Finding Your Voice: #SpiritualSundays

This past week I had my very first live radio interview! Can I tell you I was a nervous wreck? I am a true introvert! I’m shy; reserved laid back, calm and collected until you tell or ask me to speak! Speak to who; a large group of people, heck it could be 2 people and I still get the jitters. For the past year and a half I have been trying to “Find My Voice“; why because I have something to say and people need to hear it! If we are silent and have the ability to help others; then who are we hurting?

In “finding your voice“;

  1. You have to know what you have to say and;
  2. Who you need to say it too!

For me that was easy; what trials and tribulations have I experienced? Rape Survivor, Teen Motherhood, Single Motherhood, Domestic Violence Survivor, etc. Who else deals with these types of experiences? Young Ladies (Teens and Adults), Women (Single), Moms (Single) and the list can go on and on. Where would I start? I thought the best way to reach so many different individuals on multiple levels in that point in my life; was to write! So writing is what I did; with absolutely no experience in writing a book!

In the interview I was asked some questions that took me back and got me to thinking and also reflecting on the things that Our Heavenly Father has brought me through! It brought tears to my eyes because the fact is that “He” loved me enough to get me up, out and over what very things tried to take me out and destroy my life, his will and the plans he has for me!

How many of us go through life with labels attached to us? How many of us actually believe what others have called us, spoken over us negatively and even more; beat into us?

“You are”

“You never will be”

“You can’t”

“You won’t”

“I hate”

“I don’t”

“I can’t”

This type of abuse, hate, self-hate, low self-esteem stems from so many avenues; but what happens when you allow it in your life? When you downplay every aspect of it because you haven’t become strong enough to simply walk away?

When I was younger everyone loved me! They would say how cute I was! How quiet I was; such a good child! But that all changed the day I decided to help a friend that was scared to walk home by herself. Our Heavenly Father knew the plans for my life! He created me to be a helper; even if it meant giving of myself and at some point in life; losing myself! This trial, this tribulation changed my life and my families life forever. As a child we don’t think and that can be for many reasons; for me I was sheltered and a little bit naive. I believed at that time that everyone in the world was good. I went to church as a kid with my great grandmother but didn’t know the full effect of the enemy and the schemes he uses to distract us and at times bind us!  In helping my friend I in turn was raped by the very person whom “she” was afraid of! How does that happen? Why did it happen? This traumatic event got worse when certain folks in my inner and extended family decided to allow the enemy to work through them; and place the blame on the victim. Even at 12 years old Our Heavenly Father was there and working it out for my good; it may have been a difficult time to live through but I made it! (I will be sharing more of this; in one of my upcoming books! Stay tuned)

Before my interview I prayed and actually recorded it and shared on my social media pages because I have reached a point in my life where I can no longer stay hidden! In order to live out my purpose; I have to be visible and that means in all aspects of my walk. When I started to write I really didn’t want to share my stories but the more I prayed about it; I realized in me telling my stories it releases the hold the enemy had on me! In John 10:10 (NKJV) it says this: “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly“. (courtesy of Listen to the prayer here:

Can I be absolutely honest with you? That’s when I began to live again! I had been going through the motions and existing in this here life but I was still stuck! Years ago I had rid myself of the destructive relationships that I allowed to exist! I made the decision to never allow that type of destruction in my life or around my children again! I took the time to work on me but now it was time for me to help others and that meant stepping out into the unknown; but I wouldn’t be alone because if you are a believer then you will know that “He” never leaves you lonely and “He” will always provide just what you need.

These scriptures spoke to me; I pray they will speak to you! We all have a story, a purpose, a passion; our why! What is yours?

Romans 4:17 (courtesy of

17 “(as it is written, I have made you a father of many nations) in the presence of Him whom he believed—God, who gives life to the dead and calls those things which do not exist as though they did“; (NKJV)

 Genesis 17:5 (courtesy of

No longer shall your name be called Abram, but your name shall be Abraham; for I have made you a father of many nations“. (NKJV)

Oh and another nugget I would like to share is; don’t allow other people to box you in! This has become my go-to scripture when people who don’t know me try to hold me back or box me in: Matthew 25:15 (NKJV) “And to one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one, to each according to his own ability; and immediately he went on a journey“. (Courtesy of


If you haven’t already listened/watched my radio interview; click here:


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I may do a part 2 “To Finding Your Voice” so stay tuned for another #SpiritualSundays article: I pray you enjoyed this one and it helped you or someone that you know!

Until Next Time.



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Tamara is an Author, Writer, Motivator and Single Mom! She is earning her PHd in Christian Counseling; and has always had a passion to inspire and motivate young ladies and women and now it has become her purpose in life. She is also a Certified Life and Empowerment Coach.

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