I really didn’t know I was gonna to be writing a part 2 to this article! When I wrote the first one a couple weeks ago I thought that was it; I would move on and probably reference it in another article, but no! Here we go with an exclusive, lol.
When Prayer Turns Into Conversation
So this is how it went down I saw one of my Facebook friends was offering to pray for people and I’m like I want some prayer! Who gonna turn down free prayer y’all? So I sent my request and 1 of the things I asked to be lifted up in prayer is that I continue to be patient and wait on the husband that Our Heavenly Father has for me!
It Was Time to Let It Go
Why was that 1 prayer request on my mind all day? It didn’t hit me until that evening though; what if he had already sent him and he wasn’t what I wanted? Now the Bible does say that “he will give you the desires of your heart“! Right? (Psalm 37:4)
Well let’s look at this: you desire a husband? You desire a wife? When God brought together Adam and Eve he didn’t say nowhere in the Bible that Adam was 6′ tall, it didn’t say he had caramel skin and it didn’t say he looked like Denzel Washington?
Eve was created from Adam’s rib right (Genesis 2:22)? Does the Bible say that she had blonde hair? Red hair? Black hair? Was it curly and falling down her back? Was she wearing a wig or weave? Was she slim or curvy? Are you following me? Did she look like Halle Berry? Do you get my point?
We ask for and prayer for this man or woman (depending on who is reading this) and we get so specific we can very well be missing out on the one that Our Heavenly Father has for us! We want this perfect person and they don’t exist!
I’m going to share something that I haven’t shared in any of my books and have told very few people. Why? Because it’s time and it could very well help someone else! I have never been married but I have always had the strong desire to be a wife! I have been engaged before but that’s as far as it went 2 kids later. He wasn’t nowhere near husband material and I wasn’t going to be giving up the rest of my life to drama and abuse; no thank you!
But some years before that I had caught the eye of a guy that ended up asking me to marry him. We worked together for awhile and he always made it clear that he was interested in me; he was always a gentleman. Never once did he try to sleep with me! He didn’t care that I already had kids; he wanted to help me raise them! He made it known to everyone that I was his girl and he was my protector! Did I say he was the perfect gentleman! So why didn’t I marry him? I was young, confused and my walk with God wasn’t quite right; I knew of him but wasn’t saved at the time.
It’s Funny What We Didn’t Want Before; Is the Very Thing We Are Waiting For Now
This guy was saved, and made it clear that a life with him meant going to church, getting saved and living by the word! At the time I was still looking for what I thought I needed some 6’tall guy, built, sexy, good looking, from the streets kinda dude! The guy that wanted me to be his wife was short maybe 5’5, had a little extra weight on him, talked with a stutter and was a recovering addict. I wasn’t interested in none of that!
I will be perfectly honest with you I regret that decision so many years later. Back then my thinking was I’m still young; there are plenty more guys out there! I haven’t met anyone that treated me the way he did, cared about my kids, wanted to protect me, wanted to get me spiritually straight and didn’t want to rush and sleep with me!
Life Goes On; Even if Your Single Status Doesn’t Change
I had lots of growing up to do! I had to get my life right with my Heavenly Father; my kids were watching, how could I continue down the same road? Can you relate? Now that I am finally on the right track in my life; thank you Lord! What if there isn’t another? What if my chance to be a wife was gone? Do I let that destroy me and keep me from smiling and still living right? My answer is no; life goes on! Being single and filled with purpose has been real fulfilling for me. Having someone to share that with would be great; but if it doesn’t happen, I’m still gonna rock! There were so many strong sisters in the Bible that were cool being single; they didnt miss a beat! I can’t forget the guys though; they were also single, on point, strong and mighty! While single seems lonely; it’s all about how you handle it.
Side note: Guys: Adam wasn’t whole/complete until Eve came into his life! She was the missing piece to the puzzle! She was what he needed!
Side note: Ladies: You are the prize! Stop giving away yourself to these simple dudes; who have no desire to be your King!
- Who have you rejected because they didnt fit your perfect image?
- If Our Heavenly Father says no marriage for you; how will you respond?
- Are You Happily Single or Drowning in Loneliness?
- Is your relationship tight with Our Heavenly Father?
- Are you holding yourself back from being happy?
Check out my books and read about my journey: Single Mom You Aren’t Alone: Becoming a Single Woman of Purpose and The Single Woman Chronicles: God, Men & You. Both of these are available at http://www.amazon.com (Paperback and Kindle)
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