Just a little Bible to set the tone
“He replied, Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, Move from here to there, and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20 (NIV)
Are you a Gardener?
Are gardeners the only ones that are planting seeds; and nurturing them through the process, to bloom into their intended purpose? Seeds are used to produce much of what you see and eat; like apples, oranges, tomatoes, grapes, roses, orchids and ferns; just to name a few. When you plant seeds you are expecting something great and amazing to come from something so small. Who would think that all the beauty you see when you walk through town; such as trees, bushes, plants and flowers came from something that you could literally hold in the palm of your hand?
How is your speech?
What if I told you that the words that you speak can also be seeds that are planted in someone’s mind and their heart? Would you believe me? Would it make you think twice before you allowed yourself to say something negative and life-changing to your child, spouse, parent, co-worker or even a total stranger? “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21 (NKJV)
Children are like sponges they absorb everything that they see and hear and I believe that would still apply to adults; since we were once children. So if you say something awful to a child or an adult that is negative it will not only hurt them, they will carry that around in there mind on a daily basis and it can be life altering.
So ask yourself these questions to see what kind of seeds you are planting:
- Are you planting seeds of love or hate?
- Are you planting seeds of anger or compassion?
- Are you planting seeds of hope or failure?
- Are you planting seeds of deliverance or acceptance?
- Are you planting seeds of prosperity or poverty?
Your words have power! They can be an inspiration to someone or they can be life shattering; how would you choose to speak to those that you encounter now that you know the difference?
Single Mom: Are You Ready?
As a woman you will always have the desire to date; but as a single mom it can sometimes be a challenge. How will your kids react? Will the guys that you seek or seek you be okay with you having kids? Most importantly you want to ask yourself the question; Single Mom are you ready to date? The answer will be different for each woman that chooses to answer the question due to their personal beliefs and choices. For me making the decision back in 2009 to give my life back to God; I had to figure out what that meant and what changes I had to make, I couldn’t do that and be in the dating world.
When you are single without children you don’t have little eyes and ears to worry about; but there are many single women that also take an hiatus from the world of dating because the pot isn’t always full with potential candidates to be honest. Many women like a variety to choose from, and even though I have been on the sidelines for sometime; I still have eyes and ears and the streets be talking! If you are a young woman with morals and standards most of the time that isn’t going to get you anywhere.
Who Are You?
When you don’t know who you are and what you want that will get you exactly that; a guy that doesn’t know what he wants and has no idea who he is! He isn’t going to tell you the truth because he doesn’t know the truth; he is simply having fun and that means sleeping with whomever will give him the time of day! But when you take the time to sit down and think about what you want and figure out who you are; then these types of guys can no longer get any ear time and no play time because they are no longer an option.
So if you are a Single Mom these are the questions you need to ask yourself:
- Am I ready to date?
- Are my kids ready for me to date?
- Do I know who I am?
- Do I know what I want?
- Am I willing to lower my standards to be in a Relationship?
- Do I have any standards?
After answering these questions I hope that you have found the answer to the question posed “Single Mom Are You Ready to Date?”; many of us just jump out there without a plan of action. From what I hear the dating world isn’t what it used to be; you have to come ready and that means knowing who you are and what you want!
Hi there Single Mom, let me be the first to tell you that you aren’t alone; there are many single moms that have been and still in your shoes. When you are going through life and trying to do all that you can; it really does feel like you have no help in sight.
Where is the support system? Where is that village to help raise the kids? Chapter 5 (Is It Really That Difficult) in my book Single Mom You Aren’t Alone; I wrote about how society would answer the 2 questions above. It’s funny how people who have no say-so in your life have all the answers and want to give you their 2 cents! I can appreciate others who have experienced the same/similar journey and give me some insight that will help me in this life as a single mom but when people want to tear you down; where is the fun in that? Help me to get better; not insult me and think that’s going to help.
In Chapter 6 (Be Your Best Self) I speak about my journey, like when I had to remind myself to take care of me; so I can properly take care of my kids. If I get sick, who would care for them? We get so caught up in caring for and taking care of our kids we sometimes neglect ourselves and that can’t be the case; single mom take care of yourself, keep you healthy and then you can be there to properly care for your kids. Don’t let negativity have control or even a place in your life! I combat that with lots of positive self talk,affirmations and reading the bible; you put in positive and the outcome will be positive!
Single mom if no one else will say it! I will; you are awesome! You are appreciated! You are the best mom you can be and you will only get better! Believe it! Receive it ! And walk in it.
Your friend and Single Mom of Purpose