Why Are You Still Single? #SpiritualSundays

There are so many reasons and answers to this question to singles around the globe. You can be a veteran single or even a newbie; and whatever the reason or answer you give the person; it wouldn’t suffice!

One thing that people need to realize especially if you are a spiritual person first and foremost; is that it has to be the will of our Heavenly Father that you get married and stay married! That you are qualified ready; in body, mind, soul and spirit!

The meaning of qualified as it relates to this article: : having the necessary skill, experience, or knowledge to do a particular job or activity : having the qualifications to do something. (Merriam-Webster Dictionary, 2015)

Now many will say what in the world is she talking about? People get married every single day and it doesn’t matter if they are qualified ready or spiritual! And you know what I say to that look at all these failed marriages, the divorce rates and people killing off their spouse so they can be with the next person! They weren’t ready! Their mind, body, soul or spirit wasn’t ready for the blessing! Being tempted is a terrible thing that the weak can’t handle! Strong willed, strong minded and spiritually fit individuals can win this battle anytime; any place! But you have to be ready!

Let’s take a look of some of the reasons that many people; men and women aren’t ready to be married.

Reasons why you are still single: Don’t compromise or lower your standards! (Can apply to men and women) Good for you but bad for them.

1. They don’t respect you! Ephesians 5:3

2. They are afraid of heights! 

You know your purpose and are walking in it and it’s too much for them; they want all your time and attention.

3. They will dim your shine!

To keep you from advancing in life, your career etc they will be negative and speak negatively towards you and what your trying to accomplish.

4. They aren’t spiritually mature! Hebrews 5:13-14

5. They can’t give up self for us: Ephesians 5:31

Reasons why you are still single: Workable points

1. You aren’t ready (Men & Women): Ephesians 5:8-14

Many singles will verbalize that they are ready to settle down; but their actions tell a different story.

2. You haven’t done your work (Men & Women): 2 Corinthians 6:14

Your past can’t follow your future!

3. You don’t know how to be submissive (Women): Ephesians 5:22-24

So many of us don’t want a man to tell us nothing! Some of us don’t know how to be the Princess or Queen we are called to be! Yes we can be royalty but the Prince or King were created to lead.

4. You can’t let go (Men & Women): 1 Corinthians 11:1

Are you following in close proximity or lagging behind?

5.  You haven’t figured out your why (Men & Women): Jeremiah 29:11

We all were created for a purpose and have a mission to fulfill; what is yours? 

Adam wasn’t complete until Eve came along! Adam had purpose but he needed a help-meet to fulfill it! Our Heavenly Father knew what Adam needed in a woman and ‘he‘ made sure she was well put together! Eve was qualified ready! Many of us have to let go and allow Our Heavenly Father to do some reconstructive surgery, because of the journey we decided on before we knew him; it changed our inner and outer appearance and know our suitable mate can’t recognize us!

This is going to take some time and effort on our part and we have to be in it for the long haul. Pay no mind to the question seekers; find something positive that will keep you focused (like your purpose/mission). If you’re going to date; be upfront and honest with the individual. Many people say you shouldn’t mention marriage early on and I say why not? You are dating to become married right? Why go through the motions with someone only to learn months down the line; they have no intentions to get married to you or anyone? Not to say the first person you will date is going to be your spouse; but both parties have to be on the same page.

There are some of us singles that may choose not to date (me) we would actually like to do our work and (all those points that you read above) get on one accord with Our Heavenly Father and let the chips fall as they may. (It can be a choice and it could be that Our Heavenly Father has placed some of us in Solitary Confinement) Not anyone of us are perfect; but it’s not a secret that we are on different levels and on different journeys. We can’t compare or contrast ourselves as singles or individuals but we can encourage, empower, motivate and inspire others to do and be their best!

 Song by Troop (Spread My Wings) 


“The sky is calm

The stars are bright.

What’s better than to be in flight..

I’ll relax my mind

And be at ease….

And let this journey

Set me free

Set me free”


Single Women I wrote a book that gives more in depth feedback about getting to the place where you are ready; it is called The Single Woman Chronicles: God, Men & YouIt is available by clicking here and purchasing through PayPal http://www.paypal.me/tamaramccarthy/12 or by clicking here and purchasing through Amazon http://amzn.to/2ckRE0C


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Tamara is an Author, Writer, Motivator and Single Mom! She is earning her PHd in Christian Counseling; and has always had a passion to inspire and motivate young ladies and women and now it has become her purpose in life. She is also a Certified Life and Empowerment Coach.

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