Many people don’t know how to diffuse a situation; you can kill a person with kindness. That scenario I spoke of went way different in person that was just the back end that he knew nothing about and didn’t care to find out. The moral of the story is that you shouldn’t judge a book simply by the cover! You never know the gems that lie between the pages.

©2017 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises {Spiritual Sundays Series}

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Tamara is an Author, Writer, Motivator and Single Mom! She is earning her PHd in Christian Counseling; and has always had a passion to inspire and motivate young ladies and women and now it has become her purpose in life. She is also a Certified Life and Empowerment Coach.

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