Kingdom Gals: I Was Robbed…

Have you ever been robbed? Did they take something of value? How did you cope? Where the items replaceable? The value of what was taken was priceless; this wasn’t something you can put a price tag on!

What if what they stole; you couldn’t get back? How would you deal? How did you deal?

I was robbed over 30 years ago and it took me a little over 20 years to be healed from it!

One day walking home from school my best friend asked me to walk her home. Earlier that morning my mother had told me to come straight home. Now I don’t remember any other day where my mother told me to come straight home ( this is why as children; we are told in our lives and also in the Bible to obey our parents). But being the helpful and caring person I was born to be and always putting others before myself I thought nothing of it; and in an instant disobeyed my mother’s instruction! (The enemy knows our very weakness; even if it’s looked upon as a strength he uses it to his advantage!)

That very disobedience changed my life and snatched my childhood from my young hands!

My friend was afraid of her neighbor and his friends; we all went to the same school; so there was nothing that went off that screamed danger. Once getting to her house I knew I still had a ways to go to get home; and I asked her if I could use her phone to call my mom. She declined; her dad was home and he was very strict and she didn’t want to get in trouble.

No mind you I had just disobeyed my mother’s instructions to help her; but she couldn’t help me! Again, children this is why you should obey your parents! Friends come and go, they will use and discard of you once they get what they want! Your parents even though they may be strict and mean sometimes are doing that because they want to protect you!

Do you know how many times I played that day over and over in my head? If I would’ve just went straight home! If I would’ve just listened to my mom! If I would’ve put myself first and not my friend (or so I thought)!

As I left her house I didn’t get too far because I had my first run in with the enemy! Do you know that the enemy will choose whomever he wants to do his dirty work? There are many willing participants he has to choose from even children! When we don’t step up as parents that opens up the doorways for the enemy to have access to your children! When women are busy chasing after grown boys and they have children at home who need them; the enemy has endless access to them! Television, video games, text messages, phone calls, computers, neighbors, others kids, and the World Wide Web!

The same boys that she was afraid of approached me and took my book bag. Words were exchanged back and forth; I told them that my mom had just given me that bag and I needed it back! I’m not sure how long this went on for but in order for me to get it back; I had to now go into the neighbors house to get it. Still no red flags were raised, I was very naive and thought we were all friends since we went to the same school.

Once I stepped into that house I then saw that it was a very bad idea! Why didn’t I go home and get my mom; so her and my dad could go back for my book bag? Why did I think I was strong enough to do this on my own? I knew nothing of enemy territory; I didn’t know it wasn’t a place for a child to think she could be in control!

That day I not only was robbed of my childhood but my virginity! Of neither I can never get back and that ordeal began the downward spiral that was my life for years to come.

I wanted my life back! I wanted to reclaim my time! I wanted to live again! For so many years I was lost and broken! I didn’t know who I was; I was dealing with an identity crisis! But that was then! I lived through one of the worst times in my life and I want to tell you; that you can too!

My name is Tamara McCarthy! I am the Single Mom of Purpose on Instagram, I am a self-published author, I am a writer and blogger! I am a Single Mom and I am a child of the Most High God!! And I am loved. I no longer let or allow other people’s words of negativity have power over my life! I take back every single thing the enemy stole from me!! I am Free.

©️2017 Copyrighted Material Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Kingdom Gals Series)

#SpiritualSundays: Judgement and Assumptions

When People Don’t Know Your Story; they Judge Without Reason.

Matthew 7: 1-5 says this: “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”. (NKJV)

When people don’t know your situation they are quick to assume; and rush to judge! As a single mom I was/am always judged or people make assumptions without knowing the whole scenario or story.

What many fail to realize is that none of us are perfect; not one! Many people love the fact that they are on the outside of the glass house looking in; laughing and pointing fingers.

But, when the show is over for them they have to go back to their own lives that they want you to think is spotless; but again no one is without blemish.

