I Just Banged My Toe! 

I just banged my toe!

Written by: Evangelist Angie Bee…(includes audio version)

We’ve all done it before, traveled a corner too closely and banged that baby toe. Some of us have even found ourselves wearing Popsicle-stick-splints, wrapped carefully around that fractured big toe. I don’t think I’ve heard of anyone injuring those second, third or fourth toes… but there is probably somebody out there who has managed to do that.

What’s the FIRST thing you say as those nerve endings are flooded by the shock waves of pain? What’s the first thing that escapes your lips? Is it a curse word? An expletive that your mama told you she had BEST not hear come out of your mouths? Is it the standard “OUCH!” or “DARN” or a sympathy-inducing, blood-curdling moan!?

I just banged my toe. Well, actually, I was lifting the vacuum cleaner to re-direct it and it slipped from my hands and fell on the top of my big toe. Yes, I was wearing my slippers and normally this incident would not have bothered me too much… but let me back track a little bit.

In September 2016 I had a bunion on my left foot repaired. I praise God for the health insurance and the patient man of God that tolerated me hobbling around the house on a walker. Unfortunately I put too much weight on that foot in the first week, popped a stick and landed with an infection in that foot. By the time February 2017 rolled around I was experienced and ready to have the bunion on my right foot taken care of.

This time, I wasn’t taking any chances as I expertly rolled around the house in a wheelchair. The bible taught me in 1 Corinthians 6:9 “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself.” ;and I am in a season of repairing my temple! After years of overeating, obesity and basically ignoring the body that God has blessed me to have, I have lost 200 pounds through weight loss surgery and I’m healing better that I could have ever imagined! However, my legs, back and especially my feet suffered immensely over the years that I weighed over 380 pounds and bunions on both feet were the result. It was my goal to continue the restoration of my temple by having both of my feet operated on.

Now, if any of you have ever gone through a planned surgical process, you know that there can be prescriptions, healing apparatus’s and family support in place. My last surgery was in February 2017 and now that the summer is upon us, I don’t have many second thoughts about that procedure. I’m walking pain-free and experimenting with new shoes that make my legs look GREAT! However, through all of these accomplishments, I have to admit that I have not praised God as much as I should have. You know… each of you probably called your mother recently because it was Mother’s Day, or maybe you visited her gravesite or mourned because she is no longer with you. She was remembered and celebrated in some way, but did you thank God for her? What I am trying to say is now that my surgery is over and my healing is upon me, have I reached out to God lately to say “THANK YOU FOR MY SURGERY! or even to say THANK YOU FOR MY HEALING!!! Have I done that?

That’s where the vacuum cleaner comes in to play. You see, I have learned over the years that the FIRST thing that needs to come out of my mouth when I experience pain or fear is JESUS! Even as of late, I have heard the words THANK YOU GOD!!! come out of my mouth, as I ran to get the ice pack or wiped a tear from my eye. I’m not saying that God allowed me to drop the vacuum cleaner on my foot in order to be praised… God is a jealous God, but he ain’t vain… what I am saying is that we need to praise God “in season and out”, when we are in pain and out of pain, during the good times and the bad. Don’t stub your toe and curse God because of the pain! Don’t pray to God before the surgery and not give Him a shout of praise after receiving your healing!

In celebration of Father’s Day, I want to end this piece with a word of advise I learned from my Daddy. Not long ago, I was healing from either an ailment or a surgical procedure, I don’t really remember. Well, I called my daddy in order to get some sympathy and to be babied-on a bit. My precious daddy, Mr. Al James Bennett said to me in a loving and wise voice “you ain’t as young as you used to be, so it’s gonna take you longer to heal up!” (smh – no sympathy came from him on THAT DAY! – lol) However, somewhere in my daddy’s advise I did hear from God through that message. God’s grace and mercy carried us through a lot of pain and heartache earlier in our lives and we may or may not given God the praise that we should have. Isaiah 46:4 says ” Even to your old age I will be the same, And even to your graying years I will bear you! I have done it, and I will carry you; And I will bear you and I will deliver you”.

God loved us when we didn’t know we were being loved, so now that we KNOW better let us work to praise Him FIRST during our trials and pain.

