A Mother’s Worst Nightmare. Spiritual Sunday’s 

“All things are full of labor; Man cannot express it. The eye is not satisfied with seeing, Nor the ear filled with hearing. That which has been is what will be,That which is done is what will be done, And there is nothing new under the sun”. Ecclesiastes 1:8-9 NKJV

I thought about putting pen to paper all week and I guess now; I have made the decision to go forth. I don’t believe in holding back your testimony it doesn’t help anyone if you keep quiet. I did want to make sure I had clarity on what I believe needed to be shared and be mindful of the message that would come forth; as well as respectful to the other parties. 

Please be advised: the standpoint of this testimony (message) is from the mouth of a single mom.

Being a single mom,when my kids began to get older; I would worry about their well being. But once I gave my life back to God I began to pray for their wellbeing. Even though I prayed it would always get me on high alert whenever they stepped out the door; especially with all the craziness going on in the world. Even though they weren’t criminals they could be assumed as one and be snatched from my presence at any giving moment; as a mom that is hard to handle on a daily basis.

Not only that; you have to wonder if the people they are around are good for them and not involving them in things they wouldn’t normally be a part of! People are always saying even when I came up as a kid “you have to allow them to make their own mistakes”; I never quite got that part of the conversation. 

You can be the best parent and have the best kids; but I’m here to tell you that doesn’t shield you from tragedy hitting close to home or stopping at your front door! I had to experience this first hand.

From the time my kids were small I have always instilled in them that family comes first! And this includes friends that come into our lives that become family; if they are my kids friends, they are my kids and part of our family! No matter what! If they hurt; we hurt! If they are going through; we are going through! If they are in need and we can fill that need; then it will be done!

“Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them”. – Deuteronomy 4:9 (NIV)

Saturday August 20, 2016 will be a day I will never forget; it’s the day I got the call I have always been fearful of. Even though I’m saved and my children are saved; this type of call as always been in the back of my mind! 

Our Heavenly Father is a protector, comforter, deliverer; (just to name a few) and I will always believe that! But I have to tell you I wasn’t ready for this call; it was from the Chaplian of one of the local hospitals and he wanted to talk about my son! The things that went through my mind in the matter of minutes; when I answered the call I was sitting but soon as I heard him say my son’s name I was on my feet and running!

I tried my best to sit and stand still while he told me my son and his best friend had been in a bad car accident; I believe I did my best to keep my composure and not start wailing on the phone. My son’s friend is the kind of friend I had been praying for to come into my son’s life! My prayers had been answered and I was happy that finally my son had this blessing from God! My son would light up whenever they were in each other’s presence; they would hang out whenever their schedules permitted and I didn’t have to worry because I knew and felt he was safe! As a mom that wanted the absolute best for her child I was very happy. His friend’s family had welcomed my son with open arms and treated him like their own; this also meant a lot because his father and his father’s family wanted nothing to do with my son. 

This call shattered all our lives; all those dreams, all the plans they had been making! After I hung up I wanted answers and I just couldn’t believe or understand why this was happening! I knew I couldn’t drive and I couldn’t go to the hospital on my own; I called my daughter to come get me and called my other son to meet us there. The whole car ride over so much went through my head; “were they okay, I knew what the Chaplian had told me but I believed in God and I knew he could perform miracles, but it had to be his will not mine.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him”. – 1 John 3:1 (NIV)

The reality came to be that my son’s friend wouldn’t make; my son was alive but fractured bones in his skull, neck and hand would have to be part of his continued journey in this life. His friend that had become more like a brother was gone! That’s something we all will have to help him face and that’s a challenge that will make us all stronger and appreciate each other more than ever! 

While my kids and I have always been a tight bunch; this has brought us much closer and stronger as a unite! I got to see my kids show up and show out for their brother; forgetting about themselves and their needs and putting his first. I thank my Heavenly Father almost everyday for allowing me to be their mom; they will hit those nerves sometimes but it’s times like this that outweigh any of that. 

This was one of the most hardest articles for me to write as a mother, woman and child of our Heavenly Father but he has a plan, a purpose and a blessing tied in here for someone else and who am I to stand in the way of that. 

It is my prayer that whomever reads this will find and grab hold of whatever it is that he needs you too and that you share it with someone else; don’t block anyone else’s blessing or breakthrough.

Points to Remember: Takeaways

1. There is Purpose in your Pain

On the day of the funeral my son’s friend dad got up to speak about his son and in between tears; these are the words that were downloaded into my spirit: there is purpose in your pain!

When something of this magnitude happens; yes you will be in pain but there is God given purpose, written all over it. We must pray for clarity and go forth.

2. Turn Tragedy into Blessings

Share your story! Your testimony can bless someone else. You can get them unstuck; everyone doesn’t have the same strength levels; they may need to see and hear how you handled it and make it through.

Until next time, 

Tamara McCarthy 

aka: Single Mom of Purpose