“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise” Ephesians 6:1-2 (NKJV)
I am going to be honest and say that I really didn’t want to write this article. I thought about it, I prayed about it and I didn’t want to write anything about Mother’s Day. I had my reasons such as:
1. It’s a man-made holiday! Just to be clear I don’t celebrate Christmas like normal people do; my money stays
in my bank account; no black Friday shopping for me!
2. One day to celebrate mother’s? Like really?
3. Some moms aren’t worthy of this man-made holiday! (Yep I said it and thought it!)
4. Somebody is bound to come out of their mouth and ruin the day! (Don’t believe me; just watch!)
5. Does society really appreciate all moms? (do they?) You want me to come in your store and purchase gifts for my mom and friends that are moms and put money in your pocket; but you don’t really want to serve me? What’s up with that?
6. And then I thought about the ones that was going to have something negative to say maybe in the comments section, over the phone or behind the comfort of their keyboard; but never to my face. Like who does she think she is?
Well for starters I’m a black single mom that is raising black boys that must constantly be mindful of where we are and who we are around! We all not just them but me included must think twice if we just maybe want to wear a hoodie as we go out to start our day; we may want to go jogging, walk the dog or just simply walk to the mailbox! But do we really want to put that hoodie on? Maybe just the t-shirt, joggers and umbrella if it’s raining; would be the better choice. What do you think?
Now you may be thinking how in the heck did she get on this rant and what does it have to do with Mother’s Day? (Read 2 Timothy 4:2-5 KJV) Well let’s see, stores make a big deal about any holiday because people are going to want to spend money. People are going to max out their credit cards getting the mother’s in their life the best that money can buy; flowers, candies, jewelry, cars, clothes, etc. you name it!
But the very next day it’s going to go back to business as usual; kids are going back to being disobedient, husbands, boyfriends, heck even baby daddies are going back to cheating and lying, major store chains are going back to only wanting certain people in their stores! Do I really need to go on?
Do you really need society to tell you when to do right by the mother’s in your life? How many of you have given your mom a near heart attack with the foolishness you put her through as a child? Maybe now as an adult you still haven’t got it together and you’re going to act right on one day of the year and think it’s all good? Do you know that stress kills? Many of the diseases that plague man-kind is brought on by stress!
And while it may appear that I’m all for the mothers, don’t get too comfortable; because like I said in #3 some of y’all aren’t worth this man-made holiday! Why? Because you are out here putting grown little boys before your kids! You got these dudes coming in/out your house all times of the day/night in front of your kids, you are moving them in fully knowing they aren’t worth your time or good enough to be around your kids! What kind of role model are you showing them? No wonder they run to the streets for love and support!
Proverbs 22:6 says this “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”. (KJV)
Child(ren): have you asked your mom for forgiveness? Have you forgiven yourself?
Mom: have you asked your child(ren) for forgiveness? Have you forgiven yourself?
Matthew 6:15 (Amplified Bible) says this: “But if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses”.
Now to finish answering the ones who want to know you I am. I am a published author who has written many books telling of what I have done and what I had to do to get on the right track! (you can get my book for Single Moms from Amazon: bit.ly/singlemomnotalone or by contacting me for autographed copies) None of us are perfect but we should strive to do better! I believe when we make it out; we should reach back and help those that are still trying to find their way! But the thing is many don’t even know that they are lost.
While many of you will forget you read this once you close out of the article; and for the ones that it got your attention, ask yourself why?
Is there something that you can change in your life to make it better? Are you perhaps one of the moms that could use some help to live a more purposeful life? Are you a child that may have been disobedient and gave your mom a hard time? It’s never too late to apologize and start over!
Do you need help? If so, contact me as I am also a Life Empowerment Coach and I am here to help. (email for consultation and appointment firstname.lastname@example.org)
One thing I don’t like to do is sugarcoat the message; sometimes we must give it straight with no chasers! How do we grow if we are comfortable with where we are? It’s time to grow; are you ready?
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