“Cussin’ – Bad Words – WTF and #*!@?” #SpiritualSundays

When I was, a kid attending Frederick J. Schulze Elementary School in Detroit Michigan, my classmates would use “Bad Words: while whispering to each other.  The “cool” kids would say these “bad words” during conversation, but even the cool kids would avoid allowing their hushed voices to be heard by the teacher.  I wonder if the grown-ups at the school ever knew that some of the kids spoke these words?

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Once I hit Beaubien Jr. High school, the “Bad words” evolved into cussin’ and the hushed voices grew louder and became more direct toward certain classmates.  I frequently found myself being the target of some of that language as the class bullies seemed to resent everything I wore, everything I smiled about and every “A” that I earned.  I knew that I wasn’t a B-I-T-C-H, but just having that word slung in my direction stung a bit more, each time I heard it.

I grew up attending and being blessed by memberships in two Detroit churches.  I was baptized and raised at Beth Eden Missionary Baptist Church, and at the age of twelve my spiritual growth enlarged through my membership at Hartford Memorial Baptist Church.  Now, I don’t know about other churches or other religions but I do know that EVERY BAPTIST CHURCH I have ever attended always leads you in a song that goes a little something like this:

 Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer – Amen, Amen, Amen.


Now, did I know that song that we sang was a scripture?  Nope!  Did I know that while singing that song in church, I was basically saying out loud that I wanted the words that came out of my mouth to be acceptable to God?  Nope!  “DO YOU UNDERSTAND THE WORDS THAT ARE COMING OUT OF MY MOUTH?!” 

Once I “grew up” and lived on the college campus, I cussed “like a sailor” because I was “GROWN!” My mama wasn’t around to smack me in the mouth and everybody else on the campus of Wilberforce University was cussing’ too!  That’s when one of the professors mentioned a study that has stuck with me all these years later.  Now, don’t quote me on it but the study said something about the use of vulgar language reflecting the ignorance and poor vocabulary skills of the word cussin’.  Well, I was a communications major and I planned to have a career in radio, so I wasn’t about to reflect ignorance coming out of my mouth!  After that lesson, cuss words only flew out of my mouth during stress or frustration… and even then, I was ashamed afterwards.

These days I will see posts on social media with letters such as “WTF” or “LMFAO”.  These letters are sometimes even posted in a sentence meant to bring humor or accolades, but once I see that letter “F” or letter “A” in there, I get a little sad.  As an adult, we now refer to this language as “Profanity” and although it is no longer directed at me, I still shudder when I hear it spoken; just hearing swear words can make me sad.

 “A group of researchers from Kno.e.sis Research CenterWright State University near Dayton Ohio studied why people swear in the online world by collecting tweets posted on Twitter. They found that cursing is associated with negative emotions such as sadness (21.83%) and anger (16.79%) thus showing people in the online world mainly use curse words to express their sadness and anger towards others.[20][21]” (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Profanity)

You see, our words reflect what is growing on the inside of us.  Kinda like if you ate something last night that doesn’t agree with your tummy, you will find yourself on the toilet by the next morning.  That mess was on the inside of you, so it came out.  Cussin’ reflects something rotten inside of you, so it falls out of your mouth just as easily as that diarrhea plopped outta your butt!

Profanity – offensive words or religious words used in a way that shows you do not respect God or holy things – http://www.ldoceonline.com/dictionary/profanity

My mama was a holy thing when she lived on Earth.  Even though our mama cussed, I didn’t cuss around my mama (I didn’t want to get a spanking, so that motivated me to keep my mouth clean!).  My husband is a holy thing as he represents the way God loves me in this season of my life.  I don’t cuss around my husband. Just looking at him reminds me that I am loved and respected and appreciated, so I don’t have a reason to cuss him out! (lol).  I am a temple of the Lord and I invite the Lord to live inside me.  I don’t cuss around my temple…I don’t cuss around myself.  I love myself and respect myself, so I don’t cuss in my conversations or in my writings.

Wikipedia reflects that “profanity has come to mean any socially offensive language beyond that strictly religious sense, but tends to exclude any other nonverbal communication. Thus profanity in English may be synonymous with bad language, strong language, coarse language, foul language, bad words, vulgar language, lewd language, choice words or expletives“. – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Profanity

On the Sunday, November 20, 2016 ministry broadcast from Pastor Ron Carpenter, he taught that there was a lesson in the bible where a group of people had been led by Moses to a place where they were to drink water.  When the people tasted the water, they found that it tasted bitter and later, scientists tested the water and determined that the bitter taste was the result of a laxative component that would help flush your system.  Ron Carpenter offered that God led those people to the water to get that bad taste of their past slavery out of their systems. http://www.roncarpenter.com/on-demand/detox/


What do you need to get out of your system?  

If you don’t get it out spiritually, it will fly out of your mouth offensively.

(Thank you, Jesus!)

On the Sunday, November 20, 2016 broadcast from Pastor Jesse Duplantis, he taught on first fruits and on giving God your best.  He visually taught that God gave us HIS first fruit in that he gave us His first son.  Why don’t we give God our best language of respect, praise and gratitude and cleanse our minds and our tongues from foul language?  Why don’t we give OURSELVES our first fruit of a sweet language on our lips and not the bitter words that fly out and offend?

God gave us his best when he gives us his grace and mercy and when God spoke, he created wonders and lifestyles and an home for us!  When we speak to the waitress, she brings out the best meal that can be prepared for us.  When you hear those words “I Love You”… do you want to hear a cuss word thrown in that statement?!?

Today, let us all strive to “clean up our act” and mentally “wash our mouths out with soap”.  Listen to the lyrics of the music you are feeding into your ears.  Is it laced with profanity and sexual references?  How does that make you feel?  Do you find yourself quoting those lyrics?  Would you want someone referring to you in the way those lyrics refer to another in that song?

Today, let us all strive to replace one curse word at a time with a new vocabulary word in our speech and in our writings.  “WTF” can now be “WITW” (What In The World?” comes from my anointed daughter Jasmine…thanks Princess!)  I prefer ROTFLOL to LMFAO (why do I have to refer to myself as FAT, anyway!  Hmmph).  Today, let us be a “Shining Light of Language” (SLOL) for someone else while we are talking to them; when they realize that each word coming from your mouth is positive and encouraging… they may catch on and repeat your example!




 Ron Carpenter broadcast from Sunday, November 20, 2016 – http://www.roncarpenter.com/

Jesse Duplantis broadcast from Sunday, November 20, 2016  – http://www.jdm.org/

Psalm 19:14 King James Version – https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+19%3A14&version=KJV

The Brentwood Baptist Church Choir, Houston on YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=885otfEQ9Ug

Quote from the 1998 film “Rush Hour” when Chris Tucker speaks to Jackie Chan – https://youtu.be/cJX1REQB12o

The definition of Profanity by Wikipedia – – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Profanity


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Finding Your Voice: #SpiritualSundays

This past week I had my very first live radio interview! Can I tell you I was a nervous wreck? I am a true introvert! I’m shy; reserved laid back, calm and collected until you tell or ask me to speak! Speak to who; a large group of people, heck it could be 2 people and I still get the jitters. For the past year and a half I have been trying to “Find My Voice“; why because I have something to say and people need to hear it! If we are silent and have the ability to help others; then who are we hurting?

In “finding your voice“;

  1. You have to know what you have to say and;
  2. Who you need to say it too!

For me that was easy; what trials and tribulations have I experienced? Rape Survivor, Teen Motherhood, Single Motherhood, Domestic Violence Survivor, etc. Who else deals with these types of experiences? Young Ladies (Teens and Adults), Women (Single), Moms (Single) and the list can go on and on. Where would I start? I thought the best way to reach so many different individuals on multiple levels in that point in my life; was to write! So writing is what I did; with absolutely no experience in writing a book!

In the interview I was asked some questions that took me back and got me to thinking and also reflecting on the things that Our Heavenly Father has brought me through! It brought tears to my eyes because the fact is that “He” loved me enough to get me up, out and over what very things tried to take me out and destroy my life, his will and the plans he has for me!

How many of us go through life with labels attached to us? How many of us actually believe what others have called us, spoken over us negatively and even more; beat into us?

“You are”

“You never will be”

“You can’t”

“You won’t”

“I hate”

“I don’t”

“I can’t”

This type of abuse, hate, self-hate, low self-esteem stems from so many avenues; but what happens when you allow it in your life? When you downplay every aspect of it because you haven’t become strong enough to simply walk away?

When I was younger everyone loved me! They would say how cute I was! How quiet I was; such a good child! But that all changed the day I decided to help a friend that was scared to walk home by herself. Our Heavenly Father knew the plans for my life! He created me to be a helper; even if it meant giving of myself and at some point in life; losing myself! This trial, this tribulation changed my life and my families life forever. As a child we don’t think and that can be for many reasons; for me I was sheltered and a little bit naive. I believed at that time that everyone in the world was good. I went to church as a kid with my great grandmother but didn’t know the full effect of the enemy and the schemes he uses to distract us and at times bind us!  In helping my friend I in turn was raped by the very person whom “she” was afraid of! How does that happen? Why did it happen? This traumatic event got worse when certain folks in my inner and extended family decided to allow the enemy to work through them; and place the blame on the victim. Even at 12 years old Our Heavenly Father was there and working it out for my good; it may have been a difficult time to live through but I made it! (I will be sharing more of this; in one of my upcoming books! Stay tuned)

