Coaching on Purpose: Winning Wednesday’s

Do you know the amount of people in this world that wake up each morning feeling defeated? 

Do you know how many of those same people go to sleep at night feeling defeated? 

I’m going to let you in on a little secret! Each day that you are able to get up and open your eyes; you have won the battle! 

Defeated people look and feel like they have lost something when they have in fact; gained so much more. 

They have the ability to start over! Recreate or invent a new way of looking at their life; why continue to feel defeat when you can change it and your overall outlook in your life? 

There are so many reasons why people feel defeated; these are just a few: 

1. Can’t find the right job suited for them.

2. Can’t seem to make enough money to pay all their bills.

3. Can’t seem to find the right soulmate.

4. Don’t feel like they are being an effective parent.

The way the job market is in many cities and states; people are being let go left and right! It looks like a disaster to them but if they really thought about it; it’s really a blessing! 

A new outlook that they would never have thought about if they were still employed; starting their own company gives them the opportunity to create stability for themselves and those they would need to hire. 

The jury is still out when it comes to dating. As a woman; are you supposed to go hunting for a guy? As a guy do you go out hunting for a woman? Is the guy supposed to make the first move or can the woman? What about these dating sites that everyone is using; is that the new way of dating? 

Think about this; maybe you haven’t been found by your soulmate because you haven’t found yourself? Maybe there is individual work that needs to be done; before anyone else is added to the equation. This isn’t a bad thing and the feeling of defeat has no home here! You want to recognize that you may need to work on yourself and any underlying issues now before your soulmate appears! 

Parenting can be a challenge but defeat can slide it’s way out the door; because even the best parents have their days when they want to run and hide. Kids are going to be kids! Spend some quality time with your child(ren) listen to them; interact with them; have some fun activities planned that they like and be more visible. So many times as parents we are trying to juggle this and that and we lose sight of what is really important! Kids don’t need and many don’t want a 4 course meal they want quality time with you! They don’t care about you trying to get rich they will settle for being comfortable and being able to see you every night at bedtime! 

Winning in life is easy! Get up every single day and don’t allow defeat to creep in! Take everything in stride as it comes into play; get your game plan together and execute it! You’re not defeated so whatever comes your way; you will find a way to work it out! 

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Keep Your Head Up!! Rock Out Monday’s: Employee Edition

Do you remember the words to the 2 Pac song Keep Your Head Up? Let’s look at the chorus portion of the song: 


Keep ya head up, oooo child things are gonna get easier

Ooooo child things are gonna get brighter [2x] (

Monday mornings is the hardest day of the week for an employee who absolutely dislikes their current job! Many people might say or even ask “if they dislike it so much then why are they there”? And the answer can be simple for many to say but unbelievable for many to hear; and it’s not just one answer it will be a few:

1. It’s all they could find! Many companies know with the current unemployment rate there are a pool of candidates that they have at their disposal and they know they can offer many candidates the lowest wage possible and they will take it; for people used to making a higher wage this is a kick in the face!

2. They have to support their family! Who wants to willingly give up their home, car and other possessions? Employees will take any job just to be able to pay their bills; put food on the table, clothe their kids and gas in their tank; heck even pay their rent. 

3. It’s hard in many areas (cities, states) to find a job that will hire you based on your experience, education, knowledge, potential and skill set! Many hiring managers are hiring based on their personal needs and wants! If they don’t like a potential candidate for whatever reason they will not hire them; and this is a fact. 

Stop making excuses” will come out the mouths of many until it happens to them! There are so many that don’t know this fate; they have been on their jobs for years and they don’t keep up with the unemployment fiasco that many looking for employment have to go through and deal with!

Instead of adding to the stress of many hard working individuals just trying to stay afloat; give them some words of encouragement! “I know you don’t like this job and you are qualified for so much more; don’t give up or give in! Your breakthrough is coming! It may not be today, tomorrow or next week but keep pressing! Keep pushing!” 


Keep Your Head Up Lyrics: 2PAC

When the World Says No; But God Says Yes. Written by Bridget McCarthy: Spiritual Sunday’s 


We live in a world of uncertainty, but for all my spirit led men and women out there we already know we are not of this world, when the world says No, our Heavenly Father says Yes Sir/Ma’am!! I could just stop there and be done with it but I have some encouraging words for you.

It doesn’t matter how many doors get slammed in your face, literally and figuratively, or how many letters of rejection you get via email or even snail mail from all those jobs ads that you applied to that you know very well that you are more than qualified for. The scripture tell us “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9 NKJV)

Just know our Lord and savior will work it out. I know many of you, as myself would like this political election to just be over, “I swear ( I just want it) to be over, (I just want it) to be over” (Keisha Cole, 2005). Well, in a few short months it will be over and we will have a new president. 

The political candidates put in a lot of time and effort to prepare for their speeches and all those public appearances that they will be making; shaking hands, kissing those babies, just out on the campaign trail trying to sell themselves to the American people. Isn’t this much like preparing for that big job interview with that Fortune 500 Company; or the tech start-up company that just opened or the local grocer in your area? You have to have your suit pressed (steam pressed for me), shoes polished, hair and nails done.

As you’ll be making public appearance or many appearances. Ultimately, you’re selling yourself to that potential employer and in today’s job market you will find yourself making a number of pit stops and shaking a lot of hands. To be a man or women of color searching for employment in today’s society is just down right tough.

Once, you get invited into the establishment(s) and the hiring manager or managers see that you are of color they start to act very differently than they did during your initial phone interview. He/she now calls in another person to sit in on the interview with you and you’re just being told this today as your signing in at the front desk. The hiring manager is clearly nervous and goes off his/her script and begins to ask you “how are your writing skills?” And you don’t recall this being mentioned in the job posting or even a requirement of the position that you applied for. 

However, you respond by letting them know your skills are exceptional, on a scale of 1 to 10, you’re a 9.5. Then you start to think, aren’t many of the greatest authors men and women of color?

Maya Angelou, James Baldwin, Toni Morrison and Langston Hughes just to name a few. Of course, the list can go on and on. Many employers and people with a hiring authority are knowingly going against the bibles daily truths, judge not so that I may not be judged, love one another as you love yourself, treat others as you would want to be treated. In fact, these individuals are taking an excerpt from the un moral book of ethics and they are creating hurdles and challenges for people of color that are seeking work opportunities.

 It’s unfortunate and it’s a shame for anyone to be in a position to make a hiring decision to disqualify someone based on the color of their skin, male vs. female, disabled or not, young or old. But you know what, it happens and it’s happening more than ever in this season. People that have a hiring authority are making their selections based off fear. Fear is one of many sins committed. I’m not sure why when Psalm 23:4 says “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” New American Standard Bible (NASB) 

It’s clear and it’s evident that there are not enough Christian men and women left in this world that operate in a place of love, peace and kindness. Though, you may have hit a rough patch in your life or in your career just know there’s a remedy for that and his name is, Jesus.

It says in Ephesians 3:20-21 “Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen” (English Standard Version, ESV).

Many people are not operating in their faith or even being led by the spirit but that’s where we, women and men of Christ come into play. 

I am a certified Human Resources professional of 16 years, with a Masters, Bachelor’s and Associate degree along with many other certifications and I have been in every one of those situations described above. Though, my name does not reflect it; I am a woman of color and I got into the field of Human Resources and Employment Consulting because of the underrepresentation of minority women. I speak from experience both good and bad, I’m an advocate for people no matter what their race, gender, age, veteran or disabled and wanted to share some insight into what many of you may or are currently facing in today’s job market not to discourage you but to encourage you. Please feel free to contact me via my link in Bio if you need guidance as it relates to employment consulting and seeking career opportunities or just need to know your rights as a potential job seeker. Be blessed and keep our Lord and Savior 1st place above all else. 

Bridget McCarthy, HRM, MBA, PHR  

 Bridget McCarthy currently resides in New Jersey. Bridget has 16 years of Human Resources experience including big box retailers, hospital systems and non-profit agencies. She holds a Master’s degree in Human Resources Management as well as a Bachelor and Associates degree. Bridget is PHR certified (Professional Human Resources) and a local, national member and affiliate of SHRM (Society of Human Resources Management) based in Virginia and IFEBPS (International Foundation on Employee Benefit Plans) a division of the Wharton School in Pennsylvania. 

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What Size Is Your Tank? Written by Tarsha Campbell: Spiritual Sunday’s 


I heard an interesting fact about a certain fish called the Oscar fish. This particular fish when placed in the right environment has the ability to reach its potential size of 16 inches. However, if placed in a limited environment, such as a small fish tank, this fish will never grow to reach its full potential. After hearing this interesting fact it made me wonder: How many people have lived, died, and never reached their full potential because their tank was too small?

Metaphorically speaking, your tank size can be a multitude of limiting factors that can keep you from reaching your full potential. These limiting factors can include:

Certain associations (the people you hang with, your connections)

• Mindsets (how you think)

• Education (skill set, your understanding)

• Your level of revelation

• Your level of influence

• Your comfort zones

Upon reading the list above I want to present two questions to you. What size is your tank? Will your current environments allow you to reach your full potential? It’s imperative that you face and answer these questions if you want to continue to grow and be all God has purposed you to be. It’s not always easy to leave behind the familiar, but I guarantee it will be worth it in the end.


Your Next Step Coaching For Success Minute:

Identify the tanks that are too small in your life.

• Why you have chosen to stay in these limiting environments? (fear, hate change, etc.)

• For each area of your life devise a strategy to move to a larger tank size.

• Make a conscious decision to grow and celebrate your growth.


© Tarsha L. Campbell, All Rights Reserved, Used with permission.



Tarsha L. Campbell is a dynamic, God-appointed Woman of Destiny! With this mandate she humbly serves as a licensed minister, entrepreneur, empowerment speaker, certified life coach, and business consultant. Tarsha is the author of five popular books: Help! I’ve Been Called By God: Easy Steps to Preparing and Delivering a Message, 5 Qualities of a Woman of Destiny, Woman in the Mirror: A Case of Mistaken Identity, Woman in the Mirror: Ungodly Soul Ties – Break Free to Break Through, 1001 Awesome Conference, Meeting & Event Themes. Tarsha is passionate about helping others find and fulfill their life purpose, and launch their dreams. Visit her website at: