What do you do? Do you sit or stand on the sidelines and just throw your hands up? Do you reach out to the absentee parent for clarity? How do you have children but won’t be active in their lives?
There is always talk about women keeping their children away from fathers that actually want to be in their kids lives; I could never understand that! Your children should be the most important person in your life; how do you hurt them by keeping them from their fathers? Okay, so he doesn’t want you anymore? Move on; get your life! Your son, your daughter needs that bond to be Strong and unbreakable; how do you deprive them of that? The lifelong effects aren’t worth it because you have issues with him! I understand every situation is different but if that man has never hurt you or your child physically; then what is the problem?
The women that have to force a relationship with the absent father; I feel you and stand with you because I can relate! We are the ones that will move heaven and earth so that our kids can have that much needed relationship with their dad but; he simply isn’t interested! He may show up when it’s convenient for him but we have to go out of our way to make it happen!
Why Lord, because our kids crave that relationship and we want to see them happy! So many times they make the attempt and set-up a time but at the last minute call or text to cancel; do you know how that breaks a child’s heart and we have to put those pieces back together? It’s unbearable sometimes you just want to shield them from it but how do you do that?
What does the Bible say about parenting?
Ephesians 6:4 (NIV)
“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord”.
Colossians 3:21 (NIV)
“Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged”.
Psalms 127:3-5 (NIV)
“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court”.
Matthew 18:12-14 (NIV)
“What do you think? If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off? And if he finds it, truly I tell you, he is happier about that one sheep than about the ninety-nine that did not wander off. In the same way your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should perish”
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up”.
This conversation piece can be handed out in so many different ways; but the truth still remains; the children are the ones that get hurt the most!
For some of us we don’t get the option of the blended family! So many men move on to other relationships and leave their children to often; wondering what They did to deserve so much heartache and pain.
Hurt children grow up to be Hurt Adults! When will this cycle end?
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