Before my interview I prayed and actually recorded it and shared on my social media pages because I have reached a point in my life where I can no longer stay hidden! In order to live out my purpose; I have to be visible and that means in all aspects of my walk. When I started to write I really didn’t want to share my stories but the more I prayed about it; I realized in me telling my stories it releases the hold the enemy had on me! In John 10:10 (NKJV) it says this: “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly“. (courtesy of http://www.biblegateway.com) Listen to the prayer here:

Can I be absolutely honest with you? That’s when I began to live again! I had been going through the motions and existing in this here life but I was still stuck! Years ago I had rid myself of the destructive relationships that I allowed to exist! I made the decision to never allow that type of destruction in my life or around my children again! I took the time to work on me but now it was time for me to help others and that meant stepping out into the unknown; but I wouldn’t be alone because if you are a believer then you will know that “He” never leaves you lonely and “He” will always provide just what you need.

These scriptures spoke to me; I pray they will speak to you! We all have a story, a purpose, a passion; our why! What is yours?

Romans 4:17 (courtesy of http://www.biblegateway.com)

17 “(as it is written, I have made you a father of many nations) in the presence of Him whom he believed—God, who gives life to the dead and calls those things which do not exist as though they did“; (NKJV)

 Genesis 17:5 (courtesy of http://www.biblegateway.com)

No longer shall your name be called Abram, but your name shall be Abraham; for I have made you a father of many nations“. (NKJV)

Oh and another nugget I would like to share is; don’t allow other people to box you in! This has become my go-to scripture when people who don’t know me try to hold me back or box me in: Matthew 25:15 (NKJV) “And to one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one, to each according to his own ability; and immediately he went on a journey“. (Courtesy of http://www.biblegateway.com)


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I may do a part 2 “To Finding Your Voice” so stay tuned for another #SpiritualSundays article: I pray you enjoyed this one and it helped you or someone that you know!

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When You’ve Been Blessed: #SpiritualSundays

When you see the word blessed; what are the first 5 things that come to mind? Is it cars, money, or clothes; within the 5 you had on your mind? 

What is your definition of blessed or blessing? Let’s take a look at what the Internet says: 


: having a sacred nature : connected with God

: very welcome, pleasant, or appreciated

—used to make a statement more forceful

Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary


: approval that allows or helps you to do something

: help and approval from God

: something that helps you or brings happiness

Source: Merriam-Webster’s Learner’s Dictionary

Blessed? Blessing? Which do you prefer? Both of them come with pretty good benefits I would say; there would be no complaints from me! 

There is a difference though; do you see it? You can be blessed; you can have all that life has to offer but kingdom says that we are always to be a blessing! Yes? Do you agree? 

When our Heavenly Father blessed us with gifts and talents they weren’t/aren’t only for our benefit; but for the benefits of others as well! Matthew 25:24-25 says this “24 Then he who had received the one talent came and said, ‘Lord, I knew you to be a hard man, reaping where you have not sown, and gathering where you have not scattered seed. 25 And I was afraid, and went and hid your talent in the ground. Look, there you have what is yours.” (NKJV: Bible Gateway)

Have you read this parable in the Bible before? If so, then you know that the one that stored away what he was given; was stripped of it! And it was given to another that knew what to do with it! 

Just think about this:

What have you been blessed with; that you are stashing away?

Is it yours to run and hide with?

Who are you hurting by doing this?

There is someone that you can help with that blessing; you are harboring?

Will you release it or will you lose it?

You have a choice; choose wisely.
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A House Divided: written by Tarsha L. Campbell #SpiritualSundays


One of the greatest strategies of the enemy is to divide and conquer. Satan uses this tactic on many home fronts. He uses it in families, in businesses, in churches, in ministries, etc. The enemy knows if he can cause any entity to walk in division, he can infiltrate and overthrow it.

This stands true when it comes to you as an individual. You are the temple and house of God. You are a tri-part being, comprise of spirit, soul, and body. The enemy knows if he can get you in conflict within yourself, and in conflict with God’s will for your life, he can misalign you from your purpose and destiny. Satan is searching for opportunities to spoil your inner peace and disrupt the unity between you and God. He wants to divide and conquer by causing you to walk in confusion, fear, intimidation, and waver in constant unbelief when it comes to the promises of God concerning your life.

This month’s Next Step Coaching For Success comes to admonish you not to be ignorant of Satan’s devices lest he gains the advantage over you (II Corinthians 2:11). Be conscious of the schemes and plots of the enemy. Don’t let the evil one cause division among your members and misalign you from God’s purpose. Be determined to stay single-minded and focused on the plan of God for your life. Especially if you are in leadership, because others are following your lead.


Your Next Step Coaching For Success Minute:


  • Identify the parts of you that are in constant conflict
  • What are the root causes of the conflict?
  • Seek God for grace to overcome and to remain undivided in your members


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