In the case of being a single mom, the mother is always looked upon as the problem while the dad or lack thereof gets to ride off into the sunset and begin a whole new life and not one person will reprimand him.

The next woman they choose to play house with; doesn’t even encourage him to take care of his responsibility; she goes about the situation as if they don’t even exist!

Lets look at the story of Hagar; she wasn’t thinking about Abram or trying to have his baby, but; because Sarai couldn’t wait on God she basically forced her maidservant to sleep with her husband. Once the child is conceived she wants her out of the house! God sent Hagar back! Why do you think that is? It wasn’t Hagar’s fault she was in that situation! Why should she be forced to raise and provide for this child on her own? She not only got put out of her home but also lost her job because Sarai was dysfunctional and decided to not wait on the promise!

Who willing gives there husband to another woman? That’s another conversation for another time! Single moms aren’t the only party in the scenario and shouldn’t be looked down on as the sole problem.

Judgment and assumptions are so easy to throw around and many times cause more harm than good. When people don’t get to know you they generally feel they can make jabs at you and it be okay.

Dealing with broken bones is not a fun task and being a single mom on top of that is a whole new headache. Someone that I recently met said something, again; without knowing me or getting to know me.

“You look like you don’t want to be here” and went on to compare me to other people! First of all; sir you know nothing about me! Do you have any broken bones you’re dealing with right now? Are you raising kids on your own? Are you their sole provider? Did you just lose 1.5 weeks of wages? Are you in pain as we speak? I mean there are so many other questions that can be posed! But, let me say this after I was done explaining why you can’t make assumptions or judge based on facial expressions, he couldn’t look me in my eyes; that day and not any days after that! How was I supposed to look? Was I supposed to be floating around on my crutches singing; Oh Happy Day?

People seem to believe that being saved, sanctified and filled with the Holy Ghost is a walk in the park. Every day isn’t going to be happy and joyful! You will be under attack and you won’t look your best! Being a Christian is hard work and if anyone says it’s not then they are living in a fantasy world! Jesus went through hard times! Jesus was tried and tested! Jesus was tempted by Satan! None of us are exempt from the trials and tribulations but we are encouraged to be on guard! Watch out for the fiery darts, the finger pointing, the snide remarks, the smirks and assumptions, the tearing down of your character; etc.

We are told to turn the other cheek and if that one isn’t enough give the other! How we respond can teach or add fumes to the flames. Many people don’t know how to diffuse a situation; you can kill a person with kindness. That scenario I spoke of went way different in person that was just the back end that he knew nothing about and didn’t care to find out. The moral of the story is that you shouldn’t judge a book simply by the cover! You never know the gems that lie between the pages.

©2017 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises {Spiritual Sundays Series}

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Kingdom Gals: For the Love of Money….

What would you do to become rich, wealthy or comfortable? Do you chase money or does money chase you? Are you a lover of money?

Money does make the world go round! Or so they say! But are you suppose to allow money to rule you? Are you supposed to allow it to run your life? Shouldn’t money be under your control?

It seems like everyone and everybody is talking about money these days! Social media is filled with people telling you and showing you various ways to get money, become financially independent and how to become an entrepreneur!

But, is that the will of God for your life or is that some illusion you have become fascinated with? Money is a necessity don’t get me wrong; we all need it to pay bills to survive! But should money be your main focus? Should it become your motive to succeed in this life? Should it become more important than your purpose?

Let’s look at it from this perspective:

Multiple streams of income? Do you welcome this concept? Not sure why I awoke with this on my mind; but as a Single Mom I wish I knew more about this years ago. (The life of a single mom can be hard at times; and money can be scarce at times)

Having multiple streams of income would’ve definitely helped with the bills and just the financial aspect that comes with raising kids!

When you have only one income coming in; you have to stretch it and many times have to make sacrifices to make it work!

Could this be an example of living abundantly? Or being a lender and not a borrower? Or even using the gifts that have been implanted in us to prosper? (From the Bible standpoint what are your thoughts?)

Just remember this; all money isn’t good money! The enemy knows that money is an requirement to live and he will throw all kinds of get rich quick schemes your way! Be on guard and know when it benefits his motives or God’s…..There is a difference..

When we take a look at the Bible we know it talks about “living abundantly” “prospering” “paying your tithes” “being a lender and not a borrower” but does it tell us how to maintain, build wealth, etc.

I believe it does when it speaks on our gifts/talents! We are all supplied gifts and talents but it’s all in how you use them! Are you using them to build up or break down? Are you using them to scheme or mislead? Are you using them to advance your negative lifestyle or motives? Are you using them to change someone’s life?

There are endless opportunities in this world to do some good and live an amazing life according to the Bible!

Things to consider when it comes to money:

1. Money shouldn’t be the main focus!

2. Your Purpose shouldn’t be based off of money!

3. If you have to lie, scheme, kill, sell your soul or your body! Run and don’t look back; it’s definitely not worth it!

4. Every opportunity to gain or build wealth or just survive isn’t a Kingdom opportunity; check the fruit, motives and end game!

5. If it changes your character and outlook on life; then look within and decide if something in you needs to change!

©2017 Copyrighted Material Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Kingdom Gals Series)

#SpiritualSundays Let Me Show You The Ways: Guest Blogger Ms Angie Bee

How many different ways can you show love to someone?  Well, during the holiday season we show love by giving lavish gifts, or inviting others over for a fabulous meal.  There are others that give money or make travel plans, and others simply enjoy time off “work”.

I get excited when I hear that people go through transitions during holiday seasons.  Babies are born, folks get engaged or married and others leave us to go live in heaven.  My mom moved to heaven on the Monday after Thanksgiving in 1999 and I love her for that…

Now, let us talk about hospitality during the holiday season.  Now THAT can be a challenge for some families!  Not only do you have to cook for the multitudes, but in some cases you need to clean up and decorate your guest room to accommodate out of town guests.  Money needs to be spent, arrangements need to be made and grumbling can be heard. “Why do I have to give up my room to Uncle Charlie?” “It’s too hot to sleep on the porch!”  “Your flight arrives at WHAT time?!”  The complaints can be heard far and wide!

This may be a stretch for some of you but what about those women that give up their babies to another family during the holidays?  That must be an incredible feeling… to receive a new member of your family from a “perfect stranger”?  WOW!  What an amazing gift of love!  I know that my eldest daughter was born a week before Thanksgiving in 1990 and MAN we had a lot to be grateful for that year!  WOW!

I love God, and I really mean what I say.  He gave us an entire book of love and called it The Bible.  It’s filled with instructions for our lives to make our time on Earth easier to bear.  God’s book is filled with true love stories – like the story that tells us that he sent His ONLY son to be born, to live and to die for US!  I wouldn’t give ANY of my children to ANYONE else for ANY REASON!  I mean, I appreciate my fellow man but YOU CAN’T HAVE MY CHILDREN!  Hmmph   God loved us more than I can imagine, and He sent His only son for us.  That’s love.

God also taught us how to show love to others!  His word teaches us in

1 Peter 4:9-10 ESV  – Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace:

Hebrews 13:2 ESV – Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.

1 Corinthians 13:8 ESV – Love never ends…

Love and Hospitality go hand-in-hand during the holidays.  Don’t forget that friend or neighbor that showed you love in the past?  They could have been an Angel!  Now, go be an Angel to someone else this holiday season and show them your hospitality.  Be grateful for your life, your health, your family and for our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ that was born, lived, died and was resurrected JUST FOR YOU!

@2017 Copyrighted Material Evangelist Angie Bee used with permission for Tamara McCarthy Enterprises (Spiritual Sundays series)

 

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