Happy Father’s Day to my God. Thank you for the love, caring and wisdom you have bathed me in over the years and thank you for allowing me to stub my toe. Thank you for the ice pack that was in my refrigerator and thank you for allowing this message to reach other wise fathers, so they may pass along your teachings to their children. Thank you for my husband and his “fathering” methods and for his ability to hear from you as he guides us both along the path you have set for us. Thank you God for those obstacles in our lives that you allow us to bump in to that bless you Lord. Thank you​ for the bruises we have endured; that are healing. I ask these and all added blessing be bestowed upon the readers and hearers of your word through this article and I thank you God for allowing me to serve as your hands, feet and your voice.

In the mighty name of Jesus, I pray
Amen

Happy Father’s Day Everyone and

BEE Blessed.

 

Evangelist Angie BEE

Author, Producer, Promoter and Servant of the Lord

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Sisterhood & Empowerment: #MySister’sKeeper


I attended an event this weekend that was all about sisterhood and empowerment! While I am quiet and tend to stick to myself I had an amazing time! Many of the events I tend to frequent are with people I already know and for the most part I am comfortable around!

This wasn’t that kind of event! I knew not one person in the room personally but as the time past I realized that I knew some from social media.

As an introvert I find it hard to just get out there and network/mingle; but I realized it was time to begin to break that habit! I can’t stay within my comfort zone the rest of my life because I will never obtain and pursue all of the awesomeness God has placed within me and around me.

Now that we got that out the way; let me say this: Sisterhood can be powerful and empowering! If we only grab hold of it! So many friendships and sisterhoods have been demolished and dismantled for the most foolish reasons! I have had 2-10 year friendships end over crazy stuff that just baffled me and had me scratching my head like; what happened? 

When I took the time to look back and replay certain conversations and interactions I realized that neither one of those former friends believed in me! Can you imagine if I kept them in my life if we had never parted ways? They would have deterred and detoured me! I wouldn’t have written any of my books and finally found my voice!

You see one of the things we discussed at the event was strengths and weaknesses and one of my strengths is that I’m a caring person and one of my weaknesses is that I can be naive. Just imagine me telling either one of those ladies that I felt I had to get my story out to help other women; they would’ve shot it down; why? Because they shot down less! 

Ladies, we have to do better! We can’t allow ourselves to become afraid of someone else getting blessed! God will continue to bless and favor those that HE sees fit! Will you be the one to encourage, empower and motivate? Or will you be the one that will distract, beat-down and detour?

We all have a choice; what do you choose?

I choose #SisterHood….check out my book

The Single Woman Chronicles: My Sister’s Keeper. Available at http://www.amazon.com or for autographed copy contact me.

© 2017 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises/Kingdom Royalty Publishing

When Parenting Takes A Wrong Turn.

 

Have you reached your limit?

If I was standing in front of you giving this message I would ask “How many of you have reached your limit?” Many of you would look around and wonder what I was referring too.

So many of us have been pushed and pushed until we have exploded and done something crazy like responding. Why you ask is it crazy to respond?

Turn the other cheek!

In the Christian world so many leaders teach as well as the Bible to turn the other cheek and if I’m not mistaken; this is when you are under attack? Am I wrong? Let’s look at the scripture and see what it says:

“You have heard that it was said, An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also. And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away”. Matthew 5:38-42 (NKJV)

Now that we have read the scripture let’s dive into this scenario: you’re a single Mom or even a Single Dad and your children go to visit the other parent and their new mate and while there it is demanded that they respect the new mate. Nothing has happened, they haven’t step out of line, before they enter the house; these are the instructions! (think on that; go deep and then deeper)

Now, there is nothing wrong with this scenario if respect is given and taught across the board! In many cases, one parent can be disrespectful to the other while they are around the children and often while they aren’t! But children watch and listen like hawks and as parents it is our job to lead and guide them down the right paths and train them in the right way to act and respond; am I right? How can you make demands on one hand and let them slide on the other? Is that proper parenting? You can’t half raise or train your children because it will confuse them and may lead to problems down the line.

To prove my point let’s look again at scripture:

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it”. Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV) 

“And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord”. Ephesians 6:4 (NKJV)

It takes a village; or so they say!

Raising children, especially brown and black children is hard enough in this day and age; without the other parent, not completely and properly doing their part! We as parents must lay the foundation for our children to stand on! We must be the example! So many children are wandering around in this world lost and confused and it starts with the parents! Boys especially look up to their fathers if he is around (even when he isn’t around) no matter how much or how less time they have with him! Use that power to do right by your children! (Absentee parents)

 

Let me give you a visual:

Mommy left daddy and decided she would put her children first and foremost and hasn’t dated in years. Daddy decided he would continue to date others and not play an active role in the children’s lives but gets them for the weekend occasionally. Throughout the years he hasn’t participated in the raising, discipline or correction of the children when it comes to them respecting and obeying their mother but on the other hand demands they obey and respect his new mate; is there something wrong with this picture?

When you read and think about this scenario go deeper! Mom is constant in their lives in many cases throughout the world, right? Dad is part-time on occasion and it is like a getaway from rules, correction, discipline, etc. Is it so hard or so far-fetched that the other parent makes sure their child is acting and responding properly on all occasions? Respect your mom/dad, obey your mom/dad, listen to your mom/dad, etc. What can happen if your child is with the mom 99% of the time and they don’t respect and obey her? What can go wrong? 

Co-parenting?

Couples break up and move on all the time! You can be mad and in your feelings but that shouldn’t ever reach the ears and eyes of your children! Respect is taught! Obedience is taught! No matter what went on within your adult relationship you still have children that will one day be adults in this crazy world! How do you prepare them the right way; if they aren’t willing to listen and take instruction? They have been shown and taught that they don’t have to respect and obey you; so how do you get them on the right track?

 

Let me also insert this for you to read and think about:

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly”. John 10:10 (NKJV)

 

Our children aren’t exempt from the hands of the enemy! Why would you willingly deliver them to him? When you not only allow but teach them to do wrong; you’re a part of the problem! We all have a choice between life and death; is it really that hard to make the right choice to do and be the best that we can be; no matter the situation?

 

Prayer is needed for all (parents and children) in these types of scenarios! Prayer will change the outcomes and bring relief to the parent that needs that comfort of knowing they aren’t alone! No parent should feel that they are at their wits end! It takes 2 people to have a child and it should be 2 that are raising the child; either together or apart! When another party comes into the equation understandably respect should be in place but it should never be withheld from the child’s natural parent!

Just think about it.

When you take the time, and practice this on a regular basis and it is a daily requirement across the board; then there is no need to make demands.

In the end, when it’s all said and done; who is the victim in all of this and who gets hurt the most? When the adults can’t come to an agreement to raise respectable and obedient children? Who gets the victory?

Pray it Out

Heavenly Father it is my prayer to the woman or man reading this, the mother or father that is dealing with the same situation that you stand in the gap for them! Send help their way, a listening ear, an emphatic heart and a compassionate listener; that will allow them to get it all out and respond with the loving kindness that only you can provide. We know that stress is deadly and not having others by your side in your time of need, to hear your pleas for help is known to many; but we thank you Father God, that you are always there and will always come just in the nick of time! And we love and appreciate you for that.

We need you to speak and act accordingly, on our behalf to the other party that has been going against your instructions and your commands. Father God when it comes to the raising and training of our children that you Father God have blessed us with! We will continually seek and do our best to follow your word but we need it to be so on both sides!

There can be no room for the enemy to wiggle his ugly head into this equation to cause division and strife! We come against him right now in the mighty name of your son Jesus! We deny his access into our lives and our children’s lives! There must be unity and all personal feelings need to be put aside for the continual protection for the children! In Jesus mighty name we pray, Amen.

 

Reflect on these scriptures and now that God has your back!

“The Lord will fight for you, and you will hold your peace” Exodus 14:14 (NKJV)

“You will not need to fight in this battle. Position yourselves, stand still and see the salvation of the Lord, who is with you, O Judah and Jerusalem! Do not fear or be dismayed; tomorrow go out against them, for the Lord is with you”. 2 Chronicles 20:17 (NKJV)

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If you are a single mom/woman check out these book titles:

Single Mom You Aren’t Alone: Becoming A Single Woman of Purpose. Written by Tamara D McCarthy and The Single Woman Chronicles: God, Men & You. available at http://www.amazon.com for an autographed copy contact the author.