My Future Husband: It’s time to be Honest…

There are so many men and women that don’t know how to be complete as an individual; how can they be complete in a marriage? 

So many men and women have grown up in a single parent household; have they dealt with and worked on their feeling of abandonment?

: Men and Women! If you have children prepare your children as you are waiting! You have the desire to be One with someone but your family dynamics is out of order! 

Why bring someone else into your dysfunction? Your kids talk back to you? They will talk back to your spouse! Your children disrespect you? They will disrespect your spouse! Your children are acting out at school, their grades are horrible and they don’t have the desire to learn? 

Children feed off of what they see and hear! If they see you running and chasing after someone else besides them; they will respond! You are showing your child(ren) that they don’t matter! You have time for a blind date; but you don’t have time to help them with their homework? You got time to go to the club but you don’t have time to chaperone a field trip? 

The Bible says this in Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it”. (NKJV) 

My point in all of this is that your child should be your top priority; not some random person who may not even make it to a 2nd date! You have to take care of home no matter what! 

Your child(ren) were there way before this person and anyone that comes into the equation will know and understand that! 

The Right person will blend in; not try to dismantle what has already been built! They will in fact build upon it and make the foundation stronger! They will be an addition and not a distraction!

Your praying for God to send your husband or wife but your house isn’t in order!

When you decide you don’t want to be someone’s doormat, their punching bag, their part time boo thang then you’re almost ready to begin your work; but you’re missing another step in the process. What is that step and what does it require?

There are so many people out here; men and women losing themselves in others that care nothing for them! Losing their souls, their minds and all kinds of self control; for a relationship! 

They will give up everything even their kids to have a warm body next to them and/or under them. They are going about it all the wrong way;  love, real love doesn’t require you to lose anything but you gain so much more and the way to get it is through Our Heavenly Father! 

Why do it the wrong way; when the right way is so much easier?

©2017 Tamara McCarthy Enterprises 

content also appears in the book titled My Future Husband: Tailor-Made by God available at


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Tamara Mccarthy Enterprises

Tamara is an Author, Writer, Motivator and Single Mom! She is earning her PHd in Christian Counseling; and has always had a passion to inspire and motivate young ladies and women and now it has become her purpose in life. She is also a Certified Life and Empowerment Coach